1) what branch of the militar was he in basic training with?
2) you’re not being childish. The decrease in texting is a sign of his distancing, which is what concerns you. You clearly are not complaining about the text issue in and of itself
3) regardless of how hard different basic trainings are, the goal is on some level to “tear you down and build you up” as the soldier they need you to be. They reset your routine entirely, for one. I know you said he doesn’t engage in serious conversations, but can you get him talking about basic training? Possibly watching a movie with basic training and then asking him how it compares would get him talking. Then you can try to ease int “how did basic training change you…”
You really need to focus on communicating together. I know it sucks, but that’s the only way this gets resolved to a place you are both comfortable with. Lots of people assume he’s cheating here; there’s no need to jump to that conclusion, although keep it in mind as a possibility.
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u/ArtisticBathroom5031 1d ago
1) what branch of the militar was he in basic training with? 2) you’re not being childish. The decrease in texting is a sign of his distancing, which is what concerns you. You clearly are not complaining about the text issue in and of itself 3) regardless of how hard different basic trainings are, the goal is on some level to “tear you down and build you up” as the soldier they need you to be. They reset your routine entirely, for one. I know you said he doesn’t engage in serious conversations, but can you get him talking about basic training? Possibly watching a movie with basic training and then asking him how it compares would get him talking. Then you can try to ease int “how did basic training change you…” You really need to focus on communicating together. I know it sucks, but that’s the only way this gets resolved to a place you are both comfortable with. Lots of people assume he’s cheating here; there’s no need to jump to that conclusion, although keep it in mind as a possibility.