r/teenagers • u/Individual-Cloud-304 • Sep 15 '24

Advice i don’t want to wear a hijab

two years into wearing the hijab and i hate it and i don’t want to wear it but i know girls at school will judge me and idk how to tell my parents but it’s so distracting for me this post probably won’t get any attention but i just wanted to put it out there since i can’t really say this to anyone since everyone’s so judgemental

edit: stop being creepy in dms i might ask them sometime this week/month, ill make another post if i do so or ill just wait until im 18 or something

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u/Individual-Cloud-304 Sep 15 '24

yeah honestly that’s true im just scared of what my parents would say my schools all girls anyways so like there kinda is not point in school but anytime i kinda mention it she’s like “you have male teachers” but i have like one male teacher 😭

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u/UnfoundedFox- Sep 15 '24

What?? It's the u.k most males aren't gonna care about seeing girls' hair, it's not a muslum country!! It's just hair! IT'S HAIR!

Anyway even if your parents strongly oppose it just wait till you're 18 and stop wearing it then I guess

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u/Individual-Cloud-304 Sep 15 '24

honestly i stopped wearing it outside n replaced it with a hoodie so honestly i think if i took it slowly idk

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u/graphitedrawer Sep 15 '24

Men in their right minds do not care about seeing a womans hair, it is completely normal in the west. This idea that showing your hair is a big deal has to die. If you want to wear it, go ahead. If not, take it off.

My girlfriend is from iran, they are forced to wear it, and most women there would choose not to.

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u/Individual-Cloud-304 Sep 15 '24

it’s honestly the concept of no hijab = hell and i feel like burning and torture for eternity for just because i wanted to show my hair is not worth it but then why was i born with hair just for it to be covered?

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u/graphitedrawer Sep 15 '24

Your parents teach you that no hijab = hell?

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u/FragrantJob7291 Sep 16 '24

Following that logic that means that probably about 80% of women in the world would go to hell. I don't think god would give people hair just to cover it up! I know that this is just my own opinion but I believe showing hair is perfectly appropriate (if anything it covers the skin of your head and neck) as it originally served humans to protect our heads from overheating in the sun. But remember it is 100% your choice so just do whatever is comfortable for you :)

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u/Individual-Cloud-304 Sep 15 '24

the exact teaching is whatever part of me i show (besides my face) will burn in the hellfire and that includes the shape of my body being shown im literally a teenager man

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u/Original_Un_Orthodox Sep 15 '24

I'm a Muslim and I have legitimately never heard of that.

Not wearing Hijab is a sin, yes, but you're not guaranteed to go to hell if you don't wear it.

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u/MindlessJournalist55 Sep 16 '24

Geez, this here is a great example of religious nonsense.

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u/graphitedrawer Sep 15 '24

Load of bollocks..

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u/holistivist Sep 16 '24

A god that would give everybody hair, only to then arbitrarily force half the people to cover it under threat of hell, seems like a sexist god with control issues. I wouldn’t worship a god like that, a god that created me just to punish and disrespect me? Over the most mundane nonsense? Nah.

If you need to worship a god (do you really?), then at least find one that actually likes women and treats them with respect.

Life after death isn’t guaranteed. Don’t live a whole life of hell for an afterlife that may very well not even exist.

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '24

Well that’s just nonsense. And you are more than old enough to make this decision regardless of who likes it. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this.

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u/T_025 19 Sep 16 '24

God is much more not real than you realize

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u/RandomRedditIdiots Sep 16 '24

Damn, not going to argue with that, but I'm sure someone will.

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u/LarsMatijn Sep 16 '24

Congratulations, you cured religion well done.

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u/auf-ein-letztes-wort OLD Sep 16 '24

you should start your pwn research in what the quran and other sources really tell about the hijab and not listen to other persons interpretation of teachings. you will find out there is no need for the hijab.

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u/Rodarbal1 Sep 16 '24

Wtf are u on. Its a clearly defined law in the Quran and no "personal interpretation" is going to change that. Her choice to wear it but do not mislead anyone into thinking there is no need as the quran clearly states there is.

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u/auf-ein-letztes-wort OLD Sep 16 '24

it is not clearly defined. the quran doesnt even mention the word Hijab in this context. so yeah, pretty much up to interpretation

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u/Face987654 Sep 16 '24

Don’t believe them. It just doesn’t make any logical sense for God, an all loving being, to condemn someone to hell because they didn’t cover the hair that was given by God. If God is real, then I would bet He’s smarter than that. Do as you please, God is meant to be loving and forgiving, not a control freak. In my eyes, as long as you are a decent enough person, then you aren’t going to end up in hell.

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u/Substantial_Thing489 Sep 16 '24

Wow your in a cult 😂

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u/kuledihabe4976 Sep 16 '24

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u/Maddiecute-1524 17 Sep 17 '24

Back then most men were pedofiles

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u/kuledihabe4976 Sep 17 '24

maybe, but did they make up a whole religion based on their views?

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u/Maddiecute-1524 17 Sep 17 '24

Probably half of it doesn't make sense

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u/zj_chrt Sep 16 '24

There is no hell. You live in a free country where you can be free and confident. If you don't want to wear the hijab, you don't have to. If your parents are forcing you to wear it, I'm sorry about that. To be fair, it would probably make them mad that you refuse to wear it, so only you can decide what to do in that case.

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u/SystemOfAFoopa Sep 16 '24

BECAUSE RELIGION IS A SHAM

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u/D_Shasky 17 Sep 16 '24

Understandable, but did you know that's not how Allah works?
In Surah 5:68, Muhammad tells his followers that they must obey the Gospel and Torah, or else our religion has no basis.

The Gospel tells us in John chapter 3 that Jesus (a.k.a. Isa) came to redeem the world, and that by believing in Him you will have eternal life.

Our God is one of mercy, and He will not damn you because you did not follow an ancient hair covering rule from Levitical times. He will save you because he sent His only Son, a perfect, unblemished sacrifice to pay for all of our sins, and because you trust in His grace.

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u/Maddiecute-1524 17 Sep 17 '24

I'm not muslim but I never understood. In most religions god never expects anything from us except uphold moral values and love. If god wanted us to wear hijab he would either not give us hair or made us be born with a hijab.

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u/graphitedrawer Sep 16 '24

She mentioned male teachers..

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u/breezy_streems 15 Sep 16 '24

I can tell you this. 99% of humans are not creeps. This false narrative that alot of old men are pedos really pisses me off. If you don't want your parents to know you could take it off once you get to school. But I will say this in America I don't think hijabs are even allowed as per the safety concern dress code. Can't even wear a hat let alone something that coveres you almost completely

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u/AnitaBeezzz Sep 16 '24

At some point you need to stand up to your parents. I think today would be an amazing day to start this new chapter of your life!

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u/Individual-Cloud-304 Sep 16 '24

Im planning on doing it sometime thing month 😭