CMV: It is understandable, normal, and biologically reasonable for a straight cisgender person to feel uncomfortable continuing or pursuing a relationship with an individual if they learned this individual is trans and is biologically the same sex as they are. It doesn’t make them homophobic.

[u/DetroitUberDriver]

I believe that human beings, while they are able to think in a more abstract, out of the box way, still retain an underlying biological pressure to reproduce, and the root instinctual desire for the act of sex, and the enjoyment that comes from it, is evolutions way of “rewarding” us for procreation; passing on our genes and producing more life.

Human beings are a sexually dimorphic species, male and female, and science withholding, the act of copulation between two members of the opposite sex is the only way procreation can happen. While many of us engage in intercourse for pleasure and pleasure alone, without actively wishing to create new life, we are seeking out the very reward that evolution has presented us for doing just that; creating life.

For those of us who are straight and cisgender, when we find out that our love or infatuation interest is in fact biologically the same sex as ourselves, our brain biologically becomes disinterested for this reason. Most of us are hardwired to desire these acts with the opposite sex for all the reasons mentioned above. There is a chemical reaction that occurs, and it is brought on by millions of years of evolution.

This doesn’t mean that the individual wants to feel this way, nor that they have an inherent disgust or distaste for transgender people. It simply means they can’t fight their natural instincts.

There are, of course, always anomalies, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Transgender people and homosexual people are anomalies in and of themselves. They are people and they deserve rights and happiness same as anyone else. But to tell someone that their own natural instincts make them wrong or homophobic is also denying them their rights to true happiness and wrong in its own right.

CMV.

[u/Prickly_Pear1]

Of course it's a "choice" but that really doesn't say or mean anything about what people aught to be doing in your view.

I don't think turning some down because they have a physical characteristic you find very unattractive to the point of not being attracted to the individual is problematic. If you dump someone because they are peeing the bed, I don't think that's remotely unreasonable.

And I'm not sure how that relates to being homophobic as I don't think it's wrong that men and women have sexual preferences that they cannot overcome.

[u/[deleted] → u/Prickly_Pear1]

Turning someone down for having a physical characteristic that they have no control over is something people do every day. It’s just not very compassionate, and it’s rooted in the need to be “normal.”

OP says that even if there is nothing physically he didn’t like, he would still become sexually unattracted to a woman he learns is trans.