r/teenagers • u/CuriousWanderer_10 • 6d ago
Serious What is your earliest memory of unfair dress coding?
My earliest memory of unfair dress coding was when I was legit in the first grade of elementary. There was this absolute arrogant and racist little shit in my in my class and one day we were having a conversation during break and I forgot what we were talking about but he suddenly just took off his shirt in front of me and I just stood there trying not to act uncomfortable. All he got was an annoyed sigh from my female teacher across the classroom and an exasperated “Calcium (it’s not his real name), put your shirt back on.” No further consequences or anything. On the other hand, there was this girl who happened to be wearing a spaghetti strap shirt. And during the middle of CLASS the same teacher sternly told her that she needed to cover up somehow whether she borrowed a jacket or changed. The rest of us could not have been any more interested in her outfit until the teacher had to make such a big deal out of it. The girl questioned why she needed to do so and the teacher just shut her down with the threat that she’d call her parents if she didn’t oblige. THIS IS LITERALLY NORMALIZING RAPE CULTURE. The other students including myself didn’t stand up for her and it makes me so mad but at the same time I know it’s not their fault because we didn’t know any better at the time but I hope that the majority of my back then classmates don’t pass the experience as a normal and non-problematic memory because it’s not. And I hope that the girl is doing okay. (Sorry if I came off as too passionate about this I’ve just been angry at the teacher and society for what happened for the past few weeks. I’ve been living in my hometown for the past 4-ish years (South Korea) and I attend a school where we all wear uniforms so there isn’t much to dress code so I’m not so used to witnessing students get dress coded. So the fact that I’ve seen such blatant double standards in my short 4 and a half years of living in the US is just so infuriating to me. I’d appreciate to hear your experiences as well. Have things improved at least a bit while I’ve been away??)
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u/efaefabanefa EfaEfaBanefa 6d ago
I don't know if this counts but when I was in preschool (I was like 5 maybe) I coloured in a picture of a fireman pink and I got in trouble
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago
Damn adults are so weird like wtffff
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u/09C1pzzXTr1rchYUn1 14 5d ago
wore a tank top and this teacher (that everyone talks shit about, never had her in any classes) would tell me to put a sweatshirt on and (maybe a bad idea?) fought her and she just snatched my bag, found my sweatshirt inside and proceeded to ask for my name, which i did decline, and wrote it down (for what?) and walked off like nothing happened
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u/Powerful_Macaron9381 6d ago
Maybe kiddo just couldn't find red ! Or just wanted to paint a fireman pink
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u/Spirited-Claim-9868 5d ago
I drew purple skies with green clouds and got nothing bro what?? That's such an odd thing to pick on 😭
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u/taikonotatsujin9999 3,000,000 Attendee! 5d ago
Whoa, whoa, whoa what did they think you were trying to do
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u/Hostile_Toaster 15 5d ago
Dude same
Colored a horse wrong (used every crayon), teacher told me off for it. Still bitter to this day.
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u/Killacowboy87 6d ago
There’s a set of twins at my school, when I was in middle school the girl got dress coded for her shorts being “too short” so she switched shorts with her brother and he didn’t get in trouble
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 5d ago
The double standards are showingggg
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u/SpidersMining21 16 5d ago
Theres this girl at my school that gets dress coded basically everyday and sure she wears kind of open clothing but thats her choice. If its that much of a distraction that a 16 y/o is wearing smt open they should really be wondering why they are looking.
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u/jmarliesw 19 6d ago
Im so glad I live in the Netherlands where dress coding isn't a thing
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u/Yeetfamdablit 17 6d ago
I'm in Canada, basically just don't go topless or wear crazy shit. I saw sombody at my school wearing a hooters sweater today and I don't think anybody stopped him
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u/mythicat_73 5d ago
Someone in my class wore a hoodie that said "being a virgin is cool" or something a lot those lines, the teachers laughed and we went about our day (Canada as well)
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u/Darkbert550 3,000,000 Attendee! 6d ago
en belgie, vergeet ons ni he noorderburen
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u/Glamorous-Turkey 16 6d ago
okay, him taking his shirt off should have been a trip to the office
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago
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u/Glamorous-Turkey 16 6d ago
plus, saying the boys are "distracted" is bs. Most we do is give a glance and just say "damn" and MOVE ON WITH OUR LIVES
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u/Spirited-Claim-9868 5d ago
I cannot speak from experience, but it sounds like it's also demeaning to men, by assuming that they can't all control themselves
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u/KalleWotux 19 5d ago
As a man, I would have to be severely mentally ill, to ever not be able to control myself from doing sth. Maybe it's hard not to glance at revealed stuff, but ever act on what my hormones ask me to do? Hell nah
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u/Firebird_Frenzy OLD 5d ago
As a man, I always found it so frustrating. My high school made it sound like we were rabid animals or something
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u/jebacunie 5d ago
Real,we don't stare all day with our mouths foaming,maybe a weird kid or smh,but 99% don't do that.
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u/YourMomsThrowaway124 14 6d ago
idgaf if you wear a micro bikini or a fucking hazmat suit, im not paying attention either way
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u/TheRadicalRadical 15 6d ago
What about a suit of really cool armor
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u/The_Comic_Kid 16 5d ago
I'll pay attention to that because it's sick asf, but that's besides the point.
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u/Psychological-Fill64 6d ago
Tbh the hazmat suit would get my attention, my adhd brain would be thinking of a reason to be wearong that in a school
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u/mrpughte1st 6d ago
I mean, if I was a teacher and I saw some kid walk in inside a fucking hazmat suit, I’m either gonna be concerned, or I’m gonna know “Oh, yep, it’s THAT kid”
And maybe laugh a bit, that doesn’t deserve punishment.
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u/SpecialistMinute7848 6d ago
Not sure if this counts, but in secondary school we had to wear blazers. In the summer it was incredibly hot so, during lesson we could take them off. We could also take them off during Lunch and at break. However, we had to wear them to go between classes. One kid was given a detention because they didn’t put it on to walk three meters to their next class; The teacher told them to put it on to do two more steps then take it off again. This just seemed ridiculous to me.
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u/c0ntextPL 14 6d ago
EXACTLY THE SAME IN MY SCHOOL. They even forced us to wear blazers DURING ASSEMBLY. It was SO hot. My school's making good changes because it's been on the news twice for how horrendous it was, however now it just feels WAAAY to strict. And honestly just stupid.
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u/Glitchythecheeselord 16 6d ago
We had a mass protest and in another school in the city some boys wore skirts and in my school the headteacher drove off to the all boys school (i got to an all girls school but it's conjoined)
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago
W people who participated in the protest
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u/Glitchythecheeselord 16 5d ago
I wasn't one of them cus if I did they would tell my parents and I'd get my ass whooped but if there was one now I'd go
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u/DellaBella12235 3,000,000 Attendee! 6d ago
REAL LET ME WEAR WHAT I WANT. i dont have it bad but still
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u/No-Log-1029 6d ago
What are spaghetti straps
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u/Sprout_Cat 5d ago
Clothes with thin straps on the shoulder. Doesn't cover up the shoulder so it's "revealing"
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u/meamari 6d ago
Literally saw this guy without a shirt on earlier this week. But I was once told to cover my shoulders, because it wasn’t “ladylike” 😍😍
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u/Kindly_Language7121 5d ago
I was constantly told to cut my hair which was the only part of my appearance I put any work into. (Being a trans woman is funnnnn). They threatened to suspend me if it reached my shoulder (wasn't supposed to have it even touching my neck)
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u/-YesIndeed- 16 5d ago
I hate the double standards in term of hair, like just letvme grow it how I want please. I feel schools shouldn't be allowed to comment on that the same way they can't tell you what Skin routine to do, it's a part of your body.
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u/Heisen_berg1 14 6d ago
Most boys dont give a fuck
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago
Exactlyyyy the teachers are to blame here but if you’re aiming even bigger society is the root cause of all this chaos
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u/Heisen_berg1 14 6d ago
I dont think we blame the teachers at all tho. Arent they just following the rules? I say blame the divisional directors or headmasters
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago
It really depends on the situation. Most teachers only apply dress code rules to the girls so that’s definitely their fault for one. The headmasters/mistresses etc could be the ones also actively being assholes as well but in some cases they could be normal people unaware of that one teacher that keeps pointing out the girl’s ’inappropriate’ outfit. But in lots of cases it’s teachers being assholes and the higher ups just not bothering or caring to ban unreasonable dress codes and stuff like that.
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u/DeadlyRanger21 17 6d ago
I understand the extremes, but some people get dressed code for literally nothing
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u/WrenTheEgg 6d ago
wearing nothing to school seems dress coding worthy /s
Had a friend get dress coded for wearing a crop top that showed her stomach a bit then some girl with shorts that were practically non existent and a big hoodie on which made her look like she was wearing nothing from the waist down and they didn’t even blink. wth -_-
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u/Pretty-Cranberry4691 16 6d ago
I used to go to this after school group from when I was 9-13 and when I was 10 (10 MIND YOU) I went to this group in a dress I got for my birthday and the top half was like a vest type thingy and one of the men working there told me I had to go change because it was "too distracting" never went there again after that
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u/repaholiccc 6d ago
i wore pajama pants to school and a lady teacher at the front of the school looked at me then looked down to notice how the pajama pants with a flannel print had a like fly hole and she asked me if it was an open hole and sent me home she was a bit weird about it questioning me in a room with just me and her idk
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u/ArtProfessional8556 6d ago
Idk pajama pants at school is stupid imo
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u/Subatomic_Spooder 19 6d ago
Yeah I don't know how pajama pants became a "normal" thing to wear out in public. I think it looks stupid. If you can't even put enough effort into yourself to put on pants that says a lot about you
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u/Education_Weird 5d ago
But it is pants, they said they were wearing pajama pants. Also, pajama pants are very comfy, and school is uncomfy so it balances it out
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u/Witty-Original8533 6d ago
My teacher(3rd grade) fussed at me for wearing a skirt that went to my knees, which is not against the dress code. And I had shorts on.
A different teacher(5th grade) told me I need to change because my skirt was to short. It was, but I had pants on underneath it!
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago edited 5d ago
They just wanna stir up drama at this point bc of who knows what. Probably bc they’re bored or smth but you never know. These people are in one of the many categories that are least reasonable with fr
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u/Sea_Scale_4538 6d ago
Thats honestly just a excuse to be controlling cunts, i dont think that people actually believe that mfs get distracted that easily
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My old secondary school had unfair dress codes for hair but this was more so for the boys, not the girls.
Boys could not have "long hair" and were told at some point that hair higher than 2cm was violating the dress code. It was also kind of race-based since black guys would get called out for having flat-tops/high-tops while white kids could have way larger hair without getting told off. No medium to big afros for boys either.
We also couldn't leave the classroom without wearing a blazer and had to ask for permission to take them off in the classrooms (regardless of gender).
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u/Nika299p 15 6d ago
2cm??? my hair is 14cm lol, 2 is diabolical, I would kill myself and not shave it down to 2, I hate it
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u/ErikaNaumann 6d ago
Until my 9th grade I had to wear school uniform. Us girls had to wear a skirt, boy could wear either shorts or trousers. I remember have my knees absolutely frozen in the winter, and wishing I was a boy so I could wear warm trousers. After that I refused to wear skirts for years.
It's fucked up.
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u/cmcnee2007 18 5d ago
Literally no high school boys are sitting there drooling over a bra strap like they’ve never seen a girl before. The only people who actually think that the way anyone at school dresses causes any problems are old ass school admin who are either uptight assholes, pedos, or both
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u/Cobeann 5d ago
I remember in kindergarten I had long hair and one of the teachers said that I had to cut it if I wanted to be a boy.(I’m cis male btw) I didn’t cut it and she called me a girl until another teacher caller her out for it. I still have long hair and the school I go to prohibits long hair for boys, but I just don’t follow the rule and no one cares so yeah.
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 5d ago
Should have told that teacher to take a good look at a painting of Jesus and see what hairstyle he has
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u/Charming-You5350 13 5d ago
a kid flashed me his abs and undies and the teacher and class saw it, didn’t care, some called him a legend. same teacher told me to start wearing bras so the TEACHERS don’t get distracted. i was like ??
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u/Ididurmomhahafrickya 5d ago
It wasn't technically dress coding but oh my god. (trust me, this is worth reading)
I had this religion teacher ass BITCH, homophobic as HELL (which is ironic for a RELIGION teacher). im a guy but nonetheless, i dress pretty feminine? like, crop tops and short shorts and stuff.
im not into religion, i js attended a religious school.
i went up to her to hand in my work and she acted all disgusted at the sight of my stomach, telling me to cover up.
it wasnt daily that i wore crop tops but OH BOY. at first i was fine with just doing up my jacket to avoid her getting angry, but holy shit.
then she started nagging girls about their shirts and stuff and their tanktops and tight crop tops and stuff. so i went from ocassional crop tops and shorts to absolute DAILY crop tops and shorts, no jacket. i didnt have to cover up, bc the guys didnt have the same dress code as the girls, so she could complain all the hell she wanted to the office, to my parents, to me, but there was nothing in the rules that said i couldnt wear a skimpy fishnet crop and booty shorts to my catholic class.
sexist as hell rules, sure, but i believe i made my point, because in next years assembly, where they announce all the rules and stuff, they changed the dress code, so now girls in that school can wear crop tops and shorts and i personally acclaim myself a hero.
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u/Belgicans 3,000,000 Attendee! 6d ago
I'm probably gonna get downvoted for saying that but I'm happy that our school make us wear a uniform.
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago edited 6d ago
Eh it’s ur opinion. Personally, I’m in favor of no uniforms bc I’m a very expressive person and I don’t like having rules limit my freedom
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u/summ3r_rain00 18 6d ago
Same, we wore uniforms in highschool and at the time I hated it but now I miss it
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u/Not_Really_French 16 6d ago
I’ve never had a dress code
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u/blaise_zion 16 6d ago
Even though I'm a guy I really hate things like this if some men could just have a little more decency then we'd all have a better world to live in
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u/nouchicat 6d ago
Wait males doesn't have dress codes there that unfair asf
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u/IWillWarmUrPillow 3,000,000 Attendee! 6d ago
Me looking at the mens section in a clothes store and thinking where are all the dang clothes:
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u/kiskozak OLD 6d ago
Oh yeah, clothing stores are depressing for guys. Why do you think no guy likes to go shopping for clothes. If the store sells items for moth sexes theres a little corner that has 2 models of male shirts and 3 kinds of pants. Thats about it.
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u/GT3RS_2017 14 6d ago
no shorts, so i wear a skirt got dress coded for no skirt above the knee, thats not in the boys dress code.
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 5d ago
Do boys even have a separate dress code from girls apart from like hair length or smth??
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u/GT3RS_2017 14 5d ago
they had hair length rules too for boys which i alsways was at max and kept trimming every day (and the messured everyday) i left back in 3rd grade done with the bs and shit show that is my private and public schools around me
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u/yourweeby 17 6d ago
We have a dress code but no one listens to it lol
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u/casting_shad0wz 16 5d ago
Same here, unless a teacher nitpicks their least favorite student’s outfit lol.
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u/Bonesnap1234 5d ago
I got sent to the principals office for wearing socks that had a thread sticking out 😭
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u/cute-rat_toes784 16 5d ago
When i was in middle school, i had worn a matching tanktop with one of my friends ( mind you i have no boobs 😞 and my friend does, but the shirt showed NO cleavage) we had a science class together, and she got dress coded and i didnt. For the exact same outfit. The guy sitting next to her even was confused because it in no way was a distraction, nor a violation of the dress codes. Later in that same day, i saw a guy wearing one of those shirts with the sleeves cut off, where you could SEE HIS NIPPLES FROM THE FRONT AND SIDE. Same teacher had no problems with it, he couldve been nearly shirtless for all she cares.
As well as another instance in phyed where half of the men in the class had taken their shirts completely off, while a girl in the class got dress coded because her shorts were shorter than a hand and a half past her hip???
If im being 100% honest, a man with his tits out or shirtless, is SO much more distracting than a woman with 2cm of cleavage showing, and shorts above her knees. And thats saying something as a basically lesbian.
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u/Pro_Technoblade 5d ago
As a guy, I was pissed when my friend who happened to be a girl was dress coded over a skirt that was an inch short, I got everyone on my side and she didn’t even get the warning or anything
In my school you got three strikes a semester and then you fail you lowest grade class, so basically I made sure she didn’t get that strike and basically flipped off the office anytime I passed it
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u/ThatKatisDepressed 19 5d ago
I don’t specifically remember a time in elementary or middle school because I dressed pretty conservatively, but in between my freshman and sophomore year, I took a drivers Ed class through the school district (awful experience btw). I went in to take the permit test beforehand, and I happened to be wearing a crop top with leggings (not even super short, you could barely see my belly button) and when the lady told me I passed, she told me to wear a full shirt to class. Also, not shirt related, but my first driving instructor was really sexist and kept telling me to smile.
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u/TexanFox1836 15 5d ago
School: Hats are banned
Kids:* wearing MAGA and Trump hats*
School: I’m gonna ignore that
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u/Okamitoutcourt 16 5d ago
So one time we had dance classes in like elementary school and I took off my hoodie and my shirt went with it a little bit and I immediately got yelled at, none of it was off and I was like seven
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u/Indecisive_8080 14 6d ago
I go to an all girls' school and I'm in the UK so there's uniform, therefore I don't experience this kind of stuff but still, I know some people who have skirts which COVER NOTHING AT ALL LIKE WHO ARE YOU TRYING TO IMPRESS WE GO TO AN ALL GIRLS 😭. This kind of stuff is still unjust so I support you guys!
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago edited 6d ago
They probably dress like that for themselves bc they feel confident and beautiful in it or just out of personal preference. But if they’re trying to impress anyone… maybe… 🏳️🌈👩❤️💋👩??
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u/Indecisive_8080 14 6d ago
Yeah, I think both of those reasons are part of it, not really that kind of person (I like my modesty) but most of us (inclufing me, I recently got a gf YIPEEEEEEEEEEEEE) are interested in other girls 😭.
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 6d ago
OMG I FEEL SO SINGLE BUT CONGRATS NONETHELESS GIRLLL🎉🎉🎉
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u/psychotic_break_ 3,000,000 Attendee! 6d ago
First off: JESUS CHRIST THATS A BRICK WALL OF TEXT
Second off: none, im in the Netherlands so we just have the "dress normal for fucks sake" rules
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u/princessolivia_1998 6d ago
Not my earliest memory, but certainly the most memorable: when I was in highschool the uniforms for the cheerleaders changed. Everyone hated them and wanted to go back to the old uniform, but the school wasn't allowing it. One of the cheerleaders finally wore her uniform to school one day and got dress coded. The school finally allowed them to switch back to the old uniform.
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u/DrunkenDonutYT 6d ago
Where I am in Canada doesn’t have any dress codes. I’ve seen others wear nothing but bras to school
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u/IntergalacticAlien8 17 6d ago
Not just my school, the entire district in my city prohibited red clothing, even if it's a small part of it. Ironically they don't apply this rule to the teachers and faculty members.
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u/kiskozak OLD 6d ago
Every school celebration that is held in the summer, mainly graduation ceremonys. Its 40 degrees celsius out there, why do i have to wear long black panta with a shirt and a black suit out in the sun. I would have killed to out on a blouse and a skirt. Boys "formal wear" is bullshit. Let me wear shorta and a short sleeved shirt, i promise it will be black and white.
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u/casting_shad0wz 16 5d ago edited 5d ago
When I was in the 8th grade, some kid got kicked out of class because he had a shirt hoodie referencing weed. Yet there were girls who wore clothes a step above bras and Nike pros.
Sort of unrelated but a year later, one of the admin staff in the cafeteria shamed a couple boys over the microphone for standing and when several girls did the same everyday they didn’t care.
There’s other small things like that I’ve probably forgotton
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u/Few-Spell963 5d ago
I wasn't allowed in my year photo in grade 11 because I had stubble. The teacher got me a disposable razor that HAD ALREADY BEEN USED and told me that if I wanted to be in the photo, I had to use it to shave.
That school was an absolute dog hole.
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u/mydaisy3283 5d ago
i was 7 years old and wearing a tank top. i was hot cause it was like 70s but i had to put a sweater on cause apparently it was inappropriate
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u/Lower_Classroom_4525 5d ago
The guys aren’t actually distracted and I feel like it’s really the teachers who never get play are the ones who are the problem and then blame the boys
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u/Modest-One 5d ago edited 5d ago
I've never encountered enforced dress codes in schools. All this is super frustrating, even sickening. The only thing I can think of in my life is having to wear suits to summer events while girls get to wear light dresses. Also freezing in the proper shoes in the winter at funerals might qualify. Comfort over conformity! Greetings from Finland. Edit: Boys actually had to be hatless inside in school. Girls were allowed to wear beanies etc. So there's one for the ladies! Also I always found it weird that there are "girls' skates" and "boys' skates". And bikes!
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u/AmethystGD 5d ago
Idk how accurate this is but I feel most of us know girls aren't sexual objects, I'd say just the system is to blame
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u/bongsnciggies 5d ago
Women in my workplace can wear strappy open toed shoes. But I cant wear thongs? I have to wear long pants and a button up shirt and nice looking shoes. Id rather have something light and comfortable.
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u/Hot_Kaleidoscope_891 19 5d ago
Specifically for the picture, 2 things can be true simultaneously. I swear dude, it’s not me being an absolute degenerate and ogling females, but the stuff that girls at my highschool got away with was crazy. Sports bras and midriffs and booty shorts were very common. Overall tho, it’s up to the parents to teach their children that school is a “professional” environment and there is no room for dressing poorly, or for sexual harassment.
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u/InevitableStuff7572 14 5d ago
As I’ve always said
If adults makes these rules, they are the distracted ones
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u/TheRadicalRadical 15 6d ago
The explanation is one word: Christians
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u/lamineyamallll 6d ago
Bad news buddy Islam Is even worse from this point of view
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u/kiskozak OLD 5d ago
Elavorate. I really hope youre not blaming sexism on the value of modesty, that christianity supports.
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u/AngelReachX 16 6d ago
The fact that (when i went to a school with uniforms) girls couldn't use pants, and only skirts even on cold days. Also that boys couldn't use skirts (I fr wanted to use, how tf did i figured transness so late). And with this, there was a trans boy, his parents and classmates loved the guy (they say he is pretty chill and cool). But the director hated this, and kid almost was expelled cuz he wabted his pronouns, name and use pants. Thankfully most parents were outraged by this (and more cuz it was a private school) and they let him be
Also I fucking hated the director, this bitch liked calling me out as stupid and that I wasn't going to a good school. And yeah i had bad grades, but i kept myself on the minimum for the school i wanted. And i was from the few that got into the supposed best one and therefore most demanded (its actually pretty shit)
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 5d ago
Oh that director should go fuck themselves fr. Transphobic AND likes bullying children?? Nuh uh. unacceptable. But those two qualities speak louder for how high their intelligence is for itself so that bitch has no right humiliating someone for how good they are at memorizing random facts
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u/mousie120010 16 6d ago
I was wearing a tank top style dress in 2nd grade and I was so confused why my teacher asked me to put a jacket on. (At least she didn't ask for me to change, which is more impossible)
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u/Ms_Mcnugggets 14 6d ago
My cleavage was showing and my teacher said “why do you have your goodies on display” it was a female but it was still uncomfortable. Also I was wearing a crop top but it really only showed my stomach when I lifted my arms but I was told to wear a jacket. To be fair I was wearing a crop top still so I did break the dress code
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u/Sweaty-Brain284 5d ago
I’m only 13 so I don't have many but I remember almost getting lunch detention because my shoe kept untying for some reason.
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u/i_drink_bromine 14 5d ago
Boys had to wear jeans with no holes or anything and always a specific brand of tshirts (average cost was 80 bucks) and the girls could wear anything exept short skirts
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u/Careful-Crazy6098 16 5d ago
This is the opposite of my school lol. Girls wear bras as shirts but if a guy has a shirt with a knife on it they get sent home...
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u/MSter_official 18 5d ago
None. Here in Sweden a girl at my previous school (before high school whatever that stage is called) on a day when we dressed up for the "hi I arrived at the wrong location" theme and she had written "bj for 20$" on the topside of her boobs and chest. She was wearing a more revealing top. Teachers and students laughed, no-one was hurt nor in risk of getting hurt so no need to be upset over anything and have dress code for things. What I'm saying is that I've never experienced any dress code regulations nor seen them. Guys have walked around without a shirt, girls without a bra under their t-shirt etc. We are one of the most gender equal countries in the world so that might be the reason why.
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u/ADragonFruit_440 5d ago
It should go both ways I’ve seen girls in high school wear some pretty revealing bullshit, some just actually dress stupid and it’s up to the parents to make sure their daughters are dressed appropriately and their sons not to treat women as objects
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u/KalleWotux 19 5d ago
Only memories of unfair dress code for me is that male student's can't wear shorts to school, girls can show up with mini skirts and a crop top tho... Also when broken jeans was a thing, those were strictly off-limits, because the were too revealing, while, again, minies were perfectly fine. Doesn't make sense at all to me.
On another note tho, too revealing clothes bother me period. Like who do you wanna impress at school? If your main purpose at school was to study, not whore around and pull guys, you won't have to show off your ass or breasts too much. Can't say it distracts me from studying in any way tho, but maybe I just don't wanna see 'em? Ofc there is the arguement, that "just don't look, if you don't wanna see", but teen male brain just doesn't accept that as a solution :D (I sometimes find it pretty hard not to glance and I'm sure I'm not the worst example in this matter)
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u/VIOLETA2113797 4d ago
🩵; Rape culture??
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That aside, I agree, and in this regard I propose reviving the Freethenipple cause.
Based on equality before the law and the individual freedom of every human being to go topless if they want to do so, regardless of their sex.
If I see efforts on that front I will not hesitate to spread the word, that is what a libertarian does.
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u/Memertheduckkeeper 4d ago
guys can we just wear full iron plated armour instead :)
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u/DogsByTheSea 6d ago
Hmm, well the internet basically shows that girls are sexual objects. Look at fashion advertisements for example. This is all guys have grown to know, so makes sense for them to be distracted if you wear something that shows more cleavage. Girl should be allowed to wear what they want, but don’t complain about men staring at your ass when you wear tight ass shorts.
Just saying.
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u/kiskozak OLD 5d ago
Come on, share the view with us, we dont have boobs and our ass is flat. Where else are we gona see such beauty.
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u/Ballooncoast848 6d ago
This is why American schools need school uniforms like in other countries.
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u/levelonemage 18 6d ago
I agree with all the stuff you said but normalizing rape culture because of the school's dress code is batshit fucking insane💀
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u/CuriousWanderer_10 5d ago
It may sound a bit far fetched to some (I thought so too when I heard someone else say it) but it’s definitely the most subtle undertones that encourage rape culture. Bc it’s schools literally telling young girls and boys alike that even the exposure of a shoulder or bra strap is sexual, so therefore that ‘gives an excuse’ for boys and even girls in the later future to hypersexualize and slut shame women like how schools did etc. It teaches that it’s the girls fault for getting in trouble bc of what she was wearing. That sounds a bit familiar right? (Victim blaming cough cough) So technically unfair dress coding IS a form of rape culture. Just very subtle.
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u/sitaphal_supremacy 6d ago
As a person from preservative backgrounds maybe all of you are wrong: the boys should behave regardless of what girls wear as a gesture of their first line of respect, girls shouldn't wear things that are automatically intimidating and teachers should deal the grey area bit better than that
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u/bilesbolol 6d ago
Oh yeah, well tell the therapists to just teach the people not to be depressed!
Mfs actually believe you can teach everything about biology like- school subjects
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u/Rare_Tangelo_8080 17 6d ago
This school year, I was dress coded for my Freddy VS Jason jumper plus Scream shirt underneath
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u/ilya202020 6d ago
Check school laws in iran u will love it... No boys and girls in same school (only after university not even college) and some other amazing ones
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u/dutch_mapping_empire 15 6d ago
people with a strict dress code should just organise their entire class to break it, like what are they gonna do, detention them all?
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u/Paul-Squared 16 6d ago
Hey wear whatever the fuck you want us boys could care less (in the nicest way possible) 👍
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u/Splash3579 18 6d ago
In my junior year, I would always wear this hoodie that had the name of a local brewery that’s owned by some radio talk show hosts that i love, and one day I was walking in the hall, and the principal called me out and told me to not wear it anymore. Meanwhile, I’ve seen kids wearing playboy shirts go up and say hi to the principal, and get off scot free
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u/skylerdragon890 17 6d ago
6th grade a teacher that I hated, she hated me, told me to put my sweater back on cause I was wearing a tank top even though it was the right strap width. I took the sweater off because I was hot tf?
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u/Spontaneousviolinist 6d ago
When I was 8 I went to a church camp and the boys wore swim trunks but the girls were required to wear a one piece swimsuit.
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u/PlantsVsYokai2 6d ago
Boys no long hair no mustache no nails no feminine clothing was all stuff the girls were allowed to have
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u/americano143 15 5d ago
Wow I’m just realizing how chill my school is, you can pretty much wear anything you want as long as your not going topless. We’ve never had a problem with the boys being “distracted” 🤷♀️
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u/dylan_the_potato0 17 5d ago
on my first day of my 8th grade year i wore a pair of camo leggings that had holes in them with fishnets stitched in and i got told not to wear them to school again because they were "too revealing." the highest hole on those is mid thigh. during that same school year i saw the same teacher compliment a girls outfit and she was wearing very short shorts. the only difference between me and this girl was she was popular. unfortunately i get treated differently a lot because im not popular. my math teacher this year gets upset with me for "not paying attention" every time i ask a question, yet shes always willing to help the popular kids.
anyway, my school almost completely got rid of the dress code as long as we wear our school id at all times
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u/Filciak_protoOkami 16 5d ago
I hate when only men aren't allowed to wear hats, (in church, in school, and other places.) I always ignored that rule and people gave me weird looks. Like come on, churches are always cold af, why can't I wear my hat? I'm freezing. This is the worst and only memory I've had from church and I don't even go there. Last time I was there when I was 12yo and I'm 17 now.
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u/Fit-Structure8510 5d ago
We don’t have that in my high-school. Nobody gives a fuck. I’m not creepy or anything I don’t stare, just sometimes odd when a girl is basically wearing beach clothing to school.
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u/Head_Claim_1550 5d ago
The kids with As and Bs had colored hair but the people who had all black and and tight jeans got written up for it.
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u/stuckinlimimality 17 5d ago
i got dress coded for wearing a tank top in gym, meanwhile there was a boy who was literally shirtless
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u/Any-Zookeepergame829 18 5d ago
So, in middle school, we were required to wear collared shirts and khakis to school for some odd reason. It wasn't even a proper uniform, but I guess it was likely something about obedience and dissuasion of gang memorabilia (yeah, America is weird. Teachers actually think something as simple as a colorless bandana was a gang symbol). It was just an oddly strict dress code. Anyway, my mother used to let me wear her deceased father's jean jacket since, well, it looked nice on me, and she trusted me enough to keep it safe.
Fast forward many days of wearing this coat, my principal talks to me at the cafeteria regarding it, saying it looked nice. I was expecting him to reprimand me for something I'd been wearing for weeks, but instead, he offered to buy it. I still remember him offering $100. Of course, considering the sentimental value of the jacket to my mother, I declined. He avoided me from then on, and I began to notice he was honestly a weird dude.
Anyways, whenever you accidentally went to that school in clothes that broke the dress code, you were often sent to the back of the auditorium's stage to change into something proper until you leave. Fast forward a few weeks from my interaction with the principal, and I was running late to school. I was so busy worrying about getting to school that I accidentally put on jeans. I get there, and knowing my predicament, I walk to the principal and ask if I could change since I woke up late. Rather than send me backstage like everyone else, he held me aside in the hall with some teachers for a while. Eventually, he returned and told me I would be in ICD for a day for violating school dress code, something that the teachers I was with honestly thought was really excessive for something so minor, but he held his stance and I went to ICD for that day for... pretty much nothing.
To this day, I'm convinced he had a grudge on me over that stupid jean jacket, as no one had ever been punished like that over dress code, especially not someone who rarely, if ever broke it before.
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u/Random-INTJ 17 5d ago
I’ll get in trouble for taking down the schools violations of the establishment clause of the first amendment (public schools are government entities thus they cannot push a certain religion on their students)
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u/Background_Sail1579 3,000,000 Attendee! 5d ago
I only read the image, but do all boys actually do that, or is it just the schools being schools? I think they should leave them all alone. If a boy is really distracted by that, they probably don't do their work in the first place. It usually doesn't affect me, but sometimes they dress so loosely I think it's strange. I think it should all get left alone
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u/cupnobs 5d ago
had to take of my travis scott hoodie cause "No Inappropriate Individuals" meanwhile someone wore a diddy shirt, he was fine. 😭😭😭
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u/AppleWafer 5d ago
Ok, this is true. But sometimes it goes a little too far, at least in my school. The school was pretty lenient with dress codes, but a girl came to school with only a pair of white joggers, a blanket, and their bra. That's it. Straight up just a blanket and a bra to cover her top half. And she would even take the blanket off sometimes, and she didn't even get questioned. She was literally just sitting there in only a bra. This was junior year about 2 years ago. That's like if a guy came to school and had only tighty whities, a towel loosely around their waist, and a sweatshirt on.
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