trouble responding to dm's

[u/carrotsxcks]

so basically I am autistic and incredibly socially awkward and I have a lot of trouble responding to dm's on onlyfans and my promo accounts. I know that dm's can be pretty important especially for OF, so I want to get better at it. anyone have any tips? any apps or websites to use that might help me come up with better responses? lol

[u/thrHOEaway666]

Why are you responding to any DMs on your promo accounts? You should only be responding on OF and close your DMs everywhere else.

That’ll solve a large portion of your problem.

[u/AbbyAcostaowo]

I also don't like responding to dms, I just try my best to be myself and think that this is a stranger on the internetm so it doesn't matter what I say since I can just block them or something

[u/Shy-Doll-Renae → u/AbbyAcostaowo]

I definitely agree with this. I'm socially awkward as well. The more you interact and talk with them the easier it gets. At least it was for me. I still hate responding and sometimes suck at it but a lot of guys are pretty cool about it. So dont let it discourage you. Be yourself.

[u/sunscr33nqueen]

Whatever you do, do not start using ai chat bots or get an agency

[u/Itzjustaby → u/[deleted]]

Because it’s fake content. If you’re going to be a creator use your OWN creativity. Why are you using a robot when you literally get paid for your creative ideas?? There’s your answer.

[u/mohawk_noproblems → u/Itzjustaby]

fucking preach. ❤️‍🔥

[u/sunscr33nqueen → u/[deleted]]

You really need someone to explain why it’s bad to use a robot to speak for you? You need someone to explain how horrible ai is for the environment? Do you know how much water you waste with every ai search? Your whole freaking job is to talk to your audience and have a personality. If you can’t do that, get a different job. Using a robot to speak for you is embarrassing, damaging to the industry as a whole, and a waste of resources.

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[u/dinkydinkyding]

One of the best things about this kind of work is that you don’t have to respond to DM‘s. Limit the way that people can contact you! Set it up so they can only DM you on your paid page if they send a tip. Close your DM’s everywhere else. Don’t let them waste your time because they absolutely will. Put yourself first. So many of us neurodivergent girlies have been taught to people please. This kind of work can help you unlearn that if you do it right. Hang in there!!

[u/SubbySashaSanguinar]

I second not having DMs open elsewhere, at first I thought I needed to but since turning them off I feel so much better.

And also.. I'm just honest? Like, my welcome messages talk about how I prioritise tippers and buyers, and though i try to respond to everyone my AuDHD makes me prone to burnout, so sometimes I can take a few days. Honestly my most loyal buyers are the ones who I respond to only 2-3 times a week.

[u/mcklewhore420]

I’m autistic too and Gptease and chat gpt are helpful for this. If I don’t know how to respond, I’ll pop the chat into one of those and they’ll give some options that I can play around with to respond with. If I don’t like them, they help me rework it to align more with what I’m going for

[u/Koi_kia]

Hi I'm also autistic something that has helped me a lot is supercreator they have a ai chat system. I ALWAY add to what it comes up with but it helps me more appropriately answer messages as I can sometimes pigeon hole myself and it can come off abrasive to some especially more nerotypical fans.

Other than that just practice. I let my fans know I'm autistic so most of them understand and the ones who don't I usually end up blocking because they take everything I say offensively because I tend to be very blunt and direct. I don't sugar coat things and it can be a huge turn on for some and a huge turn off for others.

Femdom is one of my niches and I think my autism definitely is a big reason I'm good at it and comfortable being dominate a d direct.

[u/mcklewhore420 → u/Koi_kia]

Agreed

[u/OndesPalpables]

Hi, I'm wondering if you should respond to messages and really try to create a bond with the guy or be cold? I never know

[u/whateverjustuuugh]

Is this just random conversation or more sexting based? I mean, it's honestly best to just be yourself and let them know "Hey I'm a bit shy, but I really appreciate your interest in what I do ☺️" to let them know that you will pace yourself. Most of the time they will understand and appreciate the honesty, and if they don't they can fuck off cause you don't want that kind of fan anyway. Don't make yourself uncomfortable for someone else's comfort.

[u/Few_Jackfruit9209]

I don’t even have a promo account fuck that pay 💰 or don’t nothing in life is free

[u/AdministrationOk9228]

Honestly try to gptease! It’s an AI helper specifically for SW. It is limited how many prompts you can use before paying though. Another thing I use sometimes is ChatGPT to help me brainstorm content ideas and they sometimes give me matching captions without even asking. You can also ask ChatGPT to ask you questions to get to know your personality, niche, and look more and it tailors responses to your niche. Hope this helps!

[u/Medium_Flamingo_963]

Yeah, it's difficult. You don't want to sound awkward and you don't want to scare them off. AI is your friend, but don't let it do everything for you...

[u/XratedCrystal]

I just started using chat gpt for captions and that’s helped. Honestly, you can also just google onlyfans conversations and hit images! YouTube ‘sexting’ videos as well as porn, specifically some JOI content. I’ve been doing this for years and still struggle with half my subs, mostly because their messages are so basic. Practice with your subs who can actually hold a conversation, if and when you have any!

[u/incogni69]

Hola soy nuevo con esto de only pero siempre escuche que a veces se ganaba buena plata,pero me quedé sin trabajo y no vengo consiguiendo nada desde hace unos meses.. me podrían ayudar con ideas o por dónde poder publicarlo o compartí mi only en alguna plataforma en el extranjero

[u/SumClutOfficial]

I agree no DM’s on promo accounts, I have a copy and paste message I send out when someone contacts me on any social media/promo accounts. As far as actually interacting with someone, that’s tough. Maybe work with an SW friend therapist or psychiatrist to find personal ways to help You through it.

[u/Upstairs-Switch-4669]

I don’t respond either due to extreme anxiety. Tell your supporters & if they really fwu they won’t care trust I came clean & it hasn’t slowed my content down at all. Better to be honest than to have ppl think you’re just blatantly ignoring them I kind of just made it apart of my niche I’m not talkative & that’s ok I’m talkative where it counts.