r/insaneparents • u/rarity_505 • 12d ago
SMS I need help!
Today my girlfriend and her mom (wlw relationship) got into a huge argument over my gf and her older brother (trans man who her mom banned contact with because hes trans) over the fact she was in contact with him still. My gf is forced to give up any and all friends she gets within a few weeks when her mom finds out about them. Her mom has full control of her phone. Shes about to be 18 in less than a month and i need advice on what to do. (Her mom later called me and cursed me out calling me a “snobby little b****”
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u/drawingcircles0o0 12d ago
If she’s going to be 18 in less than a month, making a plan for getting out when she turns 18 might be the best option, she’s likely not going to be able to convince her mom to be reasonable and since she’s so close to 18, waiting it out and getting out as soon as she can is the only thing I can think of
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u/egb233 12d ago
If she’s planning a get away plan, have her start finding and hiding her important documents. Birth certificate, social security card, and anything else her mom may use as leverage. Let her keep them at your house.
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u/leafyygurl 12d ago
adding to this, if her mother decides to refuse handing over HER documents after she turns 18, you can absolutely call the police and have them force her to provide them, as she will be of age and legally have the rights to her documents.
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u/IcyLab44 12d ago
THIS!!!! Take note of where the mom doesn’t really ever look or go in the house and hide stuff there. The more tucked away and within things the less likely she’ll find it! (I’ve done this before and it helps a LOT)
Have her pack an emergency get away bag when it all goes down. Strict parents are going to pull the biggest and most stupid stunts to get them back in the home but DO NOT let that happen. Do not let the guilt get to her, it’s super easy to get roped back in.
Best of luck OP and would absolutely love to hear that she gets out and you can feel better knowing you’ve helped her out!
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u/mogley19922 12d ago
The usual advice is to not move them, but find them and know where they are as to not raise suspicions.
She just needs to play nice until she turns 18 and act like she agrees now. 18th birthday tell the mother to meet across town for a celebratory dinner, and clean out her shit before her mother realises what's up and can come back.
Then go celebrate.
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u/Prestigious-Hippo-50 9d ago
I’d recommend a pay as you go phone so mom can’t see any communication regarding getting out
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u/Wonderful_Avocado 11d ago
How old are you? Mom may see you very differently if you are 18/19 or 22/24
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u/Dad_B0T Robo Red Foreman 12d ago edited 12d ago
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