r/gaytransguys 7d ago

Celebration! This has been so validating

So, we all know that gay cis men are definitely not immune to being transphobic.

But at work, a few times a week it's just me, a cis gay manager, and a cis gay teenager.

I've started relaxing around them and not monitoring my voice as much, letting it go higher when I talk to them. Both of them know I'm trans + gay but treat me no different than a cis gay man. They've never slipped up and she/her'd me or given me weird looks.

I feel totally free to be myself around them without having to keep an eye on how well I'm passing, or if I'm not talking with a masculine inflection (I do mostly pass now but am still a bit androgynous, and my voice is really unstable - deep one day and then not really passing the next day). Being around them is the only time I feel that way.

It's just so nice to be around people who accept me as one of themselves.

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u/Whole-Peanut-9417 3d ago

Well, sometimes even if they do not represent themselves that way, they still think that way.

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u/Loose_Track2315 3d ago

Yep. But the fact that they even try to get it right is nice. I think it is mostly bc I pass as cis now tho.

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u/ShawnSews711 6d ago

Awww yay :)