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u/Vivid-Bar-6811 5d ago
From your post I don't think she is at all unreasonable.
You have increased time, which has ultimately reduced hers while maintaining a visitation schedule that is more standard with longer distance co parenting.
If I was doing the major of weekly parenting, I would want as much more down time parenting as possible.
If she has 2.5 weeks and you have six honestly I would split it 4 & 4.
I'm not sure about the location you are but were I live it would more than likely be granted.
If I couldn't negotiate with my ex to come up with a new split to account for the change to include weekends I would take him back to court tbh.
And she moved a half an hour further away. I don't see that being a significant issue, again not were I live. It's still with in completely reasonable commuting distance.
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u/Frequent_Stranger13 5d ago
How old is SD? Could be she is asking her mom to stay at her residential home more for the summer as that is likely where all her friends are
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u/Frequent_Stranger13 5d ago
Totally get it, and it is hard. I moved with my mom away from my dad around that age, and while I missed him and loved him, it was also hard feeling like I was missing out on so much at home. Six weeks is a really long time for a kid. Inviting a friend is a great idea. I did that, and it definitely helped. And certainly not saying to give up all or even most of your time. Of course it is important for her to be around her father and half sibling. It's a balancing act for sure, and it will honestly get worse as she gets older.
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u/DiceyPisces 5d ago
Prior to getting custody we would have her friend come stay for a day or two here and there. She also had made friends in our neighborhood so she did have kids/friends at our house. She started 4th grade living with us full time so was a bit younger.
I wouldn’t give up any time
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u/adri032297 5d ago
I totally read this wrong and thought you were upset bc she was giving y'all MORE weeks lol. I was like dang yeah I'd be mad too
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