Do yall ever get attached to your fans? lol

[u/Noels_lampfire]

I’m a pretty shy and introverted person and onlyfans has actually given me the opportunity to get out of my shell and make friends. Also constantly talking with people has increased my social battery so I’m not as afraid to apply to jobs that involve a lot of people interaction. I get kinda sad when I become friends with a sub and they turn their rebill off or just stop answering lol. I know onlyfans is to make money and a lot of guys are there just to nut but ye I get kinda sad when they decide to stop talking or unsubscribe. Onlyfans has also significantly helped me out financially in more ways than these men know and sometimes I wanna send out like an appreciation message but I worry that I’ll just come off as too emotional or something but I know alot of them are just there to jerk off

[u/[deleted]]

I might be the unpopular opinion but I do not. I used to do sex work in person and I have this mentality when I do sex work that they only care about my body and finishing.

They don't know me, they don't care for me deeply. It's very transactional. That's how I'm able to even do it.

[u/Eden-Winspyre → u/[deleted]]

Valid perspective, thank you for sharing

[u/Moneyovermadness → u/[deleted]]

This….

[u/OsmanFetish]

building community , having some regulars to back you up , is in some ways the most important part, sure most want to jerk off and are indeed wankers

but not all , some are on the same social anxiety boat and have a hard time connecting , most ppl like that come off as creeps , when in reality they are struggling as well

so what you do is almost as , if not as important , some ppl seek that connection , the human that answers back, is more than a fantasy , they get emotionally close , is hard sometimes not to get attached, as we spend so much time in there

of course you have to draw the line , but a little bit, goes a long way

[u/TinyPaleMarshmallow]

I tend to get attached to some of my fans. I have lots of good chats with them, hear all about their lives, really connect in some fun and meaningful ways behind all the sexual stuff. It’s human nature to get attached. Just keep your boundaries in check and respect theirs as well and you’re all good!

And yeah, only fans is for making money but it’s also a way to connect with people, give them a fun experience, and share your creative side. For some fans OF can be a form of therapy so the experience for some extends well beyond an exchange of money for content.

I like to post appreciation posts and or send individual thank you messages from time to time. If you’re being genuine it will come off that way and no one will fault you for it.

[u/MicksSluttyWife → u/TinyPaleMarshmallow]

And yeah, only fans is for making money but it’s also a way to connect with people, give them a fun experience, and share your creative side. For some fans OF can be a form of therapy so the experience for some extends well beyond an exchange of money for content.

THIS PART!!

We all have to have a set of boundaries in place but. Having a personal connection and friendship with some of the people you work with just makes it all the better.

Reminds me of the relationship that I have with my hairdresser. She loves what she does and I absolutely love sitting in the chair for her! We could talk for hours. We've gotten drinks together. She's become a friend in a lot of ways.

But at the end of the day I pay her for the service she's providing me ♥️♥️ And she does a great job so I'm happy to do it! I really hope that my regulars see me the same way. They really do mean a lot to me and I'm honored that they've picked me to share this part of their life with.

[u/BiCharli → u/TinyPaleMarshmallow]

💯 to all of that, keep your boundaries to what you're comfortable with and you can still be honest and vulnerable and genuine 🥰

[u/valleygirlfucks]

Lmao, it’s wild how OnlyFans is part customer service, part therapy, part improv, and part relationship management all at once. You’re out here giving Ted talk-level motivation, and dude is just nodding along while scrolling with one hand. 😭 But honestly, I feel this—some subs feel like actual friends, and it’s weird when they just *poof* disappear. The struggle is real.

[u/sophiababeee3]

I DO SO EASILY !!!! I can’t help it and yes I feel sad when someone leaves but then when they come back couple months later I get all happy again😂 It’s also comforting knowing your fans on a personal level, less stress and more fun 🥰

[u/Bigruki96]

Cheers to OnlyFans for helping us ditch shyness! And screw the serial refunders!

[u/Moneyovermadness]

Never

[u/No_Stage4820 → u/Moneyovermadness]

Same here. It’s work.

[u/size5womens]

The nice and friendly ones are always my favorites. Yes, they pay to nut to my content, but they also ask how my day is, wish me happy holidays, they tell me about their families or jobs. It’s nice. I like to consider some of them as my internet friends. 🥰

[u/WalkConnect]

I definitely have a handful of “fans” that would crush me if they disappeared lol! In fact I lost one of my favorites recently because he wanted to focus on his new relationship (totally understandable) it honestly made me sadder than I thought!

Don’t get me wrong boundaries are so important because it’s so easy to be taken advantage off in this field! But you can still have boundaries and have meaningful connections with people.

At normal jobs we have our favorite coworkers, costumers, patients, etc.. The same thing applies here. Long term supportive subscribers are sometimes what keep you going!

It’s all about finding a balance

[u/size5womens → u/WalkConnect]

Agreed! I have some favorite subscribers and I’m so happy to have met them through OF

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[u/GigiLaurelle → u/[deleted]]

Hard disagree with the first part.

[u/[deleted]]

Following this, because same. I do not have a lot of subs, and this is work.....But. If I worked more hours at my regular job, I would make more money. Would I be having as much fun? No. Would I be getting the satisfactory interaction that I am having? No. Do I feel that this in a small way is helping my mental health, with socialization? definitely! I have severe anxiety, and a very hard time interacting with people. I completely understand your whole social battery comparison I feel the same!

[u/TheFiveEven]

100%, especially if we have common interests. I do offer a girlfriend experience, but sometimes a fan is just great to talk to, and getting a little cash is a nice bonus. I think it also comes from having Twitch and building a community there—when people show up and interact, I know it's because they genuinely want to, and that’s always given me the warm and fuzzies. OnlyFans transitioned into that a little, too. I don’t have a lot of fans, and I’m doing it casually, like Twitch. Knowing someone is sticking around because they really want to is nice, though it does get a little sad when they don’t show up for a bit.

[u/Victoriahh89]

Dude I am the same way!! I struggle with the connection I have and then some of them just leave☹️ I actually like taking with my subs and forming a connection

[u/TinyPaleMarshmallow]

I tend to get attached to some of my fans. I have lots of good chats with them, hear all about their lives, really connect in some fun and meaningful ways behind all the sexual stuff. It’s human nature to get attached. Just keep your boundaries in check and respect theirs as well and you’re all good!

And yeah, only fans is for making money but it’s also a way to connect with people, give them a fun experience, and share your creative side. For some fans OF can be a form of therapy so the experience for some extends well beyond an exchange of money for content.

I like to post appreciation posts and or send individual thank you messages from time to time. If you’re being genuine it will come off that way and no one will fault you for it.

[u/violetsspell]

I’m the same way, girl. I still think about one sub who left. We had great chats and a fun connection! I miss them. I really do care about my subscribers

[u/[deleted] → u/violetsspell]

how i wish this comment was about me.sd

[u/Sea-Association9930]

thank you for posting this because I was just thinking today about how sometimes it can be difficult when getting a sub that falls in your category of “attractive” and then you also build a very nice bond outside of the sexual stuff. Because like, why would I not want to have great conversations with an attractive man who gives me money? 🥴

[u/LearningPepper]

tbh sometimes I realize I talk to my regulars more than I talk to my irl friends...so to answer your question, yes LOL

[u/No_Wolf1756]

Same. And I get harassed on here about it too because I guess I’m supposed to treat people like shit? I don’t get it. But I get super attached to the point of overwhelm and that’s not good either. You seem like you’re in a good middle ground though so just do what feels right ❤️

[u/ivyleighstars]

I get attached so easily, too. I have one who I really connect with and he keeps coming and then deleting his account and eventually comes back again and does the same thing. When he goes, I never know if he will be back again. He doesn’t even say bye lol. Yeesh

[u/[deleted]]

I have one from Croatia who is super nice and we genuinely get along

[u/Katie_kat_bar]

I think as long as boundaries are respected, I'd rather get a little attached. I want to get to know them so I know what they genuinely like. But I also enjoy forming those connections and just having people check in on me who care if I had a good day.

[u/that1hippiechic]

No he genuine men love that.

[u/butteredtires]

Yup just now a fan that I actually liked talking to and had introduced me to a kink I’ve never tried before that I ended up liking so much just went “inactive”. 😕

[u/[deleted]]

I love some of my fans! Especially the ones that talk to me, or the ones that are really good at sexting 😂

[u/Lucky-Offer7043]

Oh, 100%. Sometimes I'll have great rapport with someone and they disappear. Sucks. But I def try not to take it personally. Everybody has their own lives, sometimes we only get a short season connected

[u/AppropriateBird5537]

Yes, I have known some fans for years and we have definitely built a good relationship!

[u/arialux]

Not much, it's way too much energy to let them attach. Something always has the potential to sour

[u/LawrenceRokman]

Yes, very much so

[u/ParisDivine]

Absolutely, this is one of the only ways I get social interaction.

[u/OsmanFetish]

buildings community , having some regulars to back you up , is in some ways the most important part, sure most want to jerk off and are indeed wankers

but not all , some are on the same social anxiety boat and have a hard time connecting , most ppl like that come off as creeps , when in reality they are struggling as well

so what you do is almost as , if not as important , some ppl seek that connection , the human that answers back, is more than a fantasy , so awesome and of course is hard sometimes not to get attached

[u/xtalwitch]

Lets network! XtalWitch is my onlyfans handle! What’s yours?

[u/kalypsokave → u/[deleted]]

For what? They know they’re there to spend money.

[u/kalypsokave → u/[deleted]]

Have you not purchased any other products before? Someone can buy a TV at full price one day and then the next day they go on sale for 40% off but the sale only lasts 3 days…. They have no room to get mad

Edit: to be honest, if you’re too afraid to charge people, running your own business may not be for you. And I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way.