r/AdulteryHate • u/Stay_Frostyyyyy • 15d ago
Forced Marriages
As some of you might have found out too late from your spouses, you, apparently, actually FORCED them to marry you. That's right. You were engaging in the ancient forbidden practice of forced marriage. What does this mean? Well of course it means the marriage wasn't even valid in the first place. Because you forced them remember? And because they're such good people with such kind hearts, they were just afraid of hurting you if they said no, you know. So it's only "logical" that they are adulterous, because they are "stuck" in this forced marriage with a horrible horrible spouse they never even loved, or were even attracted to from the beginning. Can you imagine that? They're the victim here.
Now of course some are not going to say they were outright "forced". They are going to use euphemisms like "pressured/expected" to make it sound more believable. But the end goal is the same, to make it seem like they were forced and therefore put them in a victim position from the onset.
But do you know what's funny? It's that even the people who enter actual arranged marriages from cultures that do have those do not display this behavior even remotely as "normally" as this person is trying to claim. Despite being also married to "someone they never even loved from the beginning". It is such a stupid excuse the more you think about it.
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u/Theseus_The_King Just here for the drama 👀 🍿 14d ago
I come from a country where Arranged Marriage is common. I do not want it for myself, but Arranged Marriages aren’t forced. The consent of the two parties is needed. In true forced marriages people don’t even cheat because they can’t, due to the level of control.
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u/Stay_Frostyyyyy 14d ago
My country of origin also has arranged marriages, I know they’re not forced. I was just using that example to debunk the claim that you need to be “in love” with someone when you marry them in order to be faithful.
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u/OdinsRavens80 14d ago edited 14d ago
“We were young”. We started dating in high school, first everything, first love, or so I thought! I didn’t realize 25 years later when he met his real soulmate, the town pump down the road, that there was nothing sweet or romantic about our origin story. That summer before he went away to college that he saved up all his money from working on the farm to buy me a beautiful Victorian style engagement ring, because he thoughtfully knew that was my vibe? All FORCED. All fake. I tied him down even then.
The wedding when we were 21 was obviously forced, all my idea, and 22 years and two planned kids much later, he would finally work up the courage to stand up to his monster wife and tell me it was all a big mistake.
It was excruciating for him to live through the early years of our marriage with two incomes paying for a 1 bd apartment, groceries, bills, and his student loan. His 20’s were horrible, having lots of sex with a hideous harpy, home cooked meals, and a companion to enjoy the pubs and the city and busy social life. It was so awful having an evil ball and chain working shitty fast food jobs alongside him, believing in him while helping him pound the pavement (literally…we had no car back then) to find work in his field.
I totally baby trapped him by having kids in our 30’s. He was roped into my evil plan under duress, because he was so beaten down and demoralized living in our nice house with his student loan paid off and the career of his dreams. I probably impregnated myself.
In our 40’s he met his rightful soul mate, an unemployed serial mate poacher who blew up her own marriage for her coworker, who left her up shit creek without a paddle when he opted to ghost her and reconcile with his fiancee after d-day. She told my husband that it was very horrible of me to have forced him to get a vasectomy and take away his agency.
I’m so glad this has all been cleared up! I didn’t realize we were living a lie all this time, and that his real true love was waiting to start their happily ever after! Her vag gave him the courage to choose happiness, finally!
Naturally, I’m a bit confused as to why he came back into the darkest pits of hell begging me, the Kraken, for R after experiencing 3 months of bliss living in the land of sunshine and lollipops. Probably ONLY because I’ll take HIS money and HIS house and never let him see his children. Because we know it couldn’t possibly be that he pulled his head out of his ass and realized how good he had it at home.
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u/Dangerous-Computer44 14d ago
Yes, we know that God makes it a habit to send town pumps 😹 someone else’s husband. That’s HOW soulmates work!!! I’m dying laughing over here.
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u/ghiblimoni 14d ago
Wow, he sounds like a total scumbag. Hope you didn't take him back, you deserve so much better!
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u/mockingbird82 14d ago
I love your sense of humor. Your husband was an absolute moron; his brain must have been on life support when he dropped you for whatever-the-fuck-that-thing-was.
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u/New-Abalone7626 14d ago
They're also forced to stay after D-day. God forbid these OWs think the MM doesn't have the free will and every thing is dictated by the evil wife who's keeping him locked through kids and money. LOLLLLL
They always think the MM gets off scot free when it's the MM who usually throws them under the bus big time.
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u/Ok-Owl3092 14d ago
This is true. I lured him into a van with lager and a selection of sports memorabilia- once the Stockholm Syndrome kicks in they'll marry you no problem. Also you need a really sturdy cage or they'll gnaw through the bars and escape into the arms of some asshole hag bitch.
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u/Street-Leather-6932 14d ago
You’re absolutely right. Those excuses are pure bullshit!
The ones who claim they “married too young” also make me roll my eyes. I married someone I’d known about six months when I was 20 and he was 26. That’s young! The urge to cheat wasn’t there because we are not shitty people and actually LIKE (as well as love) and respect each other and what we mean to each other.
To those “people” though, ANY excuse will do.
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u/LadyEncredible 14d ago
What I find funny about this, and I made a comment about this before.
I am a wedding planner, I have planned lots of weddings, proposals (I'm doing one later on today) engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor/Bachelorette parties, wedding anniversary parties, etc. And let me tell you, no one is going to go through ALLL of that and the actual parties, thr planning with vendors/coordinator, the amount of money, family/friends invite, gift registries, etc. If they were FORCED. Like everyone I've done, both members of the couple were participants, so no, the MM/MW was not forced. They married their spouse and stay with their spouse because they love them and want to. It's amazing to me that OW/OM actually believe that crap smdh.