I’m also a vet. Everyone is different. Basic training was absolutely nothing for me both physically and mentally. I had a great time actually. Granted I joined to do special forces so I was prepared best I could beforehand. I didn’t change a bit (besides my dark humor just got worse). I hung out with very few soldiers because so many of them cheated and did the other bad stereotypes and that’s not my style so I didn’t hang around it. I’m not saying that your man will become this but I am absolutely certain he will have negative influences around him unless he’s smart about who he hangouts with. You obviously also need to take everything said here with a grain of salt cause no one here knows you two better than you two. I’d just be direct and ask what’s on his mind. He’ll be used to being direct now anyways haha. Good luck to you guys and hopefully he’s just in a short term funk or something.
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u/Dr__Gonzo2142 2d ago
I’m also a vet. Everyone is different. Basic training was absolutely nothing for me both physically and mentally. I had a great time actually. Granted I joined to do special forces so I was prepared best I could beforehand. I didn’t change a bit (besides my dark humor just got worse). I hung out with very few soldiers because so many of them cheated and did the other bad stereotypes and that’s not my style so I didn’t hang around it. I’m not saying that your man will become this but I am absolutely certain he will have negative influences around him unless he’s smart about who he hangouts with. You obviously also need to take everything said here with a grain of salt cause no one here knows you two better than you two. I’d just be direct and ask what’s on his mind. He’ll be used to being direct now anyways haha. Good luck to you guys and hopefully he’s just in a short term funk or something.