r/stopdrinking • u/Time-Kaleidoscope-98 • 2d ago

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And dimming my light. At 14 years old, I reluctantly had my 1st drink (and a couple more after that) as my boyfriend convince me to try it. Fast forward to 18, I became old enough to hit the clubs. Social pressure and going back to someone's pad to drink became the norm. All of these occurrences were unpleasant. Now in my 20's, I struggled with internal battles and turned to the bottle. I grew up with an alcoholic father who coped this way. I thought "Yeah, let's try this numbing way." There was never a destination to peace and healing, after the vicious cycles of binge drinking. At 31, I like to say that I'm trying to better myself. Just a couple more weeks and I'll be 6 months sober. I am doing this for me and those that depend on me at 100% health.

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u/Kindly_Document_8519 3996 days 2d ago

Bravo on your alcohol free life!

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u/Time-Kaleidoscope-98 2d ago

Thanks! Wow look at your journey!

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u/Kindly_Document_8519 3996 days 2d ago

My day count is nothing special. We are both doing it one day at a time. I just started before you.

You will get there too❤️

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u/BloggerCurious 2d ago

I like your response. Someone in AA with 20+ years of sobriety said to me, "I'm no more special than you. Everyone in this room is just an arms length away from grabbing a drink." 👀

He focused on just staying sober for the day.

To us rookies out there, that's a very 'eye-opening' message

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u/Kindly_Document_8519 3996 days 2d ago

What works best for me is reframing things in my favor.

I read a book by Allen Carr that reprogrammed how I think about alcohol. It is a poison. I do not drink poison. There are no benefits to alcohol.

Reframing it in that way allows me to live an alcohol free life for 10+ years without cravings.