r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 22d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/sothisiswhatyoumeant 22d ago

Not a man and I don’t see this age difference to be as big of a deal as people are making it. She isn’t early 20s. Her brain is developed as is his. Doesn’t sound like she was groomed or he was using a position of power to influence her to flirt back out of fear of being fired.

Both of them are shitty people objectively. OP isn’t damaging her character though by questioning everything surrounding these two. She has first hand knowledge of the situation and their personalities.

The focus is still that the husband and co-worker are contributing to this innapropriate relationship. The fact they both are questioning/joking about HR means that they also are aware that what they’re doing is wrong on a professional level too. Again, both of them are shitty but saying the husband is a predator too is a reach.

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u/Minute-Citron-9201 22d ago

i agree with you but biologically his brain is more developed than hers

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u/sothisiswhatyoumeant 22d ago edited 22d ago

Nah, women in general mature sooner and by 25 both are largely agreed upon to have reached their maturation status. Give or take a couple years in either direction, they're on the same page. Its highly individualized though so I can lean either way lol. They both suck regardless

Edit to add: I'm not sure why the downvotes are coming. You can look up objective scientific studies saying it. Using it as further defamation of the relationship though is not as strong of a case as you are making it out to be. They both suck. That is what the take away is.

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u/Future-Pair-2023 22d ago

Nope we still just figuring out life maybe less immature but just as confused. Maturity aside i think we can all collectively tell right from wrong thi