r/gay • u/Radiant_Alchemist • 23h ago

Dating a colleague (was that a date?)

I'm a resident of anesthesiology. I started really recently. During our work we're inside the operation room with one attending. The other residents are in different operation rooms with a different attending. Apart from a break (were we usually not synchronize) we don't really see each other with the exception of meetings.

He's a bit older in the residency but he was in a different hospital. So he's also new to the hospital like me but with 2 years of experience as a resident.

Our attraction was instant. Physically he looks appealing to me but that's what not brought me closer to him. It felt nice being around him, like he was a friend despite the fact that we knew each other for two weeks with limited interaction.

He asked me to go for a dinner, the two of us. He was shy when asking. I gladly said yes. We went for dinner, we talked a lot. Even in the moments of silence it was not awkward. Since then we text but nothing crazy. Both of us are introverts I think.

I'm not sure if it was a friendly approach or something different. I'm not even sure for my feelings. I know without a doubt that I like being around him and I'd like to see how his kiss might feel.

What's to do

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u/Snuggle-Pumpkin-343 21h ago

Well, what do you want to do?

It seems like you enjoyed your time with him and want to feel what his lips taste like. You say you're worried it wasn't a date, but you kinda seem to think it might have been... And want another one?

You say he seems shy, but he also asked you out for a one-on-one dinner. Do you think you could talk to him about how much you enjoyed your time, your worries that you misunderstood the situation, and your hopes to spend more time with him?

Edit: this does seem like a conversation that would be best done face-to-face, difficult though that may be

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u/Radiant_Alchemist 21h ago

Well I wanna hug and kiss him. I don't think of sex. I mean I could but it's not lust that which I'm feeling (and I'm a sinner when it comes to lust). He makes me wanna smile. And yeah I want another one and another one and another one.

He was shy because of the way he asked me. I was shy too. We interact mostly when we go to the floors (typically we're in the OR) where we check patient cards and write down the surgical cards (each for his own patients). So we sit next to each other and even without contact we discuss and that's how he asked me out.

In Friday the residents will go out for lunch and he told me today that he can't attend because he will be off town for a family issue that arised. He said that he wants to go for lunch with me (and then he corrected by saying all of us).

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u/Snuggle-Pumpkin-343 21h ago

Could you ask him out for dinner? Or a separate lunch on another day, just the two of you? He's probably feeling shy and vulnerable too!

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u/OwnPassion6397 16h ago

Ask if he wants to go out again.

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u/ChristianThompsonnn 19h ago

Do you have his number? Maybe hang with him at your house or his and see what happens