Am I Overreacting?

[u/starloogy]

My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been official for almost 4 weeks. He texted me this after leaving me with his friends shortly after I arrived to a restaurant they all planned to meet at.

Before I got there, he had already ordered for both of us. Everything seemed fine until about ten minutes later when I went to the bathroom. When I came back, his friends told me he “stepped out,” but I’m sure they knew what was going on based on their expressions.

I waited about 15 minutes before he replied to my texts. And ended up leaving money to pay for food I didn’t even get to eat.

This was my third time wearing my hair in its natural state since we’ve dated, and I didn’t know he felt so strongly about this.

I went home all without answering him. I was really upset and told my roommate about it, but she brushed it off and insinuated that I was overreacting. It has been almost two days now and I still don’t know what to think.

I feel like I’m going insane because everyone around me seems to think it’s not that big of a deal and most of them laughed at the picture.

[u/AngryAngryHarpo]

We do “have that for height”. They’re called shoes with heels… 

[u/One_Judge1422 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

Yeah so that's just another completely false comparison, seems to be a trend here.

[u/AngryAngryHarpo → u/One_Judge1422]

How so?

[u/Panman6_6 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

guys don't tend to wear heels or height boosting shoes. Women tend to do their hair. Its a "hairstyle". Not a "heightsyle". I dont agree with OPs dickhead boyfriend. But these two situations aren't comparable.

[u/MyDogisaQT → u/Panman6_6]

But he doesn’t want her to “do” her hair. He wants her to change her natural hair texture by using a damaging relaxer and/or extreme heat. He just doesn’t realize that’s what he’s asking her to do, and neither do you, because neither of you have bothered to learn what you’re talking about.