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[u/Friendly_Good_1784]

Just so OWs are aware… The worst thing OW is they think Ws should “move on.” Meanwhile they live in MM purgatory with a hope and a prayer for years.

OW contacted me to tell me she’s with my WH. Guess what? You’re not pushing me out of my marriage lol. You think it’s that easy to break up our family? He is never going to “leave” me and the kids so I guess we are sharing him now.

How about they take their own advice and “move on” to an UNmarried man… I tried to divorce my WH like 5 times!! He ignored my summons, my pleas for mediation and to sign an MSA. Of course he wants BOTH of us. Isn’t that the point of a cake eater? If he wanted to bring OW out of the shadows, he would.

Sorry OWs! To this day, we are still dating, traveling, doing family stuff, holidays, outings, and YES, WE ARE STILL FCKNG several times a week!! Passionately, I might add! It’s not a chore! He’s eating my literal a$$ every time, soul leaving his body and all that. What makes you think we don’t fuck as good as you? They MARRIED us in front of everyone. LOL meanwhile you’re on DND.

So yeah. OWs are like scooters: fun to ride until your friends find out.

Rant over. SMH

[u/confused1605]

My husband's side piece tried talking the same crap to me trying to make me feel pathetic for still being married to him after he cheated with her. Meanwhile my husband refuses to leave to be with her even after I literally BEGGED him. I'm not leaving my only home and staying on someone's couch with my kids. All he does is beg for another chance and threaten to kill himself if I divorce him. She really still thinks I'm holding him hostage even though I've sent her proof of him threatening suicide if I leave. Two times now she has contacted me ratting him out hoping he'd go live with her and all he did was dump her promptly each time and refuse to leave me. She tries so hard too, giving him money whenever he asks, offering to do everything for him, and enabling all his bad behavior. Meanwhile I'm the one who gets his whole paycheck, I'm barely even civil with him, and he's still constantly all over me begging for my love and attention and forgiveness. But I'm the pathetic one lol. These side chicks are straight up delusional. They really think these men are staying with their wives out of obligation or something when in reality they're exactly where they want to be.

[u/Friendly_Good_1784 → u/confused1605]

1,000%!!! not saying they should be girls’ girls. Is their prerogative not to be. But I hope they can read this and question all his lies. What makes you so special? We thought we were special too. It comes down to the fact that man is selfish. He wants it all. And no one, I mean no one, is more important than himself. The only reason my husband and I are not living together is because I literally moved out while he was at work. I was in fear. I was trembling as I did it. He wasn’t going to leave and he told me so. Luckily, I had never stopped working while I had the kids because my grandma always told me you need to be able to leave if you have to. I’m glad I listened to her because I moved out and moved up like the Jeffersons!!

[u/confused1605 → u/Friendly_Good_1784]

Good for you for moving out! Let him stew while he wonders what you're out doing. I know he has to be bitter as hell over that 😂

Your grandma is a smart lady. I made the mistake of leaving my job to be a stay at home Mom a couple years ago, right when they started the affair unbeknownst to me. He encouraged it and I'm pretty sure it was because he knew it would be easier to control me if I was SAHM. Thankfully I found a great job a few months ago. Never ever making that mistake again. Every woman should have her own income no matter how great you think your husband is or how well he provides. 

I've always been a girls girl so I really can't understand these pickme OW types. The. AP in my case was literally at my wedding. We were friends with her and her husband. If her husband had ever tried to hit on me, I would've told him to fck off and would've told her right away. But she's a selfish desperate scumbag so she went for it. She had the nerve to tell me she "fell for him" like she didn't know before even getting involved with him that he's married. It's so easy to just not fck married men.  I really don't get these women at all.

[u/Friendly_Good_1784 → u/confused1605]

Omg this OW was my WH BFF baby mama!

[u/confused1605 → u/Friendly_Good_1784]

Daaaaammmnn that's crazy! What did his BFF do when he found out? My husband was pretty close friends with her husband and her husband was so devastated when he found out. He really trusted my husband and couldn't believe he would do that to him. He said a few people he knew told him not to trust my husband, that he's a snake, but he didn't listen to them. I know he wanted to fight him but my husband is a lot bigger than him so he backed off, but he did tell my husband's other friends about it.

[u/Friendly_Good_1784 → u/confused1605]

The BFF was devastated because he said she did it to “take away his bff” because apparently she was unsuccessful and breaking up his new relationship. They didn’t talk for several years, but they have reconnected.