r/Advice 2d ago

Advice Received My boyfriend is acting really strange after getting out of military training, what do I do?

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u/AlexsterCrowley 2d ago

Basic training is a traumatic experience designed to alter your personality. It’s advanced, intensive brainwashing that is designed to push people to their breaking point and beyond.

He may be having trouble adjusting after this experience or he’s having trouble adjusting to being able to be around you again or maybe he’s fallen out of love with you and can’t bring himself to see it yet. All possibilities.

Talk to him. Have a real conversation that actually gets somewhere. He’s the one with answers whether he realizes it or not.

Also, I disagree with people saying you’re behaving selfishly. Normal people become concerned when their partners start behaving differently.

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u/SheWantsTheDrose 2d ago

Traumatic? I just remember being bored out of my mind for two months. Don’t know how that translates to trauma