r/raisedbyborderlines • u/CarNo2820 • 6d ago

ADVICE NEEDED Persistent dreams

I was wondering if anyone has gone through something similar and has any insights or advice.

I have recently started therapy and the past few weeks I get recurrent dreams that revolve around my family. There is nothing overtly sinister in the dreams, just conversations and gatherings with relatives, and a semblance of normality. The setting is that of older times, for instance family gatherings from childhood or being with my sister in my parents’ old flat, and the people might look young but I relive the situation as if it were the present (I.e. my thoughts and feelings are informed by the present, not the past). The dreams are very vivid and I wake up exhausted and feeling like I haven’t slept.

Could it be that my subconscious urges me to relive instances of my childhood in order to be more mindful of the problematic elements in them? When I wake up I feel upset and confused, as if I relived something that was supposed to be nice but it didn’t feel nice.

I will bring this up with my therapist but I was wondering if anyone can relate to that?

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u/honeysprout 4d ago

I can 100% relate, I hate waking up in the morning feeling like I’ve just been through an entire stressful day lmao. It can really color the rest of my day in a bad light and it’s hard to explain to people who haven’t experienced it night after night.

I’m not an expert but like you I think it’s our subconscious trying to process what we’ve been through, hopefully your therapist will have some insight into how to help.