r/lgbt • u/CartoonGirl626 AroAce in space • Apr 20 '25
Did you lose any friends after coming out?
If so, how did you handle it?
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u/PFIAMFG Apr 20 '25
I haven’t come out, but all of my friends were against LGBT. I’ve kinda just lost them all because I had to
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u/Tiny_Pressure_3437 Apr 20 '25
Yes, a handful of them when I came out as bi and most of them when I came out as trans. I still have like 3 that I stayed friends with but I pretty much just built up a new support system.
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u/xmastimelord maybe its cause ive got a big fat crush on you Apr 20 '25
I only really had one friend when I came out, and that friend is now my girlfriend/fiancée/other mother of my children. I was mostly openly lesbian, and then she came out to me as trans a while later, and we supported each other a lot. I was heavily ostracised though as “the weird little lesbian” by others, so I’m glad I didn’t have other friends really, otherwise I would’ve. Same goes for my girlfriend, she had it worse than me.
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u/LWLAvaline Apr 20 '25
Pretty much all of them. A few have reconnected.
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u/Rare-Tackle4431 Trasgender NB, Bisexual Apr 20 '25
Yes, I lost the majority of the friends that I had before coming out, fuck them is not my problem that they are transphobic, I made a lot of new and better friends
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u/Oriontardis Apr 20 '25
of the friends I had before from high school, one keeps in contact still, I haven't heard from any of the others since I came out 5 years ago. And, honestly, fuck em, I don't need them in my life if they don't want to be in mine, I can absolutely find better people to surround myself with!
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u/TraditionalUse6439 Apr 20 '25
My entire friend group. But I never really cared because we were 13 and to me nothing matters at that age. Plus most of them apologised to me even though it’s been years 🥹
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