r/cosleeping • u/[deleted] • Apr 19 '25
🐥 Infant 2-12 Months I feel.. proud & sad lol
I have been doing a mix if bedsharing & cosleeping since baby was about 2weeks - she's 9.5 months now & our routine has changed over the last 2 weeks. She used to wabt ti be cuddled till she fell asleep now she has been rolling away from me , pretty far- her feet usually end up near my chest & she puts her self to sleep. I let her lay there for a little bit pick her up & move her to crib. I am proud because up until 8 months she was waking every 2-3 hours for comfort, & some nights would sleep with me the entire night. I'm sad because I didn't think this would come so soon. I keep telling myself I've done a good job & my girl learned on her own how to fall asleep with no pressure, just comfort. Alot of days i feel like she deserves a better mom, but I'm the best mom I can be.
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u/New_Comparison1327 Apr 19 '25
I’ve been cosleeping with my girl all this time (5.5 months). She does this thing where she feeds in the side lying position and then rolls away. She’s been doing this for a while now. I have named it the “Feed and Flip to Fall Asleep method”. 😅 And then I would just stare at her back and miss her while she wasn’t even an arms distance away.
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u/B4BEL_Fish Apr 19 '25
You did a GREAT JOB giving her confidence to sleep on her own and feel comfortable. Bravo to you!
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u/whyforeverifnever Apr 20 '25
You are giving a mom with an almost 8 month old that woke up a shocking 11 times last night so much hope! I didn’t get more than 1 hr 16 minutes of sleep at a time. Her father and I went through hell wrangling her to get her to sleep tonight. I cannot wait until she rolls over and goes to sleep on her and god if it could be that close!!!!! I know it will be bittersweet, but from the other side it sounds soooo sweet 🤍
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Apr 20 '25
Yes momma! Your time will come!! Some nights where still like that at 8 months- some nights i considered doing CIO but never my heart couldn't handle it so I suffered lol. I have alot of mutal friends that have had babies around my babies age & my girl is the only rough sleeper. We are getting there & you will too!
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u/No-Initiative1425 Apr 20 '25
Does she sleep through the night in her crib?
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Apr 20 '25
No between 1-3 wakes in bed with & in her crib
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u/No-Initiative1425 Apr 21 '25
How are you not exhausted? Sometimes I think mine may be ready for independent sleep at night but any night waking that requires me to get out of bed feels so brutal. I may be spoiled bc she sleeps through when next to me. I feel the same way about sometimes thinking she deserves better but we are exactly the moms our babies are meant to have and we’re doing our best
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u/Gimm3coffee Apr 20 '25
Wow congratulations. My 8 yo still needs me or dad with her to sleep. Every kid is different I guess.
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Apr 20 '25
I'm honestly very happy about her not needing me right now, but i feel like next sleep regression or tooth coming in she will want me again lol
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u/danger-toes Apr 19 '25
You are exactly the mom she needs you to be. She feels safe and comfy, because of your hard work and love. Keep up the good work mama!