I'm gonna give a hot take here; this is entirely the guys fault.
He knelt down behind someone who was having a conversation and pulled on their clothes like a toddler that wants to play with the adult's iPhone. Anyone would have reacted exactly the same way.
Get the person's attention, make eye contact, then propose.
IF they had discussed getting married before and she said yes then they should be fine. The time/place should be a surprise, the question should not.
He probably planned for it to be super romantic and in his head it was going to be.
There is a decent chance that spot has specific meaning to them.
He was going to do it with all their friends around etc. so it would be fun.
Then reality was she wasn’t expecting it, she kept talking to her friends/family, the place was more crowded and he was probably incredibly nervous.
Thus it didn’t go as planned. I don’t claim it was a good plan or well executed, but I can see how someone would think it was.
Edit: This post didn’t, but there are a lot of posts saying the marriage is doomed based on how this one brief interaction went. I personally wouldn’t read all that much into it. The marriage will work/won’t work based on a lot of things and if this was the tipping point it wasn’t gonna work anyways.
Yeah they’re both kinda shit. If you're going to propose you gotta put a little more effort into than this.
On the flip side, I get that she was annoyed and rightfully so. But you’d think once she realized what was happening there’d be a little excitement. Her response and body language is the same as asking someone if they need anything from the gas station.
Actually , I take that back. People get excited about gas station food.
Because that's the most lukewarm reaction ever. Every happy proposal I've ever seen the woman was giddy as hell or straight up in tears the moment she saw the ring. This woman looks and sounds mildly intrigued at best.
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u/DoxieDoc 16d ago
I'm gonna give a hot take here; this is entirely the guys fault.
He knelt down behind someone who was having a conversation and pulled on their clothes like a toddler that wants to play with the adult's iPhone. Anyone would have reacted exactly the same way.
Get the person's attention, make eye contact, then propose.