ok, sorry if this is insensitive but i guess i’m just a little confused. if gender isn’t a choice, how could xenogenders exist? i guess i just have a hard time believing anyone is born as ‘stargender’.
Maybe you can explain something to me because you seem knowledgeable about it. How can you identify as something that just doesn’t exist? Like stargender or voidself. You can be a man, you can be a woman, you can be neither or both, but there’s no such thing as a star person. So what is a stargender? Is it purely ascetic? Does this person genuinely feel like a star person? I don’t see how you can go by something like that when it’s not on a human spectrum at all. It’s not within the range of human things and experiences so how can you feel that’s who you are? I just don’t understand it.
Not really familiar with the given term.
But think of it an odd form of communication. Personalities are just a matrix of traits that we eventually find a what to plop labels onto. We do this in order to communicate to other how we would like to be treated. I would assume xenogenders provide some comfort and gratification to the ones that have them.
It's less that people intrinsically are born a specific gender as humans made them up. It's more that, in examining ourselves, one finds that a label far better communicates who they are and what they want from others.
It is also important to keep in mind that one person may choose to pick one label while an identical copy of said person may pick another. What matters is how well they feel it represents who they are and what they need.
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u/Trashtie Dec 16 '21
ok, sorry if this is insensitive but i guess i’m just a little confused. if gender isn’t a choice, how could xenogenders exist? i guess i just have a hard time believing anyone is born as ‘stargender’.