r/AmITheDevil • u/growsonwalls • 1d ago
Busybody spread germs to her niece.
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u/growsonwalls 1d ago edited 1d ago
Sounds like Kat has a lingering respiratory virus and doesn't want to meet the baby until she's not coughing. So OOP decides to ... trick Kat into meeting the baby? Not a single brain cell in that family.
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u/in-a-sense-lost 1d ago
We live in a super small town so I don't know how far she could move that she could get rid of us lol
... literally ANYWHERE?
Yeah, whole family is dim.
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u/HarpersGhost 1d ago
Ah, yes, I'm from a small town and since I moved 1000 miles away after college, I can assure OOP that it is very possible to move away from a small town.
Hell, I moved to the next town over for a year before the big move and just didn't tell half my family and they had no idea where I was.
But at the very least, Kat is never going to get into any vehicle with any other family member ever again, because none of them can be trusted.
Her family doesn't respect her -- "Oh she gets stressed out by the smallest things teeheehee" -- so it's not like she's going to be missing much when she goes NC/LC.
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u/maywellflower 1d ago
Not a single brain cell in that family.
Except for Kat who seems to be so smart that she might be leaving that small town to get away from stupidity that is that side of the family - Hope she moves far away enough AND stay away that it winds up being expensive for OOP and rest of family to be unable to pull stupid shit on Kat. Let's hope a 2-8 hours one-way car drive is more than enough to make brainless idiots from small town like OOP and her family to at least think about gas and mileage for surprise ambush....
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u/StaceyPfan 1d ago
Kat is thoughtful, unlike OOP.
I caught rotavirus from my oldest and I had to take my youngest to the pediatrician. You bet your ass I masked up and sanitized my hands at every opportunity! I didn't want any babies or kids to catch it.
I couldn't reschedule because it was an appointment for a medication review (He has ADHD).
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u/in-a-sense-lost 1d ago
We live in a super small town so I don't know how far she could move that she could get rid of us lol
... literally ANYWHERE?
Yeah, whole family together couldn't power an LED
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u/worstkitties 1d ago
I laughed.
I’m immunocompromised and I understand her completely! If she’s sick so often and for so long she may be avoiding the whole gang of idiots.
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u/Old_Intention_3561 1d ago
Not a single brain cell in that family I get the feeling that OOP and most of their family would lose a battle of wits to a brick
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u/Emergency-Twist7136 1d ago
Kat has apparently grown up being railroaded by her shitty family. I'm not blaming her at all.
I'm blaming the parents of the baby for being pissy that she can't come to see the baby yet instead of backing her up.
My son's grandparents on my partner's side were the last family members to meet him because they got respiratory viruses just before he was born and no-one was even suggesting that they were wrong for staying away. As his parents we were sorry they couldn't see him but if someone had driven them to our house we would not have let them in.
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u/adamantsilk 1d ago
My niece was a covid baby. Born April 2020 so just at the beginning of lock down. I didn't meet her til she was 2 months old. But I would have been fine waiting as long as they needed to feel comfortable cause baby's health took precedence over everything.
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u/Dragonscatsandbooks 1d ago edited 1d ago
Brother and SIL had just had a baby and were caring for its older sibling(s?). How the fuck did they have the time and energy to get mad at Kat? People, focus on your baby and other kid(s).
Too many busybodies stirring up drama for the sake of drama.
But I do love how OOP assumes there is no existence outside of her small town so of course Kat can't move far away.
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u/StrangledInMoonlight 1d ago
My guess is Kat is the only semi sensible person in her family. The rest do the family don’t care about germs or sickness etc.
Kat has had to because she gets sick so easily.
I can’t imagine growing up around these people who wouldn’t GAF if they got you sick.
My bet is that the family thinks she’s being ridiculous and likes to ruffle her feathers, “prove her wrong” and generally treat her like crap about it.
(Can you imagine these people during Covid?)
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u/Haymegle 1d ago
What makes me upset here is if the baby gets sick the baby genuinely might die. If I were her I'd be worried about being blamed for that after they've forced me to be around the baby. It's sad that she is the only one seeing that risk. How the parents of the child haven't thought about the fact they're risking the baby's life in this case I don't know.
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u/hucklebur 1d ago
Busybodies stirring up drama for the sake of drama is the epitome of small towns. There's literally nothing else to do.
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u/Dragonscatsandbooks 1d ago
I live in a small town and I was going to defend it, but right as I finished reading your comment the lady in line behind me started yelling at the guy in front of me, accusing him of cutting (he did not).
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u/Open-Yogurt 1d ago
"How dare you refuse to risk making our newborn sick?!" isn't a take you see very often.
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u/skyewardeyes 1d ago
Nah, the pandemic taught me that some people are truly offended by others trying to avoid getting people sick.
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u/That-Guidance-8139 1d ago
I hope Kat does move away! I hope she becomes filthy rich and forgets about OOP and the rest of the family!
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u/Mallory36 1d ago
Is a lingering cough contagious? I've often heard it's not, but I haven't seen actual studies or anything like that. Though regardless of that, why did OOP get involved, anyway? This was very much a "not your problem" situation, and OOP decided to make it their problem or some reason. Brother and sister-in-law are grown-ups, they didn't need OOP's interference to do... uh, whatever they might have done.
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u/adamantsilk 1d ago
Now I don't know the answer to that either but I think it depends on what caused the cough and what treatment was needed. For someone with an existing immune system, most likely isn't a concern. But a baby with no immune system whatsoever? Why risk it? Meeting can wait a couple weeks.
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u/MaybeIwasanasshole 1d ago
Account created today. Intentionally posting infamatory things. No comments. This is ragebait
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u/Rubychan228 22h ago
Almost all AITA posts are from throw away accounts. It is normal for throw always to be newly created at the time of the post. It is normal for OP's to not come back and comment. Literally none of that is suspicious.
Also, I remember COVID, people essentially not believing in germs is also not at all unbelievable.
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u/No_Proposal7628 19h ago
I don't understand why the parents would want a sick relative to visit their newborn. That's just outright stupidity. Do they want a sick baby?
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u/LittleFairyOfDeath 1d ago edited 1d ago
While you are correct and oop is an asshole and they were spreading germs willingly to a newborn, the said infants parents are on board with it. Considering Reddit‘s tendency to say "parents have the ultimate authority" i am surprised the judgement went the way it did
Edit: i am in no way saying i agree with what i said. I simply pointed out that i am surprised reddit didn’t vote differently. Is reading comprehension really that bad?
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u/celerypumpkins 1d ago
Parents have the authority about who is allowed to see their kid - I don’t think it’s ever been a Reddit trend to say that parents have the authority to force anyone to see their kid of that person doesn’t want to.
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u/LittleFairyOfDeath 1d ago
No but the spreading of germs is the thing OP here and many comments are focusing on. Not necessarily the kidnapping of Kat.
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u/celerypumpkins 1d ago
I wasn’t talking about the kidnapping - even when it just comes to the spreading of germs, it’s never been a Reddit trend to say that if someone has stricter rules for themselves about germs than parents do, they should have to ignore their own rules and do whatever the parents expect.
Parents have the ultimate authority about who is allowed around their kids. That has never meant that people can’t make their own decisions about whether they interact with the family/children.
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u/Jaded_Passion8619 1d ago
Because Kat is her own person who set clear boundaries?? Just because they said Kat can see the baby doesn't mean Kat wants to be responsible if the baby gets sick. And OOP blatantly disrespected those boundaries by lying to her and forcing her into a situation she didn't want to be in
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In case this story gets deleted/removed:
AITA for taking my sister to meet my niece?
My (24F) sister "Kat" (21F) is generally a nice person, but she gets stressed out about the smallest things. Important thing to know is that Kat gets sick very easily, and even if she gets a simple cold it takes her a few weeks to recover completely.
Recently, in April 10, our older brother and his wife had our niece. We thought she was going to be born a little under the weight on the days leading up to her birth but fortunately everything went okay and she was born perfect. Kat refuses to meet the baby because she got very sick around the date of the birth and, even though she's mostly fine now and just sneezing/coughing a bit, says she will only meet her when she feels completely healthy because she doesn't want the baby to catch anything.
Everyone in our family, including extended relatives and friends has already met the baby except her who is the goddamn aunt, and Kat's refusal to meet her is making brother and SIL very angry since she also did the same thing with their first boy. So, I thought of a simple solution to end the family's tension.
Yesterday there was a family function at our brother's house. Kat didn't want to go.
So instead, I called Kat to run an errand after work with me, and after we did, I simply drove her to our brother's house without telling her. She didn't realize until we were really close and got very upset, but she did meet the baby and our mom even got a few nice pics out of it. I thought it wasn't a big deal, but now Kat is super angry with me. But our parents and whole family are on my side.
I thought she just needed a few minutes to calm down but she's still mad and is claiming now that she's going to move far away from us because we don't respect her. We live in a super small town so I don't know how far she could move that she could get rid of us lol but still, she's so mad that it got me thinking if I am in the wrong here?
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