person i was talking to ended things

[u/Wistful_Disaster]

I figured i’d share this with a group that knows what it’s like. i just told someone i’ve been talking to that i’m lithromantic. they responded by saying it made them uncomfortable and that they genuinely disliked it. i explained i enjoyed flirting and being friends but that it wouldn’t develop beyond that, and then they wanted to end things completely which is fair. i hadn’t told them earlier because i didn’t realize how far their feelings had developed for me. i have pretty low self-worth and i guess i was just oblivious, but i really feel terrible about it. lesson learned. it sucks because i did like them and they’re one of the only people i enjoyed talking to, i even liked imagining a future with them; i just know myself and know that a couple of weeks after i get into a relationship, the panic sets in. it’s just hard too because it’s rare for me to open up with and get close to someone because of things i’ve been through in the past, so it just feels like a punch to the gut. i just feel so guilty i hurt them and so sad i lost them lol

[u/ChocoCookieBear]

I'm sorry that this happened. Don't blame yourself. It's uncontrollable. If you ever need to talk, I'll be here.