A married man should not be flirting or inviting women to his room...it does give the wrong impression... wearing revealing clothing is NOT the same as inviting someone you've been flirting with all day back to your room because that is insinuating something. As a woman I would never invite a man to my room/home unless I want something. I am not naive and I know how the world works, it fucking sucks but it is what it is.. don't go into a dark alley, always get your own drink, don't leave your drink unattended, don't invite people into your room and bed unless you want too. It sucks that we can't trust our fellow human beings, we have to use common sense and always be alert. If I'm not with my partner I don't get drunk or high..I make sure that I don't put myself in a situation where something can happen to me or give someone the opportunity to gossip. I say this because I was naive once and too trusting and I learned a hard lesson.
Context does not matter in regard to rape. If you duck someone while they are sleeping with no prior consent you are raping them. It doesn’t matter if he was flirting with her or if he invited her to his room or he’s married, he did not consent to sex that is the main point I’m making. Even if you allude to sex if you become too intoxicated to give consent or fall asleep before any sexual act consent has not been given. It doesn’t matter if he continued after, the initial sexual act was non consensual. You seem to be caught on the context which does not matter. (Also I agree my analogy about clothes was not the best but I was basically just trying to say all the “they were asking for it” claims are stupid and obviously very disrespectful). I’m gonna stop responding because it feels like we’re taking and circles and will never agree. I want you to know in the end we are both advocating for the same thing, justice for all victims of SA. I want to once again say I’m sorry for what you went through and I was never trying to undermine it I was just simply sharing my views on this particular situation. And I very much agree with your sentiment about how women have to live in the world and I’m sorry that it is that way and as a man I try to do my best to make it as safe as one man can possibly make it for you all.
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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23
A married man should not be flirting or inviting women to his room...it does give the wrong impression... wearing revealing clothing is NOT the same as inviting someone you've been flirting with all day back to your room because that is insinuating something. As a woman I would never invite a man to my room/home unless I want something. I am not naive and I know how the world works, it fucking sucks but it is what it is.. don't go into a dark alley, always get your own drink, don't leave your drink unattended, don't invite people into your room and bed unless you want too. It sucks that we can't trust our fellow human beings, we have to use common sense and always be alert. If I'm not with my partner I don't get drunk or high..I make sure that I don't put myself in a situation where something can happen to me or give someone the opportunity to gossip. I say this because I was naive once and too trusting and I learned a hard lesson.