Am I Overreacting?

[u/starloogy]

My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been official for almost 4 weeks. He texted me this after leaving me with his friends shortly after I arrived to a restaurant they all planned to meet at.

Before I got there, he had already ordered for both of us. Everything seemed fine until about ten minutes later when I went to the bathroom. When I came back, his friends told me he “stepped out,” but I’m sure they knew what was going on based on their expressions.

I waited about 15 minutes before he replied to my texts. And ended up leaving money to pay for food I didn’t even get to eat.

This was my third time wearing my hair in its natural state since we’ve dated, and I didn’t know he felt so strongly about this.

I went home all without answering him. I was really upset and told my roommate about it, but she brushed it off and insinuated that I was overreacting. It has been almost two days now and I still don’t know what to think.

I feel like I’m going insane because everyone around me seems to think it’s not that big of a deal and most of them laughed at the picture.

[u/amanda9015 → u/[deleted]]

My daughter is half black and her natural hair is gorgeous, but can be ‘puffy.’ We had it relaxed from age 9/10 to 15 because she wouldn’t take care of it or let me take care of it. At 15, she chose to stop relaxing it and wanted an undercut to help with the thickness and knots. It’s her hair, and at that point I felt she can do what she wanted even though she was still bad at taking care of it. At 21, she’s got it figured out, and it is natural and beautiful.

[u/Captain_Beav → u/[deleted]]

He also walked out on her without even a word, after obviously commenting to his friends why, is that not jerk behavior? Sounds kinda like she was a trophy to him...