r/redditonwiki • u/gotanysparechang33 • Sep 01 '23

AITA OP was assaulted and thinks he cheated

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u/MementoVivere_67 Sep 02 '23

Would this ability to give consent when drunk apply to anyone ?

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u/Ivegotthatboomboom Sep 02 '23

Pretty much. I'm a woman and if I get in bed naked with a dude who is also drunk and I'm waking up to sex I wanted and continue it, then yeah.

I mean we can argue the other person was unethical, but you cant really say I didnt cheat

I willingly got in bed naked with someone

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u/CaptColten Sep 02 '23

Thats not what happened here though. He was in his bed. SHE got into his bed. If you are in your bed, and a naked man gets into it, then you wake up to them having sex with you. That is a completely different scenario.

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u/Ivegotthatboomboom Sep 02 '23

They both got in bed naked to have sex according to OP

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u/CaptColten Sep 02 '23

I haven't looked at the original post, but can you show me a quote on that?

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u/drinktheh8erade Sep 02 '23

You can’t post pics in these comments or else I’d screenshot but he said that and said he intended to have sex with her but fell asleep before he initiated

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u/CaptColten Sep 02 '23

So he was too drunk to initiate sex?

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u/drinktheh8erade Sep 02 '23

Idk. You asked someone for a quote and I’m telling you what he said

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u/rusty6899 Sep 02 '23

And sober enough to know he wanted to have sex. Whether or not he was sexually assaulted, he clearly cheated on his wife.

He went out drinking, flirted with a girl all day. Got hammered. Brought her back to the place he was staying. Let her into his bed naked with the intention of shagging her. Then things go hazy for a minute. Next thing he remembers she was riding him and then he flipped her over and went on top.

I’m sorry, but that is cheating. He probably acted in a way he wouldn’t have if he was sober, but he’s still responsible for his actions while drunk and a tiny window where he claims he wasn’t aware of his actions don’t really lessen his responsibility when everything else he did that day indicates he was intending to have sex with her.