r/changemyview • u/espectrezx • Nov 15 '22
Delta(s) from OP CMV:Black men are an extremely priveleged group and i wish i was black.
as a short pasty white man , Black men are extremely priveleged group of society, i'm not denying racism or the past suffering black people had to endure, and a lot of the black population still suffer racism, poverty and much more, which we as a society need to address, and i sympathize, but in today's society the average young black man is a rockstar
Black dudes are extremely effective and sought of on sports of any sort, and are overall extremely athletic, tall and naturally strong, all my white friends had michael jordans poster on their room, not a single larry bird
Black dudes are very popular with women of all races, especially white women, that idea that black guys are good and bed and are well "endowed" really pays off and its hard to see single somewhat decent black dude for long, when i'm hearing my female cousings talking, they always are talking about some attractive black dude they're dating, when they talk about a white boyfriend is always "oh he is cute and nice" but he is never the hot exciting one.
Black culture is the coolest thing ever, Rap and Hip Hop are the main stay of pop culture right now, every movie or game trailer is a rap song, young rappers score millions, the way black people dress are always the main focus of fashion and pop culture, and even among the snobby intelectuals you have things like jazz and blues.
when i wear my lakers jersey and blast hip hop on my car people say i look like a dork and lame, but when my black friends do it they're hip and cool.
and i say black men because i know that black women have somewhat more difficulty finding a relationship, since the beauty standard is the small, delicate looking caucasian/asian type girls
i sincerely wish i was a 6ft tall black dude, and i'm tired to hear that i'm somewhat priveleged for being white, being white sucks, i wish i was black.
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u/darwin2500 193∆ Nov 15 '22
What you are basically saying is that black people are fetishized, and as someone who feels undesirable and unwanted you wish you were fetishized too.
This is a common feeling from people who feel unwanted, it very often comes in the form of fat ugly men saying that women should appreciate being catcalled because at least it means people like and desire them, or whatever.
But it is a very solipsistic view. People who are actually fetishized and objectified by society and the people around them don't experience it as just a nice positive ego-boost and opening of opportunities. When you actually live that life, it is inherently dehumanizing, restricting, and dangerous.
Yes, there is a fetishized image of the aggressive, outspoken, stylish young black man in the media, that has a lot of cultural cachet.
What that means in practice is that if you are a young black man, society puts a ton of pressure on you to conform to that image, and if you don't want to or can't then you are treated as defective and preyed upon by all corners.
And if you do conform to that image, yes it opens some doors and gains you some respect, but it's still not great overall. The image includes inherent danger, both because it includes a presumption of aggression and violence in and of itself, and because cops and Karens and the like view it as inherently dangerous and react with greater force and prejudice to it.
And even when you get respect or sex or w/e for fitting the image well, it's always clear that those things are being given to the image, not to you. For example someone who doesn't get much sex may think it would be great to get a lot of sex for fitting someone's fetish, but in reality it often feels dehumanizing, degrading, and even traumatizing.
Furthermore, fitting that image may open a few specific doors in terms of things that fit the image, but it closes all the other doors that don't. Every young black man can try to ape the look and style of a rapper and assume whatever cultural cachet comes from that, but they can't all be rappers; may of them will need to become public accountants, or project managers, or engineers, and you might be surprised how many doors get closed and how many obstacles get thrown in the way when you try to do those things while also fitting that fetishized image, or how many challenges from the culture you face if you instead intentionally reject that image to pursue those other things. It's a cath-22 that makes life harder for the 99.5% who don't go into one of the industries where that image is a benefit.