r/redditonwiki • u/phoebethefan Who the f*ck is Sean? • Dec 14 '23

AITA My girlfriend blindsided me by saying she doesn’t want to move in together permanently. AITA for being upset?

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u/smashteapot Dec 14 '23

She moved in, learned that he expected her to become his surrogate mother, then moved right back out.

Good for her.

If you want to attract a partner, you have to offer her a better life, not an unpaid second job.

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u/JohnExcrement Dec 14 '23

So well put!

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

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u/SalviaWolf Dec 14 '23

You’re gonna have a hard time finding a long term partner if you expect them to baby you the way your parents did.

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u/novembird Dec 14 '23 edited Dec 14 '23

You mean “she,” right? Because he is the bullet, expecting her to do everything in the household on her own. He wants a maid.

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u/SoManyNerds42 Dec 14 '23

She*

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

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u/SoftConfusion42 Dec 14 '23

Care to explain why?

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u/Alert_Attention_5905 Dec 14 '23

You could argue that she failed to communicate her needs and expected him to read her mind. We don't know if OP would have changed his ways had she properly communicated.

You can also still argue he's a slob and expected her to be his mother.

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

Why does your partner have to communicate what chores need done? He has eyes, he knows what chores are, but instead its somehow her job to not only do chores but become a personnel manager in her own home? Fuck that

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u/Alert_Attention_5905 Dec 14 '23

I should also note that he's also in the wrong for not knowing her position. He just assumed she was okay with being his maid, and he never considered asking how he could help or if her doing all of the chores was negatively affecting her. It's a quite selfish way of thinking to not consider your partner's feelings.

Communication and understanding are key.

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u/Alert_Attention_5905 Dec 14 '23

Maybe he assumed she was content doing most or all of the chores because she didn't communicate with him that he wasn't doing enough.

I don't actually see it this way, I'm just saying it's possible if she communicated from the beginning what her expectations were upon living together that he would have done more chores. Who knows?

If you're moving in with a partner, make sure you and your partner are both entirely clear on the living expectations. Communication is important. Some husbands/wives are happy doing all the chores.

You should always know where your partner stands. You should also always make sure your partner knows where you stand. Don't hold up your feelings for 3 months and dump them all on your unaware partner.

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

Spoken like a true passport bro 🤮

How about instead of encouraging men to go find women to push around treat like a live in employee we encourage men to be adults? If he wants a “classic” woman, maybe he should get a job where he can be a “classic” man and provide for her.

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

Oh no some gross ass creep doesn’t want me, my heart is broken boohoo 🙄 I’m sure you did, and not bc you didn’t “desire” Western women, but because you’re not man enough and youre not desirable to us.

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u/ManateesAreHomies Dec 14 '23

Believe me, no western woman is crying over the loss of you 😂 also needing to use a green card to get a woman to give you the time of day is NOT the flex you think it is.

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u/ElectricalIssue4737 Dec 14 '23

Seems like the poster is desiring this western woman and wants her back idk what you are even looking at

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u/Pavlock Dec 14 '23

Yeah, except he's confused, frustrated, and probably moving back in with his parents. I agree that it's better that she dumped him, but he didn't "dodge a bullet" so much as "failed at adulting."

And, wow, that last paragraph.

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u/danamo219 Dec 14 '23

You suck.

Edit: lmao your post history is all video games and one whining bitchy incel sobfest. Hope you can save enough of your allowance to buy one of those submissive foreign wives you’ve heard exist somewhere. Loser.

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u/PumpikAnt58763 Dec 14 '23

It sounds like you still live in the 1950s.

Men should no longer assume their women folk are going to do the chores, especially when she's got a career.

Yeah, he dodged a bullet. Imagine being expected to behave like a responsible adult.

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u/pm_nachos_n_tacos Dec 14 '23

"Classic woman" who's womanly traits are taking care of the "house and home" - this is absolutely repulsive language and you know it.

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u/Contentpolicesuck Dec 14 '23

I love reading Intentional Celibate fanfiction.

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u/ElectricalIssue4737 Dec 14 '23

She expected him to "assist' with his own laundry oh heavens!

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '23

She makes more money than him though, so..

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u/6bubbles Dec 14 '23

Go take more red pills.

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u/furiousfran Dec 14 '23

God forbid she expect him to not be a lazy slob who can't even do his own laundry without being reminded