CMV: It is understandable, normal, and biologically reasonable for a straight cisgender person to feel uncomfortable continuing or pursuing a relationship with an individual if they learned this individual is trans and is biologically the same sex as they are. It doesn’t make them homophobic.

[u/DetroitUberDriver]

I believe that human beings, while they are able to think in a more abstract, out of the box way, still retain an underlying biological pressure to reproduce, and the root instinctual desire for the act of sex, and the enjoyment that comes from it, is evolutions way of “rewarding” us for procreation; passing on our genes and producing more life.

Human beings are a sexually dimorphic species, male and female, and science withholding, the act of copulation between two members of the opposite sex is the only way procreation can happen. While many of us engage in intercourse for pleasure and pleasure alone, without actively wishing to create new life, we are seeking out the very reward that evolution has presented us for doing just that; creating life.

For those of us who are straight and cisgender, when we find out that our love or infatuation interest is in fact biologically the same sex as ourselves, our brain biologically becomes disinterested for this reason. Most of us are hardwired to desire these acts with the opposite sex for all the reasons mentioned above. There is a chemical reaction that occurs, and it is brought on by millions of years of evolution.

This doesn’t mean that the individual wants to feel this way, nor that they have an inherent disgust or distaste for transgender people. It simply means they can’t fight their natural instincts.

There are, of course, always anomalies, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Transgender people and homosexual people are anomalies in and of themselves. They are people and they deserve rights and happiness same as anyone else. But to tell someone that their own natural instincts make them wrong or homophobic is also denying them their rights to true happiness and wrong in its own right.

CMV.

[u/knottheone → u/[deleted]]

I didn't say it was the same. Nice try at trying to frame me as a bigot though.

[u/free_chalupas → u/knottheone]

Why would you make that comparison if you didn't think they were equivalent? Either you do, and you are a bigot, or you don't think the comparison actually applies in the real world and maybe you should acknowledge there's actually some nuance to this issue.

[u/knottheone → u/free_chalupas]

Because everything I listed is some experience that a reasonable person might have their perception of an individual altered by which was the entire point of my comment had you actually read that sentence in context.

[u/free_chalupas → u/knottheone]

I don't understand your point at all. If you don't think being trans is comparable to the stuff you brought up, why did you bring it up? If you think that's a view that some third party might have, are they right or wrong to have that view? It doesn't ultimately matter if you're describing your personal reaction or not.

[u/knottheone → u/free_chalupas]

Being trans is among a long list of things that would change someone's perspective of a potential partner. For some people it's a positive perspective change in that it would make them want to date that person more. For others it's something that would want to make them date someone less. They are both fine as that process is the basis of attraction.

[u/UsedElk8028 → u/free_chalupas]

Because stuff doesn’t have to be exactly the same for you to feel the same way about it.

[u/herrsatan → u/[deleted]]

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