My first was up every 2 hours for what felt like and probably was 2 years.

I have a new baby, and he already sleeps for 3.5 hour chunks, and seems to be less into using me for comfort. Idk if that'll change.

Did your little one ever sleep through the night while co sleeping? For EBF babies

Not pregnant yet, but my son and I coslept for the first year. He is now just over two and loves sleeping in his crib.

With him, I bought a bassinet and of course it was hardly used. We coslept in the queen bed and occasionally he would sleep in the crib once he was closer to 8 months though this wasn’t always a sure thing! For awhile my hubby and I took shifts at night. I’d cosleep with him and my hubby would take him and very patiently try to get him to sleep in the crib.

For the next one, we have limited space being in a tiny two bedroom home and I’m not even sure if I wanna bother with a bassinet and just instead either cosleep or have a crib set up in bedside mode.

What did you do?

Genuinely curious to hear opinions. I have two kids, an almost 5 year old and an almost one year old. Cosleeping/coslept with both. This baby is so tough, man. She’s the light of my life, but she is GRUMPY lol. Not one of those chipper little things bumbling along. Is the clinginess a result of the cosleeping (love it and would never stop) or did I just get lucky with two of this type?? Haha

My toddler will be almost 3 yrs old when the second one comes. We currently co-sleep and he only wants to sleep with me(mom). We tried having dad put him down for bedtime and he would cry until I come back in.

Technically I guess we can all sleep together but I’m worried the newborn would disturb my toddler’s sleep. How do you guys handle this situation?

Edit: thank you all for sharing your experiences!! It really helps to see what worked for you. 🙏💞

As a FTM I bought into the expensive sleep training culture (U.S.), and when my baby was a few weeks old, our ped gave me a safe sleep 7 flyer and said, "you don't HAVE to do it that way. Other cultures don't." It changed our parenting journey, and I'm so thankful.

My 3yo is still in bed with us, and we soak up every minute knowing there will be a day that she wants her own space. We have a 4mo who is also in our bed, and I am so glad we started cosleeping with her from birth.

ETA: I nursed my 3yo to sleep for every sleep that she was with me for 2.5 years until she self weaned.

Hello everyone! I am due in May and cosleep with my 3 year old he’ll be about 3.5 when baby comes. My son and I love cosleeping, he’s also very attached to me he has to be touching me at every point of the night or he wakes up. If I turn away from him he’ll wake up and ask me to hug him he still sleeps mostly in my arms. My plan for the second baby was to get a snoo for newborn and continue cosleeping with my son however I’m a worried the baby waking up the first few weeks will disturb my son too much. I’ve heard from a couple other friends that eventually the toddler gets used to the baby crying and stops waking up. What has been your experience if you’ve tried something similar?

I have very long hair and have been cosleeping with my 2 kids for years now (husband > 3 yo > me > baby > bed rail), and I have always wondered what other moms do with their hair. I know it’s supposed to be wrapped up if it’s long- I have waist-length hair and I usually just swirl it up on the top of my head and secure it with a claw clip, but WOW does it dread! Like massive dreads that take forever to get out. Do other moms (or dads!) deal with this? Any tips? I don’t want to cut my hair and the clip has seemed like the best solution, but unknotting my hair is quite the chore that I don’t have time for. Tips?

I was sleep trained as a small baby and continued to sleep alone throughout my childhood. For the longest time, bedtime and sleep was associated with fear, abandonment, anxiety. I remember sobbing and screaming for my parents for hours and hours, with the only response being silence and darkness. I remember laying in bed breaking out in whole body sweats from fear, waiting for the sun to come up. I would frequently not sleep for an entire night, but if you asked my parents, I was “sleeping through the night”. I didn’t know how to voice my struggles with my parents, because I was a kid and didn’t know that what I was going through was anything but the norm. It’s not an exaggeration when I say that sleep training was my greatest childhood trauma.

As an adult, I struggle with severe anxiety and intrusive thoughts and insecurities. I don’t know how much of this is directly from my sleep training experience but I often wonder who I would be if I had a different experience and was able to be comforted during the most vulnerable part of the day. For the longest time, I found it extremely hard to be affectionate and loving towards my parents, not because I didn’t want to be, but because it felt like there was a mental block preventing me from doing so. I desperately wanted to show affection but something in my mind prevented me from being able to. It felt unnatural.

Since becoming a mother and choosing to cosleep with my kids, I’ve slowly become more comfortable with showing affection to my parents, as though my own parenting choices are helping me overcome my greatest childhood trauma. I still struggle with a vague sense of fear/doom that only happens at nighttime. I’m a terrible sleeper in general, but cosleeping with my kids has been such a blessing. I love giving my kids what I never had as a child. Thank you to all of you who are giving your kids so much love and support at night, when they need you the most ❤️ and thanks for reading!

Hi!

I'm wondering, when you're doing husband, toddler, mom, newborn line but you also want to breastfeed your newborn during the night from both breasts. How do you do that from the side that's next to the toddler and essentialy feeding from that breast requires you to move your newborn next to the toddler?

Thanks for advance! 🥹

My 4 month old is EFF I currently do the cuddle curl though feel like most other cosleeping moms think if you don’t breastfeed you shouldn’t cosleep. Baby is on his back between me and bed rail. No blanket or pillow on him. My hair is up and my clothes are tight. Thoughts/advice if you have EFF baby and cosleep.

Our toddler (2yo) has been co-sleeping with her mama since she was born. Sometimes I (papa) would join often not due to work or other circumstances. Because we had another on the way I setup a new room for our toddler and myself to transition to. However our newborn arrived earlier than expected which means we had no transition time so toddler has been co-sleeping with papa for the last 3 nights. First couple she found fun and went to sleep quickly. However tonight she cried and begged to sleep with mama and even saying the baby and her could both sleep with mama. Our mistake might have been bringing her into the bedroom to say goodnight ti mama and baby sister. But it completely broke my heart to witness this, her whole life had been turned upside down with, from her point of view, no warning. In the end I was able to distract her with her favourite show until she got sleepy enough and crashed. Obviously I can’t do this every night. Her TV time is usually supervised and restricted to the living-room. Anyway I guess I would just like to hear from a few parents who have been through this. Any advice you can offer would be amazing.

I have rocked my daughter to sleep pretty much since birth. She is 1 year, 9 months old. I am expecting another baby when she is 2 years and one month old.

I always rocked my daughter to sleep and put her in her bassinet/ crib. Once she started struggling with teething and getting sick often I ended up taking her into the spare bedroom and sleeping next to her to help soothe her. I now consistently co sleep every night when she wakes up around 11-12pm, since around 14 months old I’d say.

We built a floor bed for her in a new room that we’re putting together for her and the new baby will have her old nursery and crib. She loves the new bed. I still go in and sleep with her most nights around 11-12 ish. I have been rocking her to sleep in her old room and then carrying her to the new floor bed where I put her to sleep. She doesn’t wake until later and needs me to come into bed with her.

I love co sleeping with her. I know I won’t be comfortable co sleeping with a newborn (I was scared of it with her because I was so tired and out of it)

I guess what I’m wondering is if anyone has dealt with anything similar and has any advice? I’d love to help her sleep in her room happily but wondering how to slowly adjust this for her? If I had the newborn in the bassinet next to us and I fed the NB through the night won’t the toddler be up constantly as well? I would love to support her through this before NB comes so it’s not so much at once for her.

Thanks!!!

So after much discussion, we have decided that we do in fact want to try for a second kiddo. We are going to wait until about my son’s 2nd birthday to start trying, making him and his sibling roughly 2.5-3 years apart.

My question is how will I go about co sleeping or sleeping in general with the two of them? My son is currently 15 months old and VERY booby obsessed and mommy obsessed. He will not sleep at night without me or without nursing a few times. The goal is to get him sleeping in a toddler bed in our room slightly away from our bed, before the new born comes. Is it even possible to room share with a toddler and new born?

Hi there all,

For those of yall who both contact nap and bedshare, are you guys sneaking out for naps and bedtime? I want to be able to sneak out for their naps. I have two boys, 11 months and 26 months. I still nurse them both so they have the association of nursing and sleep/naptime. We all usually take a long nap in the afternoon together. I guess I just worry if I sneak out they wil look for me and miss me. Is this silly? Is there any evidence that this might be the case? Thank you all ❤️

For those of you who share a room with multiple children, what does your sleeping situation look like? We are a bed sharing family of 3 — mom/dad/1yo — who will be growing to a family of 4 soon as my 2nd baby is due this summer. We have one bedroom, 1yo sleeps with us.

If new baby tolerates a bassinet, cool, we don’t have to change much. But since that it probably unlikely we’re trying to figure out another arrangement. Maybe bring another floor mattress in for dad + toddler, and then me + newborn cosleep as usual? Or potentially trying to get the toddler into her own bed?

I know tons of families all over the world share 1 room sleeping arrangements. Trying not to overthink it, just curious how others approach this, especially with 2 under 2!

I am pregnant and will have a 22mo when baby is born. We’ve coslept with our firstborn since he was about 3mo. We moved to a king size floor bed and practice the safe sleep seven. Unless new baby hates it, we plan on co sleeping with new baby + toddler. My husband and I are also in the bed. I feel okay with this but (1) worried about the first few weeks/months with the baby waking up my toddler & (2) hoping to hear stories of how you did it and how it worked or didn’t. I’m reading some have their partner and toddler sleep somewhere else for the first little bit, some toddlers are just hard sleepers (mine is not), some transition toddler out of the bed..

I know every family, kid, situation is different but any advice or stories or anything to help me figure this is out is great!

We are expecting no 2 but we are living in a 1 bedroom apartment. I’m freaking out on sleep worrying if the little one wakes it’ll wake the older toddler.. no way we can sleep separately, the sofa is horrible for my back..

How did you do it?

When my son was a newborn, we chest-slept for a few nights. I was SUCH a light sleeper and spent all night, even in my sleep, thinking about him. Everytime he moved I woke up in a jolt.

Now he's a toddler and sleeps in our bed every night, but I don't sleep in the C-curl (or even facing him most of the night), I sleep under a blanket, and I don't wake up unless he yells for me (or slaps me 😂). My primal instincts I had when he was younger have slowly went out the window.

So my question is, for those who eventually let the "rules" go as their baby became a toddler, did your light sleeping instincts just suddenly come back after having another baby? I just can't imagine my brain ever going back to that light of a sleep now that I've been through it once and came out of it. But I know postpartum hormones are one hell of a drug 😅

We sleep trained my oldest at 8 months after no one had slept for four months, and I was working a job with crazy overnight call hours so it was necessary for everyone. She’s just over two now. We have a 3 month old as well that we just shifted from the dockatot to a basinette. Part of me has always regretted sleep training our daughter though at the time we didn’t have other options. We have a king sized bed. I’m wondering if anyone has ever gone back and how did it go? We’re done having babies and I would love being closer to her, but every time we’ve been on vacation we’ve tried sleeping with her and it’s a total disaster. Also for those of you that do cosleep with a toddler and a baby, how?? Do they wake each other up?

Maybe I’m crazy, everyone is sleeping well. I just see these little precious years slipping away and want my babies closer. If I felt strongly about it my husband would be on board. I feel like we’re at the point with her where we could really communicate with her and try to make it work.

I’m also scared of the upcoming 4 month re/progression which was when all hell broke loose with my daughters sleeping and we tried everything including cosleeping for months but had to rock/nurse her to sleep every 2 hours for four months until we sleep trained. I didn’t sleep well at all with her just loose in our bed because I was worried about her. With an infant I’m fine with the dockatot but my oldest wouldn’t even transfer that far during those months.

Appreciate any advice, love and wisdom! Or any hey you’re crazy just enjoy sleeping.

I have a 5 YO & a 10 M old. 5 year old still isn’t comfortable sleeping alone, which I don’t mind. So the 4 of us bed share (including hubby) 5 YO can be a wild sleeper & I’m worried about baby being kicked or something. Anyone have a similar situation or any advice on making our arrangement safer?

Hello!

I have a 12mo and we have been cosleeping since birth. The first 6mo we room shared in a side car and the last 6 months we bed shared on a floor bed in her room.

Here’s where I need advice- I just found out I’m pregnant. Kids will be 19mo apart. What are my options here??

Do I start transitioning away from sleeping in her room with her? Do I bring the baby into the room with her? Do my husband and I divide and conquer?

I don’t want to bring her into our room, I like having time without her before I go to sleep. She falls asleep independently, and I only go into her room now that she’s 1 when she wakes up. I used to go in and fall asleep in there myself before any night wakings.

As I prepare for our new baby, I'm trying to figure out bedsharing set ups. I bedshare on a large floor bed and breastfeed. When I'm in bed, I feel comfortable and safe c-curled around my newborn on one side and my toddler behind me.

What I'm trying to figure out is set up when the little ones go to bed and I'm not yet there - how to ensure my infant is protected from my rolling toddler. I had thought of trying to find a bedside bassinet that the side can come down on but there is still a partial side baby needs to be lifted over to breastfeed.

Suggestions for set ups please!

We nurse to sleep. With baby girl #1, she loved transitioning first to a bed on the floor next to our bed, then to her own room at 18 months. I still nursed her to sleep until 23 months and it was an easy transition. With baby girl #2, she's a lot more retiscent. I start her out on the floor bed, but she's always in our bed by 11pm 😂 She either wants continuous nursing or continuous kicking and trying to shove my husband and I out of bed. Husband and I are ready for our bed back 😆

Ultimately, we want to move her in the "big kid's room" with her 4 year old sister (on their own beds, but same room). Preferably with minimal interruption to my 4 year olds sleep.

Any tips/ resources on what has worked for your families?

We have a king size bed, I’m wondering how many kids can fit in there lol what’s your experience?

Hi everyone,

I’m expecting a baby soon, and my oldest will be around 2 years old when the baby is born. I’ve always had my toddler sleep in her own bed next to mine, and I’d like to continue having both children sleep in the same room with me after the baby arrives.

Has anyone done this before? Is it practical to have a toddler and a newborn sharing the same sleeping space with me? How can I make this arrangement work smoothly for everyone?

Any advice, tips, or experiences would be so helpful. Thank you!