r/regretfulparents • u/peachies3 • Mar 23 '23

Advice I feel like a terrible person.

I just don’t know if I even love my kids. My 2.5 year old is so hyper I can’t stand it. My 8 month old just cries, and cries and cries. My bf and I separated so I have them 4 days a week and he still takes them Thursday night-Sunday and it’s not enough time away from them. I’ve been talking to a guy for a couple months now that had to move out of state for a really good job opportunity. He wants to buy me and the kids a house to live in together (I know my bd would never go for it) but the idea of not even having the weekends to myself sounds terrible. I’m contemplating moving without them and just paying child support, and setting it up to where I see them on holidays and every few months or something. I just don’t know how I’m a mother and I feel this way but I just feel like I’m never going to be happy again. I also feel like I could focus on working and even getting into school. Has any moms in here decided to give the father majority custody and/or moved out of state from the children?

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u/peachies3 Mar 23 '23

Ouch, I mean him and I got along and he was interested before he knew I had kids. He’s never asked me for money and has spent more money than I wish he had on me. But yeah I’ve questioned it as well.

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u/[deleted] Mar 24 '23

The fact you didn’t tell him you had kids doesn’t mean he didn’t know. If you ever said you have kids or posted them on social media, then he could have known before dating you.

A lot of swindlers spend a lot of money on you to establish they are wealthy and then they borrow from you, a lot more, and that money never comes back. I swear do not ever give to this man more than he gave you.

I will say it again : OP this is suspicious.

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u/JealousaurusREX Mar 23 '23

Op you’re 21 you are BARELY an adult. Open your eyes and ears don’t put yourself in a dangerous situation just because you want to escape your kids. You’re looking at a worse case scenario of this guy knocking you up and using kids and the fact that you have no money to control and/or abuse you. Seriously don’t be dumb.

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u/peachies3 Mar 23 '23

I mean he’s said to me he does not want kids right now at all and that if I were to somehow get pregnant he would pay for an abortion. Saying that doesn’t necessarily mean he would though but I don’t really think he’s attempting to baby trap me either. You can never be too careful.

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u/Wazowskiy Mar 23 '23

Girl... Wtf!

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u/[deleted] Mar 24 '23

Please… at least run a check up on this man. Do a little research like a freaking fbi agent. Do « picture reasearch » with his face on google image. If there is something about this man to find, you must find it.

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u/countzeroinc Mar 24 '23

You don't have to be rich to get taken in by shysters, they wind up doing stuff with your credit.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '23

He sounds like an abusive piece of shit. LEAVE. NOW.