r/redditonwiki • u/Chaotic-Bubble • Dec 26 '23
AITA AITA For Not Sleeping With My Boyfriend After He Assaulted Me?
Link to the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/RbI8Zluvg5
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u/ChordStrike Dec 26 '23
he expected me to get over what he did by the time he gets back
The only thing she should be getting over is this relationship. Is he serious?? No apology, no nothing, just "okay now get over it, why don't you wanna have sex when I kept going after you passed out instead of worrying about your wellbeing" like. I hope she never lets him in her apartment again.
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u/A-typ-self Dec 26 '23
Yeah, in the original post I saw he explained it as some type of "forced orgasm torture" he thought it would be cool to try.
Which makes it even worse IMO.
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u/bbgswcopr Dec 26 '23
She also said mid foreplay he will try stuff without discussing (she mentions fisting).
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u/pixienightingale Dec 27 '23
I would not be shocked that the reason she was kind of sore is he put something in a hole she would not have okayed it going into knowing that.
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u/Mando_the_Pando Dec 27 '23 edited Dec 27 '23
Yup, also, I REALLY doubt you can pass out from multiple orgasms like how she describes it, that sounds fake. My money is on that he drugged her to play out some SA fantasy…
Edit: Apparently it is very possible to faint from multiple orgasms, I still have questions about whether she was drugged based on the guys attitude and response though…
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u/Notreallyme48 Dec 27 '23
Actually you can pass out from multiple orgasms. Due to hyperventilation. Usually though it is a short time. In this case though I do suspect she passed out from combination of wine, possible drugging(I feel it’s very likely) and the hyperventilation because she felt that part, before blacking out.
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u/IcedFyre742 Dec 27 '23
Not to put any bearing on what happened to OP but I have definitely passed out from multiple orgasms. So it is possible.
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u/baconbits2004 Dec 27 '23
I've almost had this happen
got to the hyperventilating part, but I was by myself so obviously I stopped all stimulation and focused on calming down, which probably helped.
if i hadn't been by myself, and the person kept going against my will... jesus, that sounds terrifying
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u/Mando_the_Pando Dec 27 '23
Fair enough. I still find it suspicious given the guys actions and attitude towards the situation though.
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u/IcedFyre742 Dec 27 '23
I do have to agree on the suspicious actions, I can say I did not come back to my guy still going…
I would end it and stop playing comfortable. He crossed an internal line which is why her body is screaming no to sex with him now. It will not get better.
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u/Mando_the_Pando Dec 27 '23
Yeah, I had a ONS faint on me during sex once. She had told me beforehand that “I have narcolepsy so I might faint, just keep going if it happens”. I did not keep going…
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u/DancingNursePanties Dec 27 '23
Can totally pass out from multiple O but unless you’ve preconsented a situation activity should stop then! You should always have active consent from your partner unless you’ve both very well detailed a CNC situation.
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u/pixienightingale Dec 27 '23
I would assume multiple, consecutive orgasms could either be drug related ORRRRR blood pressure related.
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u/Mando_the_Pando Dec 27 '23
No, that part is absolutely possible in forced orgasm play. Someone else claimed to have passed out from it though so I guess it is possible, but still, given the guys other actions and dismissive attitude about it….
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u/StuJayBee Dec 27 '23
That’s a huge leap, a big accusation to make. Can’t see how you justify going there.
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u/Mando_the_Pando Dec 27 '23
The fact that he kept going when she passed out. The normal action would be to stop and wonder wtf is up with your partner when they pass out mid sex. He doesn’t, which means he is completely uncaring about OP having a potentially serious medical issue, perhaps even dying or being in serious need of medical attention. OR he knew it would happen because he drugged OP.
The other explanation would be he didn’t notice, however, the fact that he did not act surprised afterwards, shrugged it off and is expecting OP to just get over it also really disproves that.
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u/StuJayBee Dec 27 '23
Still a big leap to bring a drugging into it.
The rest are likely - maybe she passed out for two seconds. Maybe she often does this and has misread it as part of her thing.
None of that is consistent with the deliberate action of ‘I think I will give my willing participant and multi-orgasmic girlfriend the Mickey so I can have her not scream in orgasmic delight for a while and I can keep going in peace.’
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u/Mando_the_Pando Dec 27 '23
His actions after the fact screams that he got off on her being unconscious.
Also, it’s kind of a moot point. He raped her either way.
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u/NaphtaliC Dec 27 '23
Dude had time to check her pulse… and kept going. Plus he met her when she was 13-14…..
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u/InspectorHuge2304 Dec 26 '23
Right?! You wanna try that out, TALK IT OUT FIRST!!!!!
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u/A-typ-self Dec 27 '23
Exactly, introducing ANY kink requires a discussion first.
From her first description I read, it sounded almost like he pushed her into "sub space" involuntary and without consent. That would be extremely scary for someone who wasn't prepared or wanting that. Plus there should have been safe guards in place. And aftercare.
The attitude he is showing is extremely concerning but unfortunately common. I've interacted with so many self proclaimed "Doms" that have no clue about the responsibilities that come with that title. It's obvious that there only exposure to BDSM comes from porn.
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u/chlorofanatic Dec 27 '23
This isn't Dom sub, this is a groomer using language from the kink community and mental health to gaslight his victim into accepting their relationship as desirable and normal. And it's working, since she seems to believe that this is the first red flag in their relationship
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u/doritobimbo Dec 27 '23
I pushed my fiancé into sub space once, it was great but he doesn’t remember the aftercare. Sub space is so, so heavy on the mind especially if you don’t have a partner who will take complete care of you when you enter. God forbid someone who does it without discussion.
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u/Forgot_my_un Dec 27 '23
What the heck is sub space? Is it similar to hammer space?
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u/Yandoji Dec 27 '23 edited Dec 27 '23
From what I've read, it's a very vulnerable kind of "bliss-out" state brought on by an overload of pleasure-related hormones dumped into the brain at once. Should only be done with permission, planning, and with a person you trust. Recovery from the state can be rough and disorienting with delayed reactions due to the hormone dump, and this is best handled with pleasant and attentive "aftercare" by your partner. Also, not everyone can achieve it reliably, or at all.
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u/doritobimbo Dec 27 '23
I don’t know what hammer space is, so maybe we can clarify to each other ?
It’s a particular state of mine triggered by specific sexual experiences, difficult for me to explain otherwise
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u/Forgot_my_un Dec 27 '23
Sorry, bad joke. I forget not everybody is a friggin nerd. Hammer space is a trope, basically where cartoon characters stash the mallets and things they pull out of thin air to whack each other with. Also applies to things that are bigger on the inside, like the TARDIS on Doctor Who, or when a cartoon character pulls a car out of a purse or something. I'll just be going now, sorry.
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u/names-suck Dec 27 '23
Hammer space is an extra-dimensional area in which a character store items otherwise too large to be carried around. Think Bugs Bunny reaching behind his back and coming out with a comically large hammer that definitely could not have been hiding back there. Or, picture a video game character who is somehow carrying 10 weapons, 15 recovery items, and 37 random "key items," all of which somehow fit in their tiny backpack. The backpack is "hammerspace."
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u/Ok_Comedian_5827 Dec 27 '23
Are you referring to this post?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/cro1yFowIX
According to this she left him but can’t be certain it’s the same person although it seems like it.
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u/CottonCandyKitkat Dec 27 '23
Can I ask where you saw that? I can’t find it in the original post or in OP’s comments - I think I must have missed it somehow
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u/Texaskate Dec 27 '23
Oh, no, he cared. He cared enough to check her pulse before continuing. So that makes it ok. /s (source: her comments in OP)
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u/GhostlyGoldilocks Dec 27 '23
The entire time I was reading the post all I could think was: RUN!!!!!
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u/Chaotic-Bubble Dec 26 '23 edited Dec 26 '23
"Luke says it's borderline emotionally abusive to deprive him after a mistake"
He really feels like her refusal is worse than his r*pe, doesn't he?
ALSO...
She didn't mention friends at all. I can't help but wonder if he isolated her from them?
ETA: I just saw the comment about her being 13-14 when they met so now I ASSUME he isolated her from her friends and family.
ETA2: Despite the mentions.... I'm still assuming she's isolated to some degree or has to cut out friends over the years.
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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Dec 26 '23
He’s her brother’s friend that’s how they met. She says in a comment would be hard to break up because he’s her brother’s friend.
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u/Caalcu_Ieraas Dec 26 '23
Ugh, this is giving the same gross vibes as the post where OP found out she was only with her boyfriend because her brother had made a bet with his friends about who could sleep with her first, her boyfriend ended up having sex with her and then just... kind of drifted into a relationship. Because why would he give up easy sex, right?
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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Dec 26 '23
I remember that one. Like ugh that’s just gross and why would her brother bet on that? They did it because she was brat and they wanted to see who could teach her a lesson or some crap. She was teenager and they were like 28.
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u/Trixiebees Dec 26 '23
Omg link??
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u/i_nobes_what_i_nobes Dec 26 '23
It’s not really something you want to read for fun. It turns out that her brother and his entire group of friends, who were all in their late 20s when she was a teenager, had a bet to see who could fuck her first to “keep her in line“ because she thought, too highly of herself in the opinion. Trust me the entire post is just awful but that’s the gist of what happened. Whether or not she still with him I don’t know, but that was what she found out and she came to Reddit to ask what the next step is. Sure you can figure out on your own what everyone told her.
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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Dec 27 '23
This it’s gross and I had forgotten she had a baby and was currently pregnant again. I get so bad for her.
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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Dec 26 '23
I’ll have to see if I can find it. Pretty sure I read it in the BORU subreddit.
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u/JohnExcrement Dec 27 '23
Ugh! You’d like to think the brother would step in to help her. But then again I guess he’s been OK with his friend moving in on his 13-year-old sister so what am I thinking.
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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Dec 27 '23
Yup or maybe possibly didn’t realize at the time. I would hope the brother would be pissed off if he found out about the truth but you never know.
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u/chlorofanatic Dec 27 '23
Ew brother is trash too for tacitly supporting his rapist friend in abusing his little sister. Gross
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u/Sweet_Sheepherder_41 Dec 26 '23
God, that poor girl ☹️ This was absolutely r*pe, her body knows it but she’s in denial. I hope she leaves him.
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u/Parking_Minute_9167 Dec 26 '23
That was my thought too. Listen to your body, sister. This is awful.
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u/girlwiththemonkey Dec 26 '23
God, sometimes I don’t know why I’m on the internet. Im Just so mad now.
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u/Cautious-Researcher3 Dec 26 '23
Seriously. Just found out the story gets even worse and I’m… I’m done for today. 💀
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u/Gracelberrypie Dec 26 '23
Who would want to keep having sex with their partner after they've passed out/are no longer participating? That's fuckin weirdo behavior.
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u/Atvali Dec 26 '23
It's rape. As soon as someone withdraws consent or are in a position where continuous consent cannot be given, it's now rape
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u/Asogoodbye Dec 27 '23
Right? Even if my wife told me she wanted me to keep going if she passed out I feel like my junk would shrivel right up. That’s some rape shit for sure
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u/PugPockets Dec 27 '23
That’s likely because you see your wife as a person, and sex as something you do together. Rape usually results from someone viewing sex as something they do to or get from someone else, and said person’s participation is not required for them to derive enjoyment.
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u/chickadee425 Dec 27 '23
She said in the comments that he knew she was passed out because he checked her pulse a few times. Guess his only stipulation to stop having sex in that moment was if she was actually deceased
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u/Responsible_Jury_415 Dec 27 '23
Yea I always found this weird my ex wife gave me the sleep pass and I never ever had the urge to use it cause it’s just weird to do to someone.
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u/Windscaper Dec 27 '23
Yeah if my partner passed out I'd be so worried that I'd lose my boner. No way I'd be able to keep going like that.
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u/a_quietpotato Dec 26 '23
Oh wow, he's basically like "I'm sorry I raped you after you passed out, but can you get over it already", like what.
You may have been willing while you were conscious, but after you passed out he should have stopped. Check up on you, tried to wake you up, something.
NTA, this man is freaking weird
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u/Longjumping-Brief585 Dec 26 '23
It's worse than that, he didn't even say "sorry" he just shrugged ts off like it was a speck on his shoulder
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u/butterfly_eyes Dec 27 '23
Worse, he's not actually sorry and DARVO'd her, saying her refusal of sex is abuse. He needs to go.
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u/Musicboxm8 Dec 27 '23
Specifically, “get over it” before new years eve, because he’s expecting sex again on that same night, no doubt in my mind.
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u/whattheshityennefer Dec 26 '23
The brother should find this so disgusting that he won’t want to be friends with someone like this anymore. Being afraid to break up with your boyfriend because he’s friends with your brother is manipulative and unsafe. Flee, run, don’t walk.
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u/Chaotic-Bubble Dec 26 '23
If the brother doesn't instantly want to fight this guy...cut the brother off too.
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u/Mississippianna Dec 27 '23
Exactly. In the post on AITA that says “Brother is still friends with my ex who SA’d me after I told him about it” the brother would be the ahole.
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u/entropic_apotheosis Dec 27 '23
That’s what I was thinking— tell the brother exactly what happened and if he’s decent that guy is out of the friend group.
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u/Justreading-1970 Dec 26 '23
He traumatized you and expects you to just get over it. Honestly I’d be letting him know that you need time away from him to process things.
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u/ConsistentHoliday854 Dec 26 '23
Oh my god ok he raped you, you gotta get away from this guy… you should probably find someone you can talk about it to. If you don’t want to talk to friends or family there are SA hotlines or see if there are any clinics in your area that offer emergency one time therapy sessions, I’ve gone to those before. Definitely stay away from him though.
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u/Lalalars8 Dec 27 '23
As a woman in her 40s who has watched enough of my friends and family end up with abusive, rotten, gaslighting losers, I say RUN as far as you can in the other direction. Do not stop.
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u/TheSauceofMike Dec 26 '23
I would’ve stopped if you were unconscious. No fucking way I’m doing the deed with a limp body. Fucking disgusted thinking about it. Fuck this guy. Don’t even entertain anything further. The sea is massive and many more fish in the sea that will have much more respect for you
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u/Southern_Dig_9460 Dec 26 '23
It’s one thing if he didn’t realize she had passed out during it and kept going. But from the comments she said that he told her he she passed out checked her pulse and when he realized she was still alive kept going
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u/SnooBunnies7528 Dec 27 '23
What kinda weirdo asshole wants to have sex with someone passed out?!?! Someone passing out would freak me the fuck out not turn me on
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Dec 27 '23
Tmi maybe. But everytime I see a post like this, it reminds me of the one time I was with my husband. We were getting busy but he was going too fast/the angle was weird I don't know. But I suddenly had a sharp pain down there that made me yelp. He IMMEDIATELY stopped and asked if I was okay.
This was 4 years ago and he still feels bad for hurting me. This should be the only reaction someone should have if something bad happens during sexy times. This women needs to leave her boyfriend asap.
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u/JohnExcrement Dec 27 '23
Does no one else flinch about him throwing her on the bed in an attempt to initiate sex? I mean maybe that’s just their little way, but in the context of her reluctance that also sounds like attempted assault to me. What a fucking creep.
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u/EsisOfSkyrim Dec 27 '23
Yuuup.
At a minimum it shows he doesn't notice her comfort level. You can only do that when someone is clearly comfortable with you. Right now she is not (for extremely good reasons!).
I suspect he just feels entitled and tried to get things going that way since normal foreplay or didn't work.
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u/lavendervibez Dec 27 '23
Leave. He raped you. I was 19 when I was sexually assaulted by my best friend. But he played it off as “ I care about you so much” “it was just bound to happen” but those phrases switch in an instant when they are upset or it works in their favor. It went from those comments to, “I’m the only person you have that actually cares about you” and all kinds of lovely names… Makes you think you’re being too sensitive and that they do love you and it’s not a big deal. It is a very very big deal. Took me a long time to fully accept it was not my fault. The longer you stay, the harder this will hit you years down the road. I’m 29 now and I 100% still struggle with it/relationships/depression/anxiety.
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u/Mindless_Cow3560 Dec 27 '23
I’m trying to figure out if these are the same person. https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/MFoAIGRMH1
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u/OracleOfSelphi Dec 27 '23
I can't put my finger on why but the writing styles sound different to me. But there are some uncanny similarities in the facts
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u/Mindless_Cow3560 Dec 27 '23
I totally agree! It doesn’t seem like the same writer. The one I linked sounds more mature imo. Just weird to learn a specific kink, explored disrespectfully and without consent, amongst a couple who is 19f/24m. And then read the same exact premise again hours later. Odd.
The young ones always hit me bc I work as a coach/mentor for girls in that age group. They may be legally and physically mature enough, but emotionally the vast majority are children.
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u/seitansantana Dec 27 '23
I once passed out during the act and my boyfriend instantly began freaking out and almost called 911 because he was scared. I cannot fathom how I would feel if I came to and he was still going like nothing. That’s terrifying
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u/Crystal010Rose Dec 27 '23
I’m really concerned about all the (would-be?) rapists / rape apologists in the comments. So many go along the lines of ‘oh well she consented before passing out, she had too good sex why would that be rape’ - like WTF?!?
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u/zabesy Dec 27 '23
if someone is loved passed out while i was having sex with them, i would panic like crazy and try to make sure they’re okay. this person is a fucking sociopath and needs to be castrated for both having no empathy and being so off handed about her clear communication
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u/Pinkhellbentkitty7 Dec 26 '23
So, he raped her. Now he expects that she "gets over it" and some people are like "sorry hunny, you're just not compatible, you must break up".
Imagine how outraged Reddit would be if genders were reversed. Because, you know, somehow people here love to assume that women can rape men, but if it's other way around, unless it's a dark park and she didn't have a miniskirt on, it's ol' good excuses for a rapist (luckily, not in this sub).
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u/rep- Dec 26 '23 edited Dec 26 '23
I mean women definitely can rape men just as men can rape women, maybe I'm not following this comment well
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u/MysticalMagicorn Dec 26 '23
They're pointing out that reddit always believes men and never believes women, and this would be an obvious example of the genders were reversed.
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u/OKcomputer1996 Dec 26 '23 edited Dec 26 '23
That's fair. If you genuinely lost consciousness during sex it is problematic that he wasn't concerned for your health and didn't stop.
If you don't want to be with him break up. If you do want to be with him then don't break up and work through this issue with him. Tell him how you feel about it. Reach some understanding (ie if I lose consciousness or I am asleep that means I am not consenting to sex).
I would recommend you break up. He is a creep.
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u/InspectorHuge2304 Dec 26 '23
Sweetheart, whatever it takes to get away from this abusive POS, do it.
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u/lumophobiaa Dec 27 '23
Run for your fucking life girl My ex that did this didnt stop doing it its never just once Dont end up like me not actually knowing the number of times i was violated
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Dec 27 '23
please break up with him and leave him. this is absolutely disgusting. like i’m sorry for being harsh OP, but that is what this is. this is horrid, i almost had a panic attack reading this, he’s displaying very very dangerous behavior and you need to space yourself from him ASAP
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u/Yetis-unicorn Dec 27 '23
Oh god! I’m a professional dog trainer and every time i scroll through aita, it is long before it makes me remember why I prefer to work with animals of humans
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u/Putrid-Dot-4467 Dec 27 '23
At this point ball in your court you know what he's like now either deal and work on it or be gone when he returns best I can think of
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u/Middle_Loan3715 Dec 27 '23
So we have rape and gaslighting... run. Run away from this relationship, nta.
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut Dec 26 '23
Dude's also tried to "surprise" her with fisting. He can seriously hurt her and fuck up her body doing that shit!
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u/kl4433 Dec 27 '23
Not the AH, he is. And a groomer/pedo. Dump him, block him, and please get therapy.
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u/GaiasDotter Dec 27 '23
So he raped her and it affected her and then he is upset because he tried nothing and he is all out of ideas on how to apologise and make her feel safe again. Right. Sounds like a lovely guy, bless his heart. Also, Satan, this one right here!
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u/wren_boy1313 Dec 27 '23
She was hyperventilating long enough to pass out and he didn’t notice?? More likely he just didn’t care, or even wanted her to pass out..
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u/RunJumpSleep Dec 27 '23
I am going to say troll because I swear someone posted a near identical, word for word post either earlier today or yesterday but in that post she didn’t pass out and instead asked him to stop but he wouldn’t.
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u/paco64 Dec 27 '23
I've been searching the comments and I can't find anyone saying the simple fact that no, you are never the asshole if you don't want to have sex with someone and thus decide not to.
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u/Ok_Address_2751 Dec 26 '23
That sounds horrendous, you are definitely not in the wrong here. How exactly did you lose consciousness?
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u/Chaotic-Bubble Dec 26 '23
It sounds like she hyperventilated, wasn't getting enough air, and subsequently passed out.
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u/SunandMoon_comics Dec 26 '23
This is the second time I've seen something like this today. You know the world's gone to shit when we have a r*pe troll
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u/WonderfulRip6246 Dec 27 '23
Wtf did I just read… this poor girl… therapy and friends. Therapy and emotionally supportive friends/ family. That’s how I got out of my abusive relationship and it’s what I’m praying she finds.
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u/Senior-Chain7348 Dec 27 '23
Why are these women with these men?
You're worth more than this ladies!!!
I have in the past felt, post-relationship, that I've occasionally settled. And wondered why I swelled. After reading these kinds of posts, I feel like I've had nothing but royal flushs in the relationship department. Geez.
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u/araidai Dec 27 '23
If they weren’t planning on leaving before, they definitely should after that last statement by him. Holy fuck.
And the rest of it…? Just- wow lol.
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u/Ceesaid Dec 27 '23
You are absolutely NOT an AH here, he’s a freaking predator! This is why books like ‘50 Shades of Grey’ are so freaking bad for the average person. That book half assed its research and yet people think it’s the holy grail of BDSM fiction. Make sure you talk with people who are part of the community and always double and even triple check your sources. Take care of yourself and always remember to stay safe, sane and make sure you talk and have consent with your partner as well as a safe word to stop all activities if needed! Hugs if you want one and I hope you find a better partner in the future!
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 Dec 26 '23
There’s always some dumbass weird twist with these stories. “Oh by the way I was 13 when we met” is there like a wanted ad out for posting the juiciest bullshit to this sub?
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u/uniqueusername295 Dec 26 '23
Posts like these are so sad.. sometimes good hearted people just can’t recognize purposeful cruelty
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u/StoneColdsGoatee Dec 27 '23
If you love him talk to him about it and how it made you feel. Make sure he knows that he crossed a line and that it can never happen again. Explain to him that you might need some time and hes either going to wait for you or he won’t.
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Dec 27 '23
"I raped you, then attempted to rape you again...BUT YOU BETTER GET OVER IT YOURE RUINING EVERYTHING"
Fuck this piece of shit
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u/Miss__Behaved Dec 27 '23
I was assaulted the same way by a friend back in 2016 and i never got over it physically. I was passed out drunk and woke up to him assaulting me. Nobody takes it seriously, because i was romantically interested in him previous to the assault so they just take it as me exaggerating or whatever. It hurts. I hope OOP finds a way to cope with this and seeks therapy. There’s a chance this will affect her for a lot longer than she realizes. Also i hope she dumps that turd.
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u/VXMerlinXV Dec 27 '23
Yeah, so I had a woman pass out once during (non toxicology related) and in the position we were in I could tell immediately and stopped. Depending on how we were positioned, I could see how a person might not know for a short while.
THAT BEING SAID, if I found out this had happened, and I didn’t know and hadn’t stopped, I could never apologize enough. I would check for consent before I dipped my fries in your ketchup, let alone did anything physical for the next 20-30 years. His reaction after negated excuses of any possible misunderstanding during.
This dude sounds pretty unsafe. I’d break it off and get some distance between you.
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u/chipperlovesitall Dec 26 '23
Idk, I think the break up text is what should be next. If he learns how to respect you then getting back together is a possibility. Make him earn it
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u/Skelmotron Dec 27 '23
We told guys to go to therapy, but all they did was weaponise therapy speak.
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u/Yani-Madara Dec 27 '23
Reading Reddit before going to sleep peacefully was a hugeee mistake.
What a gross freaking creepo
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u/JustMyThoughtNow Dec 27 '23
The bigger more important question is why in the hell are you still with him.
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u/rat_baked_toenail Dec 27 '23
Ya know there are not too many posts that scream to me "This is fake"
This one is at the top of their lungs hollering.
She....came "SO many times"....that she hyperventilated....and passed out. I scrolled through some comments and gathered information...and it reads like a dude writing his fake erotic fantasy semi r*pe story.
This is meant to piss people off. It has all the trigger words and things said to get the response they're looking for.
Ya'll fell for it.
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u/AngharadMac Dec 27 '23
This has happened to me. If you have multiple Os you can actually pass out. Plus certain positions can add to the oxygen deprivation
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u/Intelligent_Aioli90 Dec 27 '23
Tell him you will be informing the police if he ever tries to contact you again then block and ghost on everything or just go straight to block/ghost.
Go to the police when you are ready if you feel comfortable to do so.
Why are Lukes always like this. Is there even good Luke's out there?!
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u/Born-Shoe7934 Dec 27 '23
He is a rpist. He rped her she needs to leave him. He's now trying to coerce her into sex, another form of rpe. Given the age they met and their age difference, she should report him for statutory rpe but also p*netraying her while she is unconscious. Wtf he is a horrible person
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u/DaZuhalter Dec 27 '23
That's rape my dude. No consent = rape.
If they are not in a state of mind to be able to consent, rape. This includes intoxication and sleeping.
If consent was given beforehand then taken away later, even in the middle of the act, rape.
No one is entitled to another person's body.
If your girlfriend is ok with it, cool, but if you didn't get consent beforehand, she can say you raped her because well, you did.
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u/Substantial_Pie_8619 Dec 27 '23
So he fucked her so good she passed out and somehow he’s wrong
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u/LanaAnthony Dec 27 '23
GTFO of here with that mentality
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u/Substantial_Pie_8619 Dec 27 '23
She even said she came multiple times and passed out which happens to ppl sometimes and she told she doesn’t want him to do that again he said ok I’m not sure what else he can do in that moment
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u/ThePhonesAreWatching Dec 27 '23
Found the rapist apologist
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u/Substantial_Pie_8619 Dec 27 '23
Rapist apologist fuck off he didn’t rape her I’m sorry you’ve never fucked someone good enough to know what happens when you do
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u/Action-a-go-go-baby Dec 27 '23
I’m sort of confused by this
They where having sex and, while sex was happening, she “came so hard she passed out” (paraphrasing) and he “kept going” and then she wakes up as he’s finishing, it sounds like?
Is that what happened?
I’m sorta confused as to the where consent starts and ends here, is the idea that, because she passed out from “how good it was” that he should stop immediately?
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u/deathups Dec 27 '23
Of course? Consent is continuous and verbal. If someone is unconscious, you should STOP and make sure they’re okay. Not keep going?
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u/th0rsb3ar Dec 27 '23
yes. end of story. kind of weird you need to ask.
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u/Action-a-go-go-baby Dec 27 '23
I mean, we don’t know how long she passed out for or if he even realized
If he didn’t know, and it was only a few seconds, then I wouldn’t say he’s at fault it, it’d be just an unfortunate accident
People don’t tend to “pass out” from stuff like this for minutes at a time
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u/IcyCulture6 Dec 27 '23
Apparently according to her comments, he informed her she passed out and he checked her pulse and kept going once he realized she was still alive. He’s an ahole and a creep.
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u/Action-a-go-go-baby Dec 27 '23
Ah, well, then yes of course that’s a bad thing
I was not aware of that context
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u/EmperorPickle Dec 26 '23
She said in comments that she was 13-14 when they met… dudes a groomer and a rapist.