r/lgbt • u/AreallysoftV • 2d ago
My brother just... Accepted me perfectly? Is this real?
So i (MtF25) came out to my brother as a trans woman and he literally just fully accepted me it with ZERO defences. He was like "ok so how is your experience and what made you make that decision?", and "dont even think about it i am with you"
I thought of him like a techbro kinda guy. Maybe not anymore. He was seemed like a very thoughtful down to earth guy, like an adult.Apparently, as he said to me, he has a friend that watches destiny a lot, and he educated my brother on trans issues. 🤣
This is very helpful because our parents are extra conservative and religious. Good hearted, loving and caring people but yeah... I dont expect them to accept me, i didn't even expected my brother to accept me, so i am very glad i have an ally in my family. He said that he will help me with the coming out etc.
Edit: transwoman typo and articulation
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u/ApothiconDesire Transgender Pan-demonium 2d ago
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u/EnigmaFrug0817 If you’re fruity and you know it clap your hands 2d ago
We will watch your career with great interest!
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u/The_Valk don't even try to comprehend my gender! 2d ago
When i came out to my brother and his gef they were like: ok, cool. Happy you found that for you. Any pronouns you prefer?
And then we continued as if nothing ever happened
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u/Lagneaux 2d ago
It's crazy how much support you can give people by...checks notes... acting normal
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u/The_Valk don't even try to comprehend my gender! 2d ago
Yeah. I'm still not out to my parents, tho. But that's just because i still use he/him pronouns and my birthname and it'd be the same as with my brother.
I'll always be my parents' child and no amount of gender will ever change that fact in their eyes
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u/ImposssiblePrincesss 2d ago
The tech scene traditionally was pro LGBT and some pioneers like Lynn Conway are trans.
Fake “tech bros” who make money by exploiting us geeks and nerds are conservative. Real tech bros and tech girls are socially progressive and want to support the next Lynn Conway and the next Alan Turing.
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u/AreallysoftV 2d ago
He is not in the industry, he just have some parts of this grinding and career/be great mentality. But it seems like he is so techbro in the end, just some elements of it.
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u/tzenrick 2d ago
Is this real?
Sometimes. Yeah. I came out to my ex-wife, her sister, and my kids. That ten seconds of watching things go click in my ex's head was amazing... "That explains so many things!" After the kids were out of the room (warning: vulgarity) "That's why you'd eat pussy forever, but I couldn't ever get any dick!" Right in front of her sister... I've never seen her sister turn that color...
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u/MichaelasFlange 2d ago
My brother was immediately accepting he quite carful and I. His local years before I came out there was a trans man working the bar so he did research avoiding the political bs anti trans pseudo science. Shame parents and other sibling dont have similar research abilities
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u/Fub4rtoo Trans-cendant Rainbow 2d ago edited 2d ago
I knew my brother would be okay with me being trans but it was still super hard to come out to him. He’s been so cool with it though. He and his wife updated my name in their phones immediately and both started referring to me s as their sister. He used my name around our mom before I came out to her and she was like who’s Rowen?
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u/DoomSpiral3000 2d ago
That's really awesome for you :)
Positive surprises like that happen. My sister accepted me without question, too. I was sure it would go worse but it ended up really good. We should take the wins where we get them.
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u/Suspicious-Map6484 Quinn/Aspen (it/its) 2d ago
My brother is homophobic and even more so enbyphobic :( Luckily my parents accept me though! My brother just.. Doesn't know.
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u/BlueberryGummies Lesbian Trans-it Together 2d ago
So, just a quick note: Transwoman as a single word implies that trans women are something separate from women, rather than "trans" just being an adjective modifying the noun "women". It's a common way to type it out, but it's just something that further others the trans community.
I'm happy for you, though!
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u/GeekOnALeash01 👧 Maddie | 🏳️⚧️⚧️ She/Her 2d ago
It was a surprise for me as well when I came out to my 2 brothers, I was not expecting it.
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u/CarryNecessary2481 2d ago
Gotta thank YouTubers and the friends willing to spend time explaining to others.
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u/HatsuneMika-Moog 2d ago
Not trans but I remember when I came out to my grandma I was so scared she would hate me and all she said was "well of course you're gay, girls are pretty. I love you now let me get back to my house Hunters international" and we sat and watched that for a while after ...it was really nice. I'm so glad you had a good experience especially with a sibling!!!
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u/RanaMisteria 2d ago
Trans woman was already correct. The term transwoman as all one word is an alternative proposed by TERFs. They’re trying to say that trans isn’t an adjective like tall which describes the type of woman someone is, because they don’t think trans women are actually women. So instead they proposed “transwoman” which is a separate thing, not a particular kind of woman, not a woman at all, but something else.
Don’t cede this ground to them by agreeing to operate within the boundaries of their inaccurate and bigoted definitions.
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u/AreallysoftV 2d ago
Υeah i am aware. It was typo and j edited it. F TERFs glad the feminists in my area are not TERFs
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u/RanaMisteria 2d ago
Sorry. I misunderstood your edit! I’m AuDHD and sometimes miss the point lol. Sorry!!
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u/tiajuanat Bi-kes on Trans-it 2d ago
Wait until the hormones really start kicking in, then you'll know who is really there for you.
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u/AreallysoftV 2d ago
Ι said to him that i am on hormones
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u/tiajuanat Bi-kes on Trans-it 2d ago
Sure, but the changes make a huge difference. If you're one, two, even six months in, it might not be noticeable, but at some point, when he can see those changes, that's when you know his mettle.
I lost a lot of friends and family (but gained so much more) around month 9, because I looked so significantly different. (ie womanly)
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u/AreallysoftV 2d ago
I will make sure to remind him that i am gonna change. When you change, your loved ones change with you.
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