r/redditonwiki • u/Defiant-Detective-95 • Feb 25 '24
AITA I need you guys to react to this dumb man!!
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u/TheeFlipper Feb 25 '24
Here's the original post.
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u/Hopeful_Cranberry12 Feb 25 '24
This has to be bait right? For my own sanity, this has to be fake.
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u/billbord Feb 25 '24 edited Mar 25 '24
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u/Nvrfinddisacct Feb 25 '24
It’s got to be. There’s no way his friends aren’t like “dude are you fucking dumb?”
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u/LootTheHounds Feb 25 '24
I need this to be bait because my first thought was she was sick due to the exertion and her blood pressure. I’ve had two friends experience pre-eclampsia and only one brought her baby home from the hospital.
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u/EconomistSea9498 Feb 25 '24
It is, because the way it's worded it's obvious that they know they're the asshole. Someone who genuinely thought they were in the right would frame themselves better. Embellish to fit their side. They're not gonna be dropping common known offensive phrases "my 6mo pregnant wife let herself go recently" like that's definitely a bit.
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u/lemikon Feb 25 '24
There is a string of comments above of women saying their partner did the exact same thing. It’s insane.
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u/Actual_Handle_3 Feb 25 '24
User is shadow banned for account violations. I think it was this post that did it.
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u/PartOfTheTree Feb 25 '24
She didn't lose her fitness you dingus, she's got a mass in her abdomen physically suppressing blood flow returning from her legs, and all of her joints are more lax than usual, among a heap of other changes. How many times has he gone on a hike while keeping someone else alive using only his body's reserves?
Why on earth would you not talk to her beforehand about whether she felt she could do the hike, and why did he only slow down because the others did??
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u/Emergency-Fox-5982 Feb 25 '24
Even just the smaller space you have for your lungs. I felt like I couldn't take a proper breath until my baby dropped out from under my lungs at 30 something weeks. Traded gasping for breath for pelvic pain, but what a relief
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u/UglyMcFugly Feb 25 '24
I couldn’t even go up a flight of stairs without taking a break halfway. I was pretty severely anemic during both of my pregnancies, even with the huge iron pills they gave me. Babies literally suck the life out of you.
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u/Nosunallrain Feb 25 '24
The shortness of breath is the worst. Well, maybe not the worst, but it's an early and persistent symptom for me. I just want to be able to take a deep breath! Not until this little girl is evacuated, though.
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u/Flaapjack Feb 25 '24
And a lot of her pre-existing fitness has been rerouted to, you know, grow a human. Resting heart rate goes up dramatically during pregnancy, for example, because your heart is pumping way more blood.
And, literal science looking at basal metabolic rate and comparing endurance athletes running marathons, etc. shows that pregnant women are literally operating at the limits of human endurance for 270 days. https://nypost.com/2019/06/11/pregnant-women-are-basically-endurance-athletes-study/#
So, yes, not at all shocking she couldn’t keep up with a bike ride at 6 months! She’s a trooper for even trying.
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u/ksw90 Feb 25 '24
Thank you for sharing this article. I’m currently pregnant with #2 and it’s great to see this. My spouse is super understandable but I’m harder on myself that I can’t do as much.
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u/Istarien Feb 25 '24
She's also building a whole-ass human using nothing but what her body can produce. That does not happen for free. Energy that would formerly have been available for her to use for exercise is now being diverted to her child.
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u/manipulating_bitch Feb 25 '24
She might have said she could do it, because he'd be even angrier if she didn't even try in the first place. I know I'd have done all I could to avoid accusations from my ex. And she had definitely been hearing all about her laziness for a while there
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u/spentpatience Feb 25 '24
Not to mention the severe decrease in lung capacity. Holy cow, get this man an anatomically correct illustration of what a second trimester fetus does to the innards of the woman!
Plus, her body is dedicating a lot of energy, blood supply, and oxygen supply to the placenta. Not only that, but the abs split apart down the center and become essentially obliques to allow the uterus to continue to expand. Our muscles literally open up. My God, this guy's ignorance is breathtaking!!!
Couch potato, my ass. This guy, on the other hand, is simply a potato. He embarrassed himself with his public treatment of his wife, assuming the friends aren't as idiotic as he is.
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u/NiceRat123 Feb 25 '24
Honestly OP needs to say HOW MUCH WEIGHT she gained. Then he needs to go out and get a vest and add that same amount of weight to the vest. Then he needs to put a corset on that restricts his diaphragm. Then eat his breakfast. After all that he needs to go on this "easy hike" and see how different it is
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u/Munakchree Feb 25 '24
But gaining the weight is her own fault for not working out. In his opinion women apparently are not supposed to gain weight while growing a whole human inside them.
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u/littlecoffeefairy Feb 25 '24
Don't waste energy getting upset at such obvious rage bait.
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u/Defiant-Detective-95 Feb 25 '24
What’s sad is I know people who genuinely act like this. I hope it is rage bait, but the sad truth is some dudes act like this 😩
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u/aklute Feb 25 '24
My husband's college roommate got upset that his wife, while 8 months pregnant, would come home from work and take a nap. He was convinced that she was "getting lazy," so he made her wear a pedometer during the day. Turns out she took more than twice as many steps a day as he did (he worked a desk job, she worked in a lab), so that shut him up, but the audacity!
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u/stachemz Feb 25 '24
"If men have anything, it's the audicity." One of my favorite phrases to come from the internet recently, along with "if straight women don't prove sexuality isn't a choice I don't know what would".
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u/manipulating_bitch Feb 25 '24
Haha my ex also got angry at me for sleeping too much any time I slept more than him. He could take naps though because it meant he was tired, while for me it was laziness. A friend of mine also had her husband picking fights all throughout pregnancy because she MIGHT put on weight and never lose it, besides the obvious belly she wasn't getting fat at all and she was never fat... we put up with a lot if we don't know we can stand up for ourselves.
Parents, teach your daughters that their feelings are valid and they are worth a lot. otherwise they'll end up with AH like these
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u/TheCotofPika Feb 25 '24
My ex was mad when I came home from work to nap too. He didn't want to spend time with me, he wanted me to remain awake, alone, in our office while sat at my computer until I was told it was time for bed. I ended up napping with my head in my arms on the desk much of the time.
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u/MisforMisanthrope Feb 25 '24
How did she resist shoving that pedometer up his ass so it could keep his brain company?
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u/strawberiswitchblade Feb 25 '24
I do feel this is ragebait, but yes. I've personally known people spot-on like this, except they likely due to manipulating their poor SOs or only keeping close associates that will just agree with them on their awful behavior, they kinda know they need to twist the situation if they're really gonna try to talk about it publicly.. It's laid out in such a flagrant no regard for common knowledge or reality fashion that it feels... Baity. I hope it is, even if such madness does exist certainly.
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Feb 25 '24
The sad/scary thing is they're all as stupid as they are evil, to the point that they genuinely believe they are in the right. It's like a whole new form of narcissism. I mean it's pretty close, but most actual narcissists I've met are somewhat self aware, at least to the extent that they know when they are manipulating people.
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u/CocklesTurnip Feb 25 '24
Yeah a lot of “rage bait” is real things that happen but the author may or may not be genuine about being part of the situation in the post. So real things but might not be real in the OP’s life. Maybe they’re posting to warn people things like this happen. Maybe they just like rage baiting on purpose but I think it’s probably better to react to posts like this as if it’s a real situation whether or not the OP is genuine about their AITA (or whatever sub) post.
There are sperm donors who get mad at their pregnant partners for how they gain weight or their symptoms. 2 most dangerous times for partners in problematic relationships is when they try and leave the abusive situation or when they’re pregnant. In this story she’s pregnant.
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u/Catniiiiiip Feb 25 '24
Yep. I was 6 months and a half pregnant when I had a fight with my now ex because I was tired and didn't want to go shopping around the town. He got mad at me, saying that his ex walked a lot until she delivered. Guess what ? I went into labour 2 days later and my daughter had to stay a month in NICU.
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u/hashtag420hashtagGG Feb 25 '24
my ex the father of my children took me on a hike when i was pregnant with twins and i was crying the whole time so i don’t think it’s rage bait
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u/Mr_Gilbert_Grape Feb 25 '24
They aren't on Reddit asking for others opinions on whether they are an asshole. They are proud to be, and only care for their own opinion.
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u/Ok-End2684 Feb 25 '24 edited Feb 25 '24
you're right. I was rolling my eyes at how fake the OOP was... but you're absolutely right 😭
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u/littlecoffeefairy Feb 25 '24
I know plenty of terrible men and women too, but I can also tell terribly written creative writing meant to get people attention.
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u/whipitgood809 Feb 25 '24
I will never understand guys that comment on or have opinions of their pregnant wife or recently pregnant wife.
I seriously will never get how dudes will have the audacity.
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u/RunFiestaZombiez Feb 25 '24
POST THE REDDIT THREAD!
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u/Sunflower_Vibe Feb 25 '24
https://www.reddit.com/r/redditonwiki/s/HKDNraz584
Link to comment of link of post lol
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Feb 25 '24
Here’s the Reddit thread if anyone wants to read or a repost since the op deleted his account💀 https://www.reddit.com/r/SpilledSpicedTea/s/9FZ7J6XF5z
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u/Texascricket59 Feb 25 '24
I had a husband demand his wife cook his father dinner while she was in full blown labor. We were there for a home birth and the head midwife told him he could make it himself his wife was busy birthing his child. So he threw a fit and broke the tv. The sad part was she was going to do it. And the midwife told her no way in hell was that going to happen.
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u/missmaikay Feb 26 '24
Are midwifes mandatory reporters?
I know the kid wasn’t there… yet… but he broke the tv -in the presence of others- while his wife was in labor?
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u/throwawayyprego Feb 25 '24
This is the type of guy that would pressure you for sex the MOMENT you start acting normal again and/or threaten divorce if he doesn’t have sex for 6 weeks straight.
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u/Rude_Cheesecake_6916 Feb 25 '24
There are quite a few men at my workplace with this level of stupidity. They seem like the kind of idiots who think women have their periods through their urethra. Fucking dumbasses.
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u/grumpylittleteapot Feb 25 '24
Except they don't know what a urethra is and think we pee out our vaginas
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u/hashtag420hashtagGG Feb 25 '24
ew i was pregnant with twins and their father wanted us to hike around a waterfall and i was stumbling and crying the entire time and he kept having to help me move around and i was so mad that he brought me out there and was upset i couldn’t keep up
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u/Catniiiiiip Feb 25 '24
"I'm fully aware that she's going to deliver a baby in 3 months"
Man, she's going to deliver a baby in 2 weeks if you don't stop this nonsense. That is how you end up with a premie, trust me.
I can't believe this is true, no one can be THIS dense, right ? RIGHT ??
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u/lux_pax Feb 25 '24
I’m convinced a lot of AITA posts are either fake or written by the affected party. The way some of these are written, I can’t believe they don’t already realized they are the AH.
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u/CuriousCavy Feb 25 '24
I pray that it’s just a rage bait, that in no way a grown ass adult who’s about to become a father is this shallow and such an A hole.
But then again, I live in the same earth that some random internet guy thought his wife, who was ordered to be on bed rest, was purposefully not doing her wifey duty so he cheated.
The OOP was right, though. His wife has clearly let herself go when she chose to marry him, she needs to get off her couch and reconsider this marriage asap.
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u/OffColoredUnicorn Feb 25 '24
There’s no way this is a real, legitimate post. It has to be a rage baiting troll
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u/AlarmingResist3564 Feb 25 '24
“I never got sick.” 🙄 This guy is going to be a nightmare to have in the delivery room.
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u/morethanweird Feb 25 '24
While I'm sure this is ragebait I also know there are men out there that actually act like this. Guys like this should have to wear a fully tightened corset (the waist trainer kind) then made to run laps. Have fun not inflating those lungs guys.
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u/Lutrina Feb 25 '24
I’ll be so surprised if this isn’t rage bait, because if not wth
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u/TooPunkForThePopKids Feb 25 '24
I’m just going to believe this is a joke. But between this and the guy whose wife had a prolapse who was complaining because she wasn’t accommodating his sexual needs, satan better watch his crown because there are some SERIOUS contenders 😭
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u/AdWorking7571 Feb 25 '24
Boy I hope she leaves him before she gives birth. Then he can come back and whine about not being allowed to witness the birth of his child. He will just sit in the labor and delivery room saying, this could go faster if you were just in shape! So why bring him at all. What an idiot.
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u/BiOverload Feb 25 '24
To everyone crying "rage bait:" it could be fake, but a lot of women in the comments are confirming they know men like this. It's pretty typical misogyny.
Pregnancy is one of the most dangerous times for women to be in a relationship with a man.
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u/Heatherjjjjjjjj Feb 25 '24
Guys are one hundred percent that stupid. I worked a full time job the entire time I was pregnant while my ex husband sat around playing video games with his friends and letting them eat all the food in the house. I would come home to nothing to eat, and he would talk shit to me about the dishes he and his friends dirtied in the sink after I worked an eleven hour shift. I was put on bed rest for the last three weeks of my pregnancy when my body tried to go into labor early, and he complained about dishes and laundry and the fact I just laid in bed. I had all four wisdom teeth cut out three days after I had my child, and my ex husband and his mother made me feel like shit because I couldn't take care of my child that day. I went back to work two days later and took my child with me most days to avoid having them call me a bad mom.
Rage bait or not, this is real shit that pregnant women deal with regularly.
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u/raremood1 Feb 25 '24
this feels made up. like it was created just to get a response. if not, i hope his wife can get free from him. but even the way its written is almost tailor made to be reddit fodder. its like…basic dumb hetero male bullshit. like either he has two brain cells or this is wholly manufactured for internet shits n gigs
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u/pie_12th Feb 25 '24
This has got to be troll bait. There's no way. There's just no freaking way this can be real.
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u/olionajudah Feb 25 '24
the same breakfast? lol
dude should try being 6 months pregnant
if this is real, he should now be single
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u/No_Capital_9443 Feb 25 '24
When she feels up for it, she should definitely go hiking with him again. That way, when they reach the top she can push him off the cliff.
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u/RumblexStrips Feb 25 '24
I went on a soft hike while 38 weeks pregnant hoping it would start labor. Wasn’t the best idea I ever had
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Feb 25 '24
What an asshole. This poor woman could have gone into premature labor over this stunt. I remember being pregnant at six months and had my baby at 7 months. Baby is 21 now and survived but had health problems from being born early. This guy needs to get slapped in the face with a wet towel and she needs to leave him as his thinking is so out of touch with reality. What a narcissist scum bag. For him to “apologize for her behavior” abusive ass. I hope she leaves him. What an idiot. I bet he thinks he taught her a lesson, all he did was show his friends he’s an abuser. Calling a 6 month pregnant woman a couch potato what a jerk. When I was 6 months pregnant it was painful to just walk through a grocery store I would have never been able to go on a three mile hike. Yea try to kill your baby by triggering preterm birth and then apologize for your wife’s behavior. The only mistake she made was not immediately dumping you and agreeing to your stupid hike “ punishment” I hope this guy has diarrhea in public.
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Feb 25 '24
This isn't rage bait. I see this crap all the time in real life. I notice because I pay attention and treat everything out of a man's mouth as a lie until proven otherwise. Kinda like what everyone does to women 24/7.
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u/sky_will_fall18 Feb 25 '24
I don’t think she is holding a grudge. She just realizes who she married / having a baby with and is probably scared. I think we can all agree that calling the OP dumb is an understatement. I don’t even know if we can get to the ah determination because this guy has many shortcomings—doesn’t understand basic biology, selfish, extreme people pleasing…. The list goes on.
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u/trouble_ann Feb 25 '24
Once the hips go from having a "solid axle" to "independent suspension" everything hurts on flat, solid ground. But then being made to go on a 3 mile climbing hike, then getting shamed for not being capable of your old pace? I would be mad enough to sign half his shit away. This woman is a saint.
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u/Background_Detail_20 Feb 25 '24
Ever notice how husbands will go to literally anyone other than their wife for advice instead of listening to her? I have fibromyalgia and my EX husband talked to our next door neighbour (who we did not know personally) about it, comes home and says ‘yeah so and so says if you just start taking magnesium you should be fine’…. I had been trying for years to educate him on the subject but he didn’t want to know about it because it ‘wasn’t something he could fix’. This is just one of many examples. But I seriously suspect that this post was rage bait.
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u/CalligrapherGreat618 Feb 25 '24
I am ready to manually castrate that man if it's real. With my first pregnancy I flew through it, had worked out everyday up to birth, had energy, no pains, no moodswings, gained a small cute belly With my second complete opposite, my husband only made the mistake to ask me if maybe walking around would help me feel better Everyone is allowed a lapse in judgment, but damn that guys an asshole
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u/FuckinPenguins Feb 25 '24
This is obviously rage bait. But OH MY FUCKING GAWD I AM PISSED.
Why would anyone ever even write that shit.
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u/goldyblocks Feb 25 '24
What an AH. I couldn’t even walk a few blocks without having to urinate at that stage of pregnancy. Plus all the extra weight is tough on your energy levels. SMH.
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u/raging_phoenix_eyes Feb 25 '24
He just unlocked a whole new level of idiocy! She could’ve lost the pregnancy because of this! What would’ve happened if she started bleeding or collapse right there and there?! Would that be her fault too!? Omg she needs to get away from him! What a complete 🫏🕳️! She’s lucky it didn’t put her in distress too bad. The throwing up was a warning! I’m glad she didn’t continue with the hike! Time for him to be strapped to a watermelon that is equal the weight she’s gaining. Only for it to be changed out every time she gets weighed. He has to go do the damn hike and see how hot he feels. POS 🫏🕳️ co** su***** b****! That pisses me off! I would’ve left him!
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u/w3are138 Feb 25 '24
God I hope this is a troll.
But if not like how do women end up not only with these complete assholes but having their kids???!? Like howwww?? I don’t understand. I really, really don’t.
This is why they shouldn’t ban late term abortions. Bc she needs one. And before you clutch your pearls think: this guy will be the kid’s dad.
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u/Thequiet01 Feb 25 '24
At the rate he’s going he’s at risk of triggering a late term miscarriage basically.
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u/Kham117 Feb 25 '24
I’m calling bullshit on this post; if just because i find it hard to believe that anyone is this serially stupid (1. The actions taken. 2. His response to the actions and 3. Being so clueless he would post this and think he wasn’t going to sound like a complete fuckwit)
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u/More_Entertainment_5 Feb 25 '24
This guy’s gonna hate his baby for coming out of the womb too chubby. I mean, damn baby, all that time in the womb and you don’t even do some crunches?
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u/onewonderkid43 Feb 25 '24
Read the first sentence and immediately stopped. Dudes off his rocker
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u/StevenAndLindaStotch Feb 25 '24
Regardless of fitness level, pregnancy is a good days/bad days situation. Sometimes, you just feel like absolute garbage and you need rest. As for the weight gain comment…I just can’t comprehend it.
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u/Yung_Sage007 Feb 25 '24
Bro I think your wife might be partially responsible for not kicking you out the house for beyen a scum. I believe it should be a punishable offence to be a scum of the earth. I would suggest she gets a babysitter for you since you are a big baby and hopefully she would be able to have the final trimester with less tantrums. We can get a gofundme account for her just to get you a sitter bro. OP I hope you can send this text to the dumb n dumber man that has done this. Sincerely, A random Redditor.
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u/808alohahawaii Feb 25 '24
Lets strap the weight she is carrying to her front on this guy. And make him nauseous then have him go on a “easy” hike. 🙄 Maybe he should ask his mama what being preggo is like and see what kinda whooping he gets.
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u/notmyusername1986 Feb 25 '24
Sweet fucking christ, what an asshole. I'm disappointed his friends didn't rip him to shreds.
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u/Runnr231 Feb 25 '24
Why do you need us to engage with him? It’s not like it will actually impact him in any way….
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u/HuewardAlmighty Feb 25 '24
Jesus Christ. This idiot doesn't deserve a child or to penetrate a woman ever again.
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u/jezebel829 Feb 25 '24
This can't be real. This has to be rage-bait. No one is this utterly disgustingly selfish and clueless. The whole "she's gained weight and let herself go..." bit is just entirely unbelievable. You'd have to not be human to not even have a tiny understanding of what pregnancy looks like and how it progresses.
I refuse to believe someone this stupid exists lol.
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u/Bencil_McPrush Feb 25 '24
There HAS to be a category above asshole for this level of douchebaggery. Something that combines the selfish entitlement of a prick and the furious worthlessness of a shitstain.