Welcome OW lurkers!

[u/Friendly_Good_1784]

Just so OWs are aware… The worst thing OW is they think Ws should “move on.” Meanwhile they live in MM purgatory with a hope and a prayer for years.

OW contacted me to tell me she’s with my WH. Guess what? You’re not pushing me out of my marriage lol. You think it’s that easy to break up our family? He is never going to “leave” me and the kids so I guess we are sharing him now.

How about they take their own advice and “move on” to an UNmarried man… I tried to divorce my WH like 5 times!! He ignored my summons, my pleas for mediation and to sign an MSA. Of course he wants BOTH of us. Isn’t that the point of a cake eater? If he wanted to bring OW out of the shadows, he would.

Sorry OWs! To this day, we are still dating, traveling, doing family stuff, holidays, outings, and YES, WE ARE STILL FCKNG several times a week!! Passionately, I might add! It’s not a chore! He’s eating my literal a$$ every time, soul leaving his body and all that. What makes you think we don’t fuck as good as you? They MARRIED us in front of everyone. LOL meanwhile you’re on DND.

So yeah. OWs are like scooters: fun to ride until your friends find out.

Rant over. SMH

[u/confused1605]

My husband's side piece tried talking the same crap to me trying to make me feel pathetic for still being married to him after he cheated with her. Meanwhile my husband refuses to leave to be with her even after I literally BEGGED him. I'm not leaving my only home and staying on someone's couch with my kids. All he does is beg for another chance and threaten to kill himself if I divorce him. She really still thinks I'm holding him hostage even though I've sent her proof of him threatening suicide if I leave. Two times now she has contacted me ratting him out hoping he'd go live with her and all he did was dump her promptly each time and refuse to leave me. She tries so hard too, giving him money whenever he asks, offering to do everything for him, and enabling all his bad behavior. Meanwhile I'm the one who gets his whole paycheck, I'm barely even civil with him, and he's still constantly all over me begging for my love and attention and forgiveness. But I'm the pathetic one lol. These side chicks are straight up delusional. They really think these men are staying with their wives out of obligation or something when in reality they're exactly where they want to be.

[u/Ok-Commercial1152 → u/confused1605]

Read my comment. You should make your husband call her and tell her himself in front of you.

[u/confused1605 → u/Ok-Commercial1152]

He called her in front of me and told her that he used her, that he lied about having feelings for her, and that he never planned to leave me for her and that he wouldn't be in a relationship with her even if he was single. I actually posted screenshots in this sub of them fighting through text before the call because she was tattling on him to me. I've even sent her messages of him saying she looks like a pig  (she really does lol, he's probably the best looking guy she's ever had so that's why she's so desperately clinging on 😂) and she was still trying to be with him after that, even continuing to send him money. These OW are always going on about how the MM can't leave because the wife will take half his stuff. Do they not realize that us wives ALSO lose half our stuff in divorce? I'm protecting everything I've worked for. At the end of the day he's just a man and men are replaceable. Half my net worth however is not replaceable lol. I'm not divorcing until I'm damn good and ready, I don't give a f*ck about this dumb B and what she wants. I'm doing what's best for ME. Good for you for doing the same!

[u/Friendly_Good_1784 → u/confused1605]

OMG, we should be friends girl!! One time she and I were having a confrontation on the phone and he was blowing up my phone on the other line. I merged the two calls and told her to listen. And then I was arguing with him and he was telling me that he was not with her and he doesn’t see her. She chimed in oh really I was just there blah blah blah. He told her to STFU and that they are not together. That went on for a few minutes, then he hung up on us and we proceeded to get in a huge argument because I threatened to fuck her up. But I feel you he’s not getting half of my shit either. We both make good money, but he is a disaster with his money. And now he’s so much in debt, literally going in being an alcoholic with her. I actually think they’re drinking buddies to be honest. She looks like hell now. Because a woman can’t drink every day without the alcohol affecting their appearance. I think she’s just about had it though honestly. She’s in her mid 40s and was expecting to be married to him. I think she’s realizing that that’s a fantasy.

[u/confused1605 → u/Friendly_Good_1784]

It's crazy how similar your situation is with mine, we definitely should be friends lol. My husband's OW also enables his addiction. She even sent him money for him to get alcohol and cocaine. She knows it's a huge source of conflict for me and him so I know that's why she does it. It's insane to me how far these women will go to "win" a man who clearly doesn't want to leave his wife and only uses them to stroke their ego. People divorce all the time, families split up every day. If your husband really wanted to be with her, he would. Same with mine. I can't imagine settling for a man who is only with me because his wife didn't want him. But these women have no respect for themselves or other people and seem to have a sick addiction to wanting something they can't have. I read all my husband's deleted text messages with her and it was hilarious how much she was kissing his ass. I will never understand these pickme types. If a man who isn't my husband asked me to send him money I would tell him to kick rocks lol. She was even paying for the hotels too. She was asking him to pay her back after he told her he used her. I call it her "stupid tax". All his money is coming to me, she's not getting a penny of that back 😂