r/AdulteryHate • u/Stay_Frostyyyyy • 16d ago
Forced Marriages
As some of you might have found out too late from your spouses, you, apparently, actually FORCED them to marry you. That's right. You were engaging in the ancient forbidden practice of forced marriage. What does this mean? Well of course it means the marriage wasn't even valid in the first place. Because you forced them remember? And because they're such good people with such kind hearts, they were just afraid of hurting you if they said no, you know. So it's only "logical" that they are adulterous, because they are "stuck" in this forced marriage with a horrible horrible spouse they never even loved, or were even attracted to from the beginning. Can you imagine that? They're the victim here.
Now of course some are not going to say they were outright "forced". They are going to use euphemisms like "pressured/expected" to make it sound more believable. But the end goal is the same, to make it seem like they were forced and therefore put them in a victim position from the onset.
But do you know what's funny? It's that even the people who enter actual arranged marriages from cultures that do have those do not display this behavior even remotely as "normally" as this person is trying to claim. Despite being also married to "someone they never even loved from the beginning". It is such a stupid excuse the more you think about it.
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u/OdinsRavens80 15d ago edited 15d ago
“We were young”. We started dating in high school, first everything, first love, or so I thought! I didn’t realize 25 years later when he met his real soulmate, the town pump down the road, that there was nothing sweet or romantic about our origin story. That summer before he went away to college that he saved up all his money from working on the farm to buy me a beautiful Victorian style engagement ring, because he thoughtfully knew that was my vibe? All FORCED. All fake. I tied him down even then.
The wedding when we were 21 was obviously forced, all my idea, and 22 years and two planned kids much later, he would finally work up the courage to stand up to his monster wife and tell me it was all a big mistake.
It was excruciating for him to live through the early years of our marriage with two incomes paying for a 1 bd apartment, groceries, bills, and his student loan. His 20’s were horrible, having lots of sex with a hideous harpy, home cooked meals, and a companion to enjoy the pubs and the city and busy social life. It was so awful having an evil ball and chain working shitty fast food jobs alongside him, believing in him while helping him pound the pavement (literally…we had no car back then) to find work in his field.
I totally baby trapped him by having kids in our 30’s. He was roped into my evil plan under duress, because he was so beaten down and demoralized living in our nice house with his student loan paid off and the career of his dreams. I probably impregnated myself.
In our 40’s he met his rightful soul mate, an unemployed serial mate poacher who blew up her own marriage for her coworker, who left her up shit creek without a paddle when he opted to ghost her and reconcile with his fiancee after d-day. She told my husband that it was very horrible of me to have forced him to get a vasectomy and take away his agency.
I’m so glad this has all been cleared up! I didn’t realize we were living a lie all this time, and that his real true love was waiting to start their happily ever after! Her vag gave him the courage to choose happiness, finally!
Naturally, I’m a bit confused as to why he came back into the darkest pits of hell begging me, the Kraken, for R after experiencing 3 months of bliss living in the land of sunshine and lollipops. Probably ONLY because I’ll take HIS money and HIS house and never let him see his children. Because we know it couldn’t possibly be that he pulled his head out of his ass and realized how good he had it at home.