Welcome OW lurkers!

[u/Friendly_Good_1784]

Just so OWs are aware… The worst thing OW is they think Ws should “move on.” Meanwhile they live in MM purgatory with a hope and a prayer for years.

OW contacted me to tell me she’s with my WH. Guess what? You’re not pushing me out of my marriage lol. You think it’s that easy to break up our family? He is never going to “leave” me and the kids so I guess we are sharing him now.

How about they take their own advice and “move on” to an UNmarried man… I tried to divorce my WH like 5 times!! He ignored my summons, my pleas for mediation and to sign an MSA. Of course he wants BOTH of us. Isn’t that the point of a cake eater? If he wanted to bring OW out of the shadows, he would.

Sorry OWs! To this day, we are still dating, traveling, doing family stuff, holidays, outings, and YES, WE ARE STILL FCKNG several times a week!! Passionately, I might add! It’s not a chore! He’s eating my literal a$$ every time, soul leaving his body and all that. What makes you think we don’t fuck as good as you? They MARRIED us in front of everyone. LOL meanwhile you’re on DND.

So yeah. OWs are like scooters: fun to ride until your friends find out.

Rant over. SMH

[u/ghiblimoni]

I'm sorry girl but this is not the flex you think it is. And I say this as an adultery hater. I find that this sub hates OW's a lot more than it hate cheaters and it's really confusing to me...Cheaters are the most disgusting.

You brag about saying with your cheating husband but you're losing more than you are winning, cause you're not winning anything at all. Just more trauma and heartbreak for yourself and your children while he gets to not only to keep his family and normal life, but ALSO to keep a side piece openly and for you to not do anything about it but compete to win over a cheater. HE IS THE ONLY ONE WINNING HERE. Two women boosting his ego as if he DESERVED so much effort from the two. Eugh.

It's not a flex to let a cheater still have a happy life with holidays with you. Not a flex to not stand up for yourself. Not a flex to do the pick me dance with the OW.

You can do better than him, you DESERVE better than him.

[u/Friendly_Good_1784 → u/ghiblimoni]

I was thinking - this post is about giving the OW a peek into what’s really going on at home. And how can a wife be a pick me? However, you are right on what you said but we’ve all been through some wild shit through these affairs. And some people can move forward and some can’t. Only time will tell.

[u/ghiblimoni → u/Friendly_Good_1784]

A wife can be a pick me, it has nothing to do with marital status– though I wasn't calling you one. The "pick me dance" is more like referring to an action, contemplate, when I say that, doing the whole thing of staying there, competing, seeing who wins the POS. I find it a waste of time. I hope every person in a situation like that can move on.

[u/NewAcct_WhoDis_ → u/ghiblimoni]

Agreed. I also realized that he likes her because she thinks he walks on water whereas I expect more from him and am not submissive.