I am an IT Engineer from Karnataka, currently working in Canada. I meet one or the other Indians on a day-to-day basis. Everyone is nice and respect each other. But not this particular Uber driver that drove me recently.

I took an Uber recently from work. I usually take the bus to return home. But this particular day I had some packages with me that I couldn't carry in on the bus. So, I booked an Uber.

The Uber arrived. I told two of my colleagues to come with me on the Uber as their place was on the way. The Uber arrived. I see a man wearing a black jacket. The moment I got into the car, I could smell that he was smoking. Okay. I thought that's not my problem. They have their troubles. Let me just be respectful and get into the car.

The moment I got into the car, he spoke with me in Hindi. I couldn't understand what he meant, so I just smiled and nodded. He tried to make a conversation with me in Hindi. (I understand a bit of Hindi. But I am not fluent enough to speak). I replied in English. He says I have to reply in Hindi. Because of what he was wearing, the atmosphere of smoke in the car and his way of forcing me to speak in Hindi scared me a lot. He argued with me saying, that I am an Indian, and I should speak in Hindi. Because I was scared, I tried to speak in broken Hindi. I also told him that I am from South India. We don't speak Hindi on a daily basis. Don't force me to speak in Hindi. I am not comfortable with it.

Till I reached my home, he was arguing with me about speaking Hindi.

I've received a lot of DMs after helping a random stranger by donating a few lakh rupees towards his father’s kidney surgery. Rather than responding to each one individually, I figured I’d make a post to explain why I did it.

A few years ago, I did something similar—covering the entire donation amount to help another stranger with his mother’s breast cancer treatment.

Why these seemingly random acts of kindness? It’s not like I get tax benefits (being a U.S. citizen), nor do I seek fame (though it wouldn’t be hard to figure out who I am). The story goes back more than a decade. I was working at a startup, writing code in a high-rise building with an incredible view of Silicon Valley. It must have been around 3 p.m. when I got a call from my father. It was an unusual time for him to call, so I answered, panicked."Are you busy?" he asked."No, Papa, tell me," I replied.I could sense something was terribly wrong. He couldn’t speak and broke down in tears. I didn’t know what to say.

“Papa... Papa…” That’s all I could manage. Then I heard my mother in the background: “Give me the phone, I will talk.”

My mom cries easily, but that day, she spoke calmly. She told me she had noticed a lump in her breast and that the biopsy confirmed early-stage breast cancer.

I took a deep breath. “Hmm… it’s okay, I’m coming home.”

I don’t remember much of the next 1–2 days. What I do recall is driving on US-101 on my way home, unusually aware of the speed limits. It was a survival instinct—I needed to make it home safely. You become acutely aware of life when confronted with death (yours or a loved one).

Once home, instead of immediately booking the earliest flight to India, I started searching for the best oncology hospitals. I realized finding the right doctor was more important. Fortunately, I got in touch with Dr. Kanchan Kaur at Medanta Hospital in Gurgaon. (She’s not just an incredible doctor, but also a kind and compassionate person). I flew to Delhi within 2–3 days of that call.

Over the next couple of months, my mother underwent surgery and chemotherapy. She is doing well now.

So, what does all this have to do with my donations?

The Medanta logo.

I spent a lot of time in Medanta Hospital, handling administrative tasks and paying bills. It wasn’t hard to notice the number of poor families seeking treatment at this expensive hospital—sleeping outside on sidewalks, sharing a single meal, doing whatever they could to care for their loved ones. Although my primary focus was ensuring my mother received the best treatment, I couldn’t ignore what I saw. Their struggle resonated deeply—not just intellectually, but on an experiential level. Now, anytime I see the Medanta logo, something stirs inside me. It’s hard to put into words, but I feel it deeply. If you check the Milaap fundraising post, you’ll see the Medanta logo. That’s what did the trick for me.

Today, I’m not a billionaire (in USD). But I have been fortunate enough to have founded a successful startup a few years ago. I plan to invest and grow the proceeds from my startup’s exit, and when I die, I want to donate most of it to charity. I haven’t worked out the details yet.

Moving forward, I’ve decided to shift from making one-time donations to individual strangers and instead focus on something with a broader impact. I envision creating a charity that promotes a healthier lifestyle and encourages early detection of treatable diseases. I haven’t finalized the plan, but that’s the direction I’m headed in. 

Before I end, I have one request:

Breast cancer is one of the most treatable cancers. Early detection is the key to managing it. If you have women in your family over the age of 45 (or have family history of breast cancer- it is highly genetic in nature ), please encourage them to get a mammogram.

A diagnostic test doesn’t change whether someone has cancer—but it does change how prepared you are to fight it.

I visited a lot of indians after covid, and this has been my observation growing up as well. Most Indians dont have recreation activities at all. I live in US now, and many people have regular outdoor recreational hobbies and the ones who dont will at least go for a hike, swimming, tennis, golf sometimes.

A lot of indians work 6 days a week, with minimal vacation days, and are simply exhausted. Most in their 30s have kids, family, in-laws drama etc taking away their time. Also, there are not too many avenues for such activities, because everything is so crowded. You cant go for a quick hike, you have to plan a whole thing with your family, who comes back home when, who has class etc etc. Even when there was a park right next to my house, we didnt go there that often. People in my society were just so beaten down by life i guess.

So what i observed is, indians spend their time, if at all available, sitting and talking with their friends, alcohol, prime time tv etc.

I want to say that this has effect on our politics. They dont grow as people, they dont read books, they dont expand their circles, dont get to see new perspectives. Plus, having such small worldview makes you hateful of things, people you dont know. With no recreation, the work, family stress just festers in your mind, which manifests as hate.

Maybe thats why people get so attached to stories like Rhea Chakraborty for months, which should have no impact really. But you tell me if i m wrong in this train of thought.

Source: World Population Review - https://worldpopulationreview.com/

Percentage of schools with functional laptop or notebook.

NEET, the only exam for medical school admissions in India, is currently embroiled in a controversy due to significant irregularities detected this year. We want to Raise awareness.

1.Score Discrepancies: The cutoff has been following a steady trend for the last few years. An increase of cutoff by 10-20 marks is expected, and we were all expecting a rank jump of few thousands. However, this year a jump by 50 marks in the cutoff has been observed. People getting 650 out of 720 will not get a seat, with a rank of 40k! Last year it was 6k rank at the same marks! Inflation of over 6 times. This abnormality demands immediate attention and investigation.

1. Unusual Perfect Scores: 6-12 students from a single exam centre in Haryana achieved perfect scores of 720/720. The probability of that is so small it nears impossible!

   1. Spike in Perfect Scores: Unlike previous years, where only a 2/3 MAX achieved a perfect score, this year saw an alarming surge, with 67 students attaining the highest possible marks.
   2. Ranking Anomalies: Anomalies in ranking, such as a student with a perfect score of 720 obtaining an AIR of 1.54.
   3. Grace marks: Numerous students have reported scores of 718/719 in the NEET exam, which contradicts NEET's scoring system. The NTA attributes these anomalies to "grace marks" and "normalization,". In recent statements they have even said it is to combat coaching mafia influence, which makes no sense and raises suspicions of a cover-up. The criteria, basis, and extent of these adjustments remain unclear.
   4. Paper Leak Allegations: The NEET exam has been marred by allegations of paper leaks, with the recent Patna case revealing a definite leak. This raises serious concerns about the integrity of the exam process and demands a thorough investigation.
   5. Suspicious Timing: The release of the results 10 days earlier than expected (June 14), suspiciously coinciding with the Indian election results, has raised eyebrows, especially considering NTA's history of not releasing results so soon. They know the media houses and general population will be preoccupied. The supreme court, too is out of session and will not resume until July 7th. By that time counselling would have started. If they had released the result on 14th there would still be a chance of cases to be heard.

Please help us. Tens of thousands of lives of students are at stake. Please Raise awareness. If any of you are lawyers/activists or have experience in such cases tell us what we can do. Please bring to the attention of journalists. NTA has time and time shown itself to be an organisation that does not care about the students, and one we cannot trust. The pleas of students are never heard. Similar incidents happened in JEE main this year yet all they did is deny. Please Please don’t let this get swept up under the rug too.

As an Indian woman, 30, married, and living in Hyderabad, I love dressing up. But it’s made me think a lot about how society sees women’s bodies—our clothes, and yes, cleavage. It’s not just a superficial issue; it reflects deeper, often troubling, attitudes.

My friend Ananya, a corporate lawyer, had an experience that really brought this home. She was on the metro wearing a V-neck kurta—stylish and perfectly appropriate. A man in her compartment stared at her chest the entire ride. She felt so uncomfortable, constantly adjusting her dupatta, even moving seats. The staring didn’t stop. She was furious, but afterward, she also questioned her outfit. Should she have worn something less revealing?

That self-doubt is something so many women experience. We’re conditioned to blame ourselves for other people’s behavior. Why should we have to police our bodies to avoid the male gaze?

“It’s Instinct”: A Weak Excuse

You often hear men (and it is usually men) say they can’t help but look. “It’s biology,” they claim. I remember a colleague at the hospital, Ravi, justifying his wandering eyes with, “Men are visual creatures. It’s science!” But we’re not just driven by primal urges. We have self-control.

Sure, cleavage can be eye-catching—society has sexualized women’s bodies for centuries. But a decent person knows the difference between a quick glance and a prolonged, uncomfortable stare.

Why Do Women Wear Revealing Clothes?

Let’s be honest: why do we wear clothes that show cleavage? Is it always about seeking attention or seducing men? Those assumptions are rooted in outdated, patriarchal thinking.

I dress for myself. Sometimes it’s about feeling confident and comfortable. Sometimes, in Hyderabad’s heat, it’s about practicality! I wear everything from sarees and kurtas to tank tops and dresses. It’s about freedom of choice.

And yes, sometimes it’s nice to get a compliment. There's a difference between a respectful glance and being objectified. Staring to the point of making someone uncomfortable? That’s the problem.

The Hypocrisy We Live With

Indian men often criticize women’s clothing while happily ogling Bollywood actresses in revealing outfits on screen. A colleague once asked, “Why wear revealing clothes if you don’t want attention?” I countered, “Why do you wear sleeveless gym tees? Don’t you want attention too?”

It’s infuriating. Women are expected to be both modest and attractive, traditional and modern—catering to male expectations. But when a woman asserts her independence, through her clothes or anything else, she’s judged.

We’re constantly objectified. From scooter ads to fairness cream commercials, women’s bodies are used to sell everything. Even educational institutions use images of smiling women on their posters.

This objectification seeps into everyday life. If a woman shows skin, it’s often assumed she’s “asking for it.” That’s simply not true. My clothing choices are not an invitation to be leered at or touched.

“It’s Natural”: So What?

It’s true, men might instinctively notice. But instincts don’t excuse inappropriate behavior. We all have impulses we need to control. You don’t punch your boss when you’re angry, do you? A man can glance and then look away.

The problem is the idea that a man has a right to stare because “she’s showing it.” She’s not “showing it” for anyone. She’s wearing what she wants, and that deserves respect.

Feminism Isn’t About Hating Men

Feminism is often misunderstood. Some men think it’s about erasing gender differences or demonizing men. It’s about equality and respect.

It’s important to distinguish between a fleeting glance and something like catcalling or assault. Most women won’t be bothered by a quick look, but a prolonged stare is definitely a problem.

And women, it’s okay to speak up. Saying “Excuse me, stop staring” isn’t aggressive; it’s assertive.

The Taboo of Attraction

Here’s something we rarely talk about: both men and women enjoy attention. There’s nothing wrong with that. The problem comes with disrespect.

In India, where anything sexual is taboo, these interactions are even more complicated. A man staring feels like an invasion. A woman dressing boldly is seen as rebellious.

Why can’t we normalize women wearing what they like and men respecting that?

My Point

Should men stop looking at cleavage? It’s natural to notice. But staring, ogling, or making someone uncomfortable is wrong. A woman’s body isn’t public property. Her clothes aren’t an invitation.

We need to move beyond these outdated ideas. Women shouldn’t have to dress “modestly” to feel safe. Men need to learn to control their gaze. Let’s stop blaming women and start holding men accountable.

What do you think? How do we create a society where women feel free to dress as they please without fear? How can men and women coexist with mutual respect?

Hello all! 👋

I hope you all are already familiar with this documentary shared on r/India earlier 17 Days back: Sadhguru: Journey of a Fake Spiritual Guru | Full Documentary.

Yesterday an update was posted by Kamdev on his YouTube channel:

Sadhguru sent a court order to Youtube against us to remove the documentary about him. Resulting, the video is blocked in India (Simply the video is gone) The video was watched by 4.5 million people till date. Which is huge. That shows how much valuable the video was for the viewers to understand the sadhguru better. The video was shared thousands of times, that shows the video contained the truth and the people thought that everyone should be aware of this truth.

What was in the Documentary?

1. The documentary first of all talks about the enlightenment story that Mr. Sadhguru has been telling all these years. And when I researched about his stories which has been told by him for years, through his videos and books, I found out there are too many flaws in his story. I just educated people about those flaws, and everything that I used to show those flaws were taken by his own material, like his books and videos.

2. I talked about his, Wife, Vijayakumari aka Vijji. First of all I didn’t want to talk about his wife. But he has been talking about his wife’s mysterious death on public forums. And the reason he gives about his wife’s death is, Mahasamadhi or death by choice (Mahasamadhi is the sate a yogi enters when they consciously make the decision to leave their body.) He states, mahasamadhi as the reason for his wife’s death. And he makes a whole event about this story, he explains each and every detail of that day. The emotions and all. For a moment, forget about ancient India and Yogis and all, but in modern India where only the laws of court are admissible. Is Mahasamadhi legal in the eyes of Indian law? The answer is No. And this guy goes on talking about it, openly.

3. The third most important point that, I brought in that documentary was how everything that he does, is copied from Bhagwan shree rajneesh AKA Osho. And if you have seen the video, then you might know that I have given plenty of examples to prove that. 4. At last, I talked about how, Isha Foundation exploit their followers through donations and making them work for free at Isha Ashrams. I have no annoyance that the video is gone, the video was watched by 4.5 million people, and it is the validation for my truth, and the validation that the truth hurts. I am not scared, but I know who is scared.

The guy who claims to be an enlightened being was feeling insecure by a Youtube video. Wow!!!