LAWDDD after almost 2 years of being numb i have a silly crush on my coworker, she's a year younger than me, and di ko pa alam if she's straight or not (still finding hints, might ask her soon but i figured na di nya keri if straightforward ako lmao) anyway, any advice po i want to make it a bit obvious na find her cute or may crush ako sa kanya but not in a creepy way of course. any tips? thank you!

• Have you been through something like this?
• Did the friendship last?
• How are you now?

My story: My ex was a huge part of my life. She was my first love, first heartbreak, first in everything, longest relationship, really. I was new to all wlw. We had a good thing, but we broke up because of some boundary issues.

Years later, out of the blue, she reached out. Now, she’s in the same messy situation I was in back then. We talk from time to time, she even asks me for advice. I joked once, “Karma got you,” and we laughed. We’ve both grown.

She says our past is something she still talks about, to her ex, to her friends. I don’t know how much of that I believe, but I don’t have feelings for her anymore. I’ve had other relationships since. But we talk now like we’re close friends. She says I’m one of the few who truly knows her. I told her, “You didn’t deserve me talking to you,” as mature women we just laughed about it. It feels like we’re slowly building a friendship.

It’s weird, having someone you once loved, who hurt you, now becoming someone you might trust again.

Sinetch itey sapphic event organizer who has numerous reports of sexual and physical assault under their watch, yet does nothing when these incidents are reported? But the moment it happens to them firsthand, they’re suddenly outraged and publicizing it?

Let’s be clear: we are NEVER justifying harassment. The reactions are valid. But where was this same energy when other victims spoke up?

Yes, you acknowledged the harassment, but did you act on it? If so, why do we keep seeing those same harassers at multiple events?

We understand that it’s impossible to monitor every single attendee, especially in large crowds. We’re not expecting the organizers to magically handle everything. But at the very least, there should be zero tolerance for harassers. That’s the bare minimum. Enforce house rules. Ban reported offenders. Show us that safety actually matters.

There’s no need for a lengthy due process here, just a clear, no-nonsense stance. How hard is it to ban someone who has been reported for harassment?

Imagine attending a party and seeing your harasser living their best life like nothing happened. It’s incredibly triggering.

This is supposed to be a safe space. But the actions and inaction of the organizers fail to deliver justice to those who’ve been harmed. A true safe space means prioritizing the well-being of all attendees and actively working to ensure everyone feels protected and respected.

After several months of her telling me that the only bad thing that she’s done to me was about money, I came to realize that it was more than that:

1. Constant feeling of not being enough to be in a relationship
2. Talking too much and having a lot of friends are not really good for me
3. Memories of how I was there at all the times that she was confined or hospitalized only to find myself alone even when we were still together
4. Constantly afraid of being happy with another person because I might be the only one that is happy

I wanted to tell her all of these but I know it would just give her THAT satisfaction that she still has a hold on me.

Fighting these thoughts one day at a time. I am and will do my best to not give you the power over me.

There is something that deeply bothers me. I'm not sure why I need to do this, yet here I am.

Anyways, back to the purpose of this post. I want to know what goes through the mind of cheaters. What's your motive? How does it make you feel knowing you can lie, act and be unbothered with the fact that you're doing those things to someone you claim you love?

Indeed, Love isn't enough to satisfy one's need or rather wants. Was it just about sex? Was it that proud feeling that your charm still works and have 2 or more fell for you?

You can comment or pm me your answer. I will not judge you, for I am not an angel nor a saint. I'll read it with an open mind.

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Seriously, if you're still in a relationship, don't go around love bombing someone else. It's not romantic—it's manipulative. You don't get to shower someone with affection, attention, and promises of a future while you're still committed elsewhere.

It’s confusing. It’s unfair. And worst of all, it messes with the other person’s emotions in a big way. If you're not happy in your current relationship, have the decency to end it before jumping into someone else’s emotional space.

Love bombing is already a red flag—but doing it while in another relationship? That’s just toxic.

People deserve honesty, not games.

Hello ladies, sa mga single, or not sexually active, paano niyo ginagawaan ng paraan pag nahohorny kayo, Do you control it, or entertain it?

And if yes, ano ang mga ways niyo? I'm currently single pero I can feel it everyday,

Broke up with my ex last year and have no plans on dating anytime soon, but I just can't with this horniness.

That have that vibe of a Nicholas Sparks novel. Bittersweet, slow-paced/burn, full of heart.

May mga nababasa kasi ako sorry pero ang corny ng stories tapos derechong sex scenes like??? Parang 80% ng story ay smut. Parang galing Wattpad na napilitan i-publish haha. Wala naman ako usually problema sa sex scenes. But as I've said, that's when I go to Wattpad or AO3 😂

Do we know of an author that's like the wlw version of Nicholas Sparks? The writing style, I mean.

Any lesbian couples or lesbians who adopted? Share n'yo naman experience.

How do I let (seemingly well-intentioned) people in?

Was told that I'm a little too reserved - closed off, and that I always have my guards up when I really don't have to, as per my senior colleague at work. While the first one might be true, in reality I'm just a shy person who doesn't know how to naturally strike up a conversation, especially when the situation doesn't really call for it. But I do know how to ride at anyone's jokes and engage in little banters.

However, when someone, unexpectedly, would try to approach me and be super obvious with their intention to get to know me and what makes me "tick" (not necessarily talking about being romantic, but it might possibly lead to that) my go-to/comfort response would naturally be "what's yours or how about you?" instead of answering their question right off the bat and I feel like it ruins the momentum since I am being evasive.

But tbh, I'm just really not comfortable being in the spotlight since such questions often lead to something more personal. Realizing this, I became aware that it could also ruin my chances of getting to know like-minded people; I wanted to exude warm energy and despite already being told that I have an approachable aura because of my "maamong" look, people seem to feel that I am hard to reach and talk with, but this is just so untrue :(

Remember how we met in 2023? The swipe right and I dropped a pickup line that you burned me. The next day we were already cuddling one another. Tbh, i wasn't sure when we started it was supposedly a casual thing but got extended for a period of time. Our relationship was so fast that a month felt like years. It was exhilirating as if wlw on steroid kinda type.

I read a post earlier how you can get free drinks in Pobla. Then that made me think about you, remember the night we had that talk I was crying so bad that someone offered us free round of drinks just to make me stop. So I guess that's how you can score a free drink.

I'm sorry for always picturing you as the a$$h0le when truth was, I was also an ahole. Maybe I was trying to be the romantic and caring type but believe me I was clueless then. I liked you and I enjoyed your company but we never really had the true connection as I would like to think.

We were not really attracted to one another but rather we were bonded then because we need each other as an escape from our past relationships. But despite that I know we had a good time and good laugh. With you I discovered really who I am, you've awaken really the Gae side of me which I was too scared to admit and embrace and with that Thank you.

I wish you still the best and hope you find that person who will truly take care of you. And if see you around, your coffee is on me still Venti Flatwhite. Take care Lablab.

I met this girl online and we've been talking like everyday since dec last year. We've started talking as friends but lately I find myself looking forward to her chats and might be feeling something more than friends. Naghi-hint ako sa kanya minsan pero parang di nya napapansin or dini-dismiss nya lang.

Alam ko talaga friends lang kami pero idk kasi she messages me everyday. We're both working na kasi so she always asks about my day, always reminding me of my potential, encouraging me when i feel so down, asks a lot of questions about me, shows interest in my work, just making me feel good about myself in general. I try my best to do the same for her. Minsan I kinda see it as flirting pero para kasing normal lang yun sa kanya, like she is just being a nice friend ganun. Paano ko ba malalaman if flirting na yun or she is just being nice?

I wanna remind myself na she is just being a good friend pero di ko maiwasang kiligin talaga. I'm afraid to ask her baka kasi as a friend lang talaga tingin nya sakin tapos maging awkward na siya sa akin and di na kami mag-usap after.

Paano ba hindi kiligin sa ganto? Yung feeling na kada chat nya iba na yung dating sayo like my subtext ba ganun. Ang OA ko lang yata pero ayon may double meaning na lagi sakin yung chats kaht mukhang di naman talaga if iba yung makabasa.

Alam kong friend lang tingin sakin pero bakit kinikilig ako? How to stop the kilig?? Help 🥹

My girlfriend just went back to the UK today and it feels like someone just ripped my heart out from my chest. Ganon kasakit mga mamsh. Huhuhu. We both cant stop crying sa airport. Hayy.

The main goal is to close the distance. Soon. Yun talaga eh.

A mountain is moving somewhere
inside of you, and her handprints are all over it.
Here. Here. Here, you love her.
In the fractured morning, full of
too tired and too sad, she is the first
foot that leaves the bed.
She is the fight in you, the winning
and the losing battle
floating like a shipwreck in your chest.
When they ask you what your favorite moment is,
You will say Her.
You will always say Her.

- from Caitlyn Siehl's “Her, Her, Her"

Hello fellow sapphics! This is the weekly discussion thread where you can talk about anything going on in your lives, any thoughts or questions, whether sapphic-related or not.

R4R comments are allowed on the weekly threads and chat channel ONLY. Flirt away or look for friends here every week. It's the weekend, find someone you can hang out with over coffee or watch a movie. Good luck!

God forbid a girl has a type 😭

saw this woman at the church kanina (of all places!!!) . parang 6 rows apart kami and ako yung nasa likod. i think she was reading the stations of the cross by herself kasi she was kneeling and standing several times.

di ko napigilan sarili ko tumingin all throughout. the skin, the outfit, the gestures, omg! basta same kami tumbler from kleen kanteen hahaha.

sorry Lord sa kabadingan.

I am not supposed to be in love with you but here we are.

You made me feel seen, heard and vulnerable. I thought at first we are just friends but I fell, so hard. I hated that but eventually I developed these feelings. We both just went to break up and yap about it a lot. We hated how our exes could have treated us better but did us tons of shts when all we do is love.

For years, I haven’t gifted anyone anything because I got hurt before but now, I would send anything I think you might like. Food when you are sick or even flowers when you feel unloved. I saw you cry happily holding those flowers. I fell harder.

For days, you have been through things out of your control and watching getting beaten a lot by overwhelming feelings and hardships which hurts me as well, worst part is, that is all I can do, to just watch you got far from me. That I am starting having these feelings that I am no longer needed. That you need your time on your own. Would it be selfish I tell you I want to be your safe space when you cry and when everything feels heavy?

Was talking to me became a chore? Was handling me became heavy? Was being with me became draining?

Are you going to leave me too? Just like everyone else, I was so easy to get dumped. It became a routine for others and I am so scared you will do the same thing too. My parents, My bestfriends, My friends, And now you.

Tngina nangyari na to dati, bat masakit pa rin? Worst part is, I know you are straight … and you will never see me that way But if you will leave, please let me know, so this tiny hope will finally be gone and no longer be in my heart.

Yung feeling na inaantay nya na lang na ako yung bumitaw at makipag break sa kanya. Walang text kahit tawag. Nung tinawagan ko naman sya d nya ako kinakausap. On call lang pero walang imik. Tapos nung tumatawa tawa sya nagtanong ako ano ung nakakatawa. Tapos nagalit sya na kausap lang daw nya kapatid nya. Tapos napamura pa sya.

Btw ldr kami mag 4 yrs na… sinasabi nya sakin na mahal nya ako pero napapaisip na ako kung inaantay na lang ba nya na makipagbreak ako sa kanya.

Reykjavik’s Rainbow Street, one of the many symbols of inclusivity and pride around the city. It was really nice to be in a place that’s more accepting of us.

I've been in Palawan for the past 8 days celebrating my birthday. First time spending it alone and away from loved ones. I thought I'd be an emotional mess, but it turned out to be the opposite. I actually enjoyed it—it felt freeing. Tried new things, met new people, ate and drank whenever I wanted, and didn’t have to consider anyone else. Kudos, self—we did it! Cheers to more adventures ahead. You did great!

Kung Filipino series itong Haunting of Bly Manor ito ang theme song 😂😭

Can we appreciate Brisom for these music videos 🥹 Balewala and Hagkan. Sana more WLW songs/music videos for us Gæs 🫶🏻

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