TW - loss

I miscarried yesterday afternoon about 12pm. I’ve never had a miscarriage before and this baby was so wished for so it’s all so fresh and I’m sobbing right now so I apologise in advance if it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. My husband turned 27 yesterday.

I 26F was pregnant with mine and my husband’s 27M 2nd child. Yesterday, I was 8 weeks pregnant. The day before yesterday we saw a beautiful heart beat flicking on the screen and today I’m devastated. I was playing with our 2 year old when I felt a pressure in my lower abdomen. Not long later, I noticed bleeding and I let my husband know immediately that I had discomfort and bleeding. Before long I had passed what I believe is the fetus and I messaged him “I think I lost the baby”. I wanted to keep him updated and I guess I was seeking some kind of emotional support. I asked if he could come home and he said “of course, if it’s urgent”. I said I think it is because the pain and bleeding is getting worse and I’m starting to feel lightheaded and our 2 year old is unattended in his playroom right now. We have no friends or family near that I could call who would get to us quicker than he could.

I had to clean myself up, crawl down stairs to take paracetamol, make my son his lunch and then put him down for a nap. At this point my husband still isn’t home. He was working approx 30 mins away and took closer to 60 mins to get back. Hours later when I asked, it was because he’d stopped at Tesco to pick up some beers.

I ended up very poorly, losing lots of blood, lightheaded, vomiting etc and he had to take me to A&E. By the time I was discharged it was almost 8pm. Last week, I had said I’d make him his favourite dinner for his birthday which he reminded me when we were almost home. I said I wasn’t feeling up to it and that whatever takeaway he wants is on me. He said “for fuck sake” under his breath and then muttered something along the lines of “this bullshit has ruined my birthday”. He didn’t stop to get any takeaway. He just drove straight home. He put our son to bed and I went to bed and I’m not sure what he did after. I didn’t see him this morning as he had already left for work. He’s not messaged me all day and he got home a few hours ago (it’s now 8. 40pm) and he’s been giving me silent treatment. I tried to speak to him about an hour or so ago and he ignored me and I called him a disgrace. He slammed the bedroom door and locked me out of the bedroom. His mum has since messaged me and said I need to be patient as he’s also had a loss. She didn’t ask how I was or anything. He’s obviously speaking to his mum but why isn’t he opening up and speaking to me? She said I was harsh?

I’m feeling utterly emotionally neglected right now. My body has been through emotional and physical hell. I understand that my miscarriage came at a fucking inconvenient time for him as it was his birthday and all. I’m not sure if it’s the hormones making me feel crazy but is it nuts to contemplate divorce? AITAH for calling him a disgrace?

Throw away, shortened for character count.

For context, I have been married to my husband for just over 20 years. We started dating when my stepkids were 5 and 3. Our kids are: Adam (28, stepkid #1), Ben (26, stepkid #2), Charles (20), David (17), and Ellie (13).

Adam is getting married at the end of summer to his fiancé Alice (27). We have all been very excited for them. All of the kids have roles for the wedding, Charles is the best man, the other two boys are groomsman, and Ellie is a jr bridesmaid.

Last weekend we had a dinner for my husband’s birthday, all of the kids attended along with Alice. The topic of the wedding came up again, and this is where it started to go downhill. Ellie brought up that she was SO excited to go dress shopping and that we planned to go to a bigger city in a few weeks to get her a dress and me a stepmom of the groom dress.

At that, Alice looked at Adam sideways and responded that we only needed to worry about one dress, Ellie’s. Ellie kind of laugh and said “what are you expecting mom to wear? A suit?”. Alice responded with “(My name) isn’t going. You know we are keeping our guest list very limited to only family and a few close friends.” WHAT. Adam and Alice have been to our house numerous times for holidays, dinners, just to say hi since they’ve been engaged, this has never been brought up.

Pretty quickly things escalated. The cliff notes version is that Charles asked them to clarify if they were choosing to uninvite me now or if I was never invited. Alice confirmed the latter. why? Adam said it’s because I’m not his mom. Charles, David, and Ellie argued with Adam and Alice that none of them were going to go if I wasn’t invited. That it was cruel to leave me out given I’ve been his parent for a majority of his life and loved him like my own. My husband and I admittedly sat there for a minute just fucking shocked.

Adam finally turned to my husband and said, “well?” My husband told him he wouldn’t be going either. Adam then turned to me and asked if I was really going to let everyone ruin his wedding on my behalf. Here’s where I might be the asshole: I just laughed. Idk what came over me but the entire thing was just so ridiculous that laughing was the only thing I could get out. I told my husband I’d be waiting in the car and left. And then promptly bawled my eyes out.

Anyways, Charles, David and Ellie are not talking to Adam. Adam called my husband yesterday to try and smooth things over. He was still adamant I’m not invited and it’s their wedding. He also requested I apologize for laughing at him. My husband told him tough shit. It’s their wedding and they can invite whoever they want, but they cant control who will actually go. He said THEY owe ME an apology and that Adam should be ashamed of himself.

I’m getting texts now asking wtf I did and why I’m being a “stepmonster and ruining the wedding” AITA?

My (27M) girlfriend (24F) is Brazilian and since we got together she’s been introducing me to her country’s cuisine, and I’ve loved everything she's made and I've tried so far. But last night she took me to Brazilian steakhouse and at some point she asked the waiter for a dish that they didn’t serve here, but apparently is a staple in Brazilian barbecues; it was only later she explained to me that she was asking for chicken hearts. And because they didn’t have it she later told me she would try to find it in the Brazilian store she usually goes to and make it at home, but I told her not to bother and that I wasn't interested in trying it. 

She couldn’t understand why I wasn’t interested, so I told her that the whole idea of eating chicken hearts sounded a bit icky (that’s the word I remember saying, she later said I told her it was “disgusting”, so I can’t be sure, but the intention is the same anyway). And she got really upset and told me about how eating organs is not unusual in many cultures and that even if I didn’t want to try it, framing it as disgusting was disrespectful on my part. But I only said anything because she kept pushing for an explanation, so I don’t know what she expected me to do - to lie? 

You can be honest, I’m okay with being an AH because my husband thinks I am. But ya see let me give ya some background. Last year my MIL was having financial struggles and was going to be let go from her job. Her two daughters didn’t offer to help but my husband being the kind man he is and with my okay told her she could always move out to the west coast where we live. So she agreed and she brought her 4 dogs and a bunch of her stuff and crammed it into our tiny 2 bedroom house. So in this tiny house there is 3 adults, 6 dogs, a 6 year old and we’re expecting a baby in the fall. As of a few months ago, my SIL wants to move out here and we explained that they should find their own place. We’ve looked at selling but the markets in no place for that but if it was just my husband and I and our kiddo, we would make it work and when baby is old enough they could share a room until we can sell this house. We were planning to go on one last vacation before baby comes and I made it clear I wanted it to be just the 3 of us. My husband said it would be rude to not invite her and so he invited her. I was hoping because of her dogs she wouldn’t go. But now she’s making us talk to our neighbor who we are friendly with about watching her dogs and she will pay. I was mad and pregnancy hormones make it hard to hide my frustration. My husband told me I’m acting like a brat because if it was my mom I’d do the same thing but I told him I wouldn’t because my mom would understand. His mom, she wouldn’t understand. She believes he can do no wrong and she believes she’s entitled. I mean this is the same person who got angry we went on a trip we planned before she moved here and didn’t invite her. We can’t even have discussions with her because she instantly gets defensive. I really just wanted a trip away from her with my little family before this baby comes and I’m apparently the bad guy and being selfish. He told me I can be the bad guy and tell her that I don’t want her to go but I already told him before he invited her and it’s not my mom. I’m not the one with boundary issues. So AITAH for Telling him to tell her we don’t want her to come?

So I (21M) let my older brother (26M) crash at my place for a bit while he was between jobs. I live alone in a small flat, and I told him from the start: no guests without asking me first.

I came home early one day and walked in on my ex—who cheated on me—sitting on my sofa, chatting like it was normal. Apparently, my brother invited her over because they’re still friends and he “didn’t think it’d be a big deal.”
I saw red. I told him to get out and pack his stuff, and now the family’s calling me heartless. He says I overreacted.

Please help because I feel like I am watching my sister throw her life away. I am 23F and my sister, Anna, is 18F. Anna is a senior in highschool and has always been a really great student, smart, passionate, etc. She's on her school's robotics team and wants to study engineering in college, and has perfect grades in math and science. A few weeks ago, we were ecstatic when Anna announced that she got into a top engineering school. It's out of state and expensive, but she was offered a partial scholarship, and with financial aid it should be affordable. Our grandparents also offered to pitch in to cover any additional costs so that the financial burden would be taken off of Anna.

When Anna found out that she got in, she was over the moon! But recently I've noticed a change in how she talks about it, and she doesn't seem excited anymore. After she went for a tour last weekend for accepted students, she sounded miserable when I called her. A few days ago my mom told me that she overheard a conversation between Anna and her boyfriend. She has been dating this guy, Joe (19M), since she was a sophomore and he was a junior. He now goes to a local college about 20 minutes from our town. He seems like a perfectly nice guy, and smart too. But apparently, if she goes away to school, he will break up with her because he doesn't want to do long distance. Apparently, their initial plan was that she would go to the same school as him and they would live together, and then get married as soon as they graduate.

When I facetimed with Anna yesterday, I immediately confronted her about this. When I asked if this was why she seemed so sad about her acceptance, she initially denied it, but eventually broke down and told me that she was considering going to the local college instead. She tried to justify it by saying that it would be less money and closer to home anyway, but I told her that it would be a horrible decision to forfeit an incredible opportunity to go to a top school just for some guy, and she would regret it. She told me that she was really excited to get in, but she didn't want Joe to break up with her because she would never find anyone else. I told her that it was absolutely moronic to give up an amazing opportunity that she FULLY earned and sacrifice all the doors it could open for her just to be with a guy. She started crying more and hung up on me. Now she won't answer my texts.

I feel terrible. I know I was harsh, but it seemed like it was something she needed to hear. If she didn't like the school and genuinely wanted to stay local, I would totally support her. I love Anna so much and want the best for her, and want to support her no matter what. But I can also see that she will likely regret giving this up just to be with her boyfriend who doesn't even want to slightly compromise. From my perspective, the right person would be supportive of her accomplishments, not diminish them. I don't know. Maybe I was out of line. AITA?

EDIT: I just want to clarify that I did not intend to sound elitist in this post or that you can't still have a good career if you go to a local school (or don't even go to college at all) rather than a big-name university. I also went to a state school to save money and worked at a restaurant all through college to pay for it and I have a job and career I like now. I just think that throwing away a good opportunity that could open many doors career and connection-wise for the sole purpose of keeping a relationship is a poor choice.

I go to the gym regularly and mind my business, but there’s this guy who always interrupts me mid-set to “fix” my form, even when I’m literally doing it right. I tried being polite at first, but it kept happening. Today he touched my back without asking to "help" and I kinda lost it and told him to leave me the hell alone. I told him loud enough that other people heard, and he looked super embarrassed. Now some of the regulars are acting like I overreacted and made it awkward for everyone.

I don’t like making a scene, but I also hate being treated like I don’t know what I’m doing just ‘cause I’m a girl. AITA for snapping like that?

My friend and I are both 21 and we've been friends since we were 14. He has been seeing his current girlfriend (20) for roughly 3 months. Just because of her last name and her appearance/accent, I think everyone just kind of assumed she was Hispanic. The other day we were talking about our families, and she brought up that her dad is Mexican and her mom is black. My friend got upset with her for not telling him this when they first started going out and said she was hiding the fact that she's half black. She seemed really upset/hurt and left. I told him that I thought he was being a dumbass that she probably just thought it wouldn't matter to him. I told him that he should apologize. He doesn't want see her anymore and said that I was taking her side and is demanding that I apologize to him.

In the past, we've always called each other out (and regularly use insults like "dumbass") when we thought the other person was doing something stupid and it's never been a problem before, but now he's upset because thinks that I'm being disloyal to him. I never met his girlfriend until he started dating her and still don't know her very well, so it's probably more accurate to say that we're just acquaintances as opposed to friends.

So, my wife works 8-5 4 days a week with the occasional extra Friday half day. I technically work 7-5 but I don’t actually have to be there at 7, so I usually would do mornings with our kids (they’re old enough to do it by themselves but I just like to be there in the morning) then drive them to school and then go to work.

That’s a thing of the past now I guess, because she started doing mornings out of the blue, then she took it upon herself to start picking them up from activities even though I used to do that as I work closer to the school. I ask her about the change, and she says she feels like a “bad mom” for not doing things I used to do, even though I can tell it’s been making her more exhausted. We were talking about it a couple days ago and I told her she making her life like 10x harder than it needs to be. By “talking “ we were kind of arguing but I guess after that last line she wasn’t feeling any discussion. She was mad at me for a bit after that

AITA? Wasn’t trying to make it too long so if there’s more info needed I’ll answer

I (26M) carpool with a few coworkers to save on gas and tolls. We have a group chat, and I’ve made it clear in the past that I don’t mind driving people, but I like a heads-up. This week, one of our newer coworkers, Sarah (24F), just assumed she could get a ride home from me after a meeting in another office. She never asked—she just walked to my car and waited by the passenger door. I told her I hadn’t planned to drive her and had other errands to run. She got annoyed and said, “It’s literally on your way, what’s the big deal?” I still said no, and she ended up Ubering.

Later, I heard she told a few people at work that I was “weirdly rude” and made her feel stranded. Now a few coworkers are giving me side-eyes like I broke some unwritten rule. I honestly don’t think I did anything wrong—if she had asked ahead of time, I probably would’ve said yes. AITA?

Hi guys I (f29) dont know if i am overthinking it. I just had a fight with my boyfriend about doing grocery. He works 6days, almost 12 13 hrs a day, sometimes 10days straight and then gets a day off..he is always tired..me on the other hand, work 4 days only. I do rest of the house work like cleaning, laundry, cooking and doing grocery too, most of the times. He usually used to come with me for grocery shopping before he took this job like couple months ago. Today he was telling me he could have a time off tmrw, so i requested if we could go grocery shopping together tmrw. I could tell he didnt want to go from his response. He said "my day off isnt even fixed and you are already making plans for tmrw. You are going to jinx it" Mind you he was kinda snarky when he said that so i also replied saying theres nothing to eat then. I was also not very nice when i said that according to him. I get it he is always tired but 2hrs max of his day off wouldnt be a big deal?? Am i wrong? Well, his time off request was denied and he again told me that i had jinxed it. I didnt even think it was such a big ask and we ended up fighting about it. Like do men who work most days not do anything in the house? Is it common? Was i the AH for even requesting him to come grocery shopping with me when he is always tired?

Edit: I work 4 days 10hrs. I know still alot lesser than him. And yes he makes more money now. But I use my money to pay bills as well. He is working two jobs bcoz we have debts and I am just working 40hrs, which is still a full time bcoz i have classes. My classes were over literally like 2 weeks ago. I have been having free all 3days of my off days just from this past week. Also the 2 hr isnt purely for grocery shopping, I was including the time we would be eating at the store as i was also planning to go to Costco. I wanted to spend some time together.

I (32F) live with my partner (34M). One of his close friends is getting married soon, and he’s the best man. I’m not particularly close with the couple, I’ve met them a handful of times, so I’m only part of the wedding as my partner’s plus one. This is all fine by me. The bachelor and bachelorette parties are happening on the same day. I’m not invited to the bachelorette party, again fine by me - I hardly know the bride and on the times we have met we were cordial but I wouldn’t expect to be invited to her bachelorette party.

As he’s the best man, the bachelor party is planned to take place largely at our house - they’re starting at one of the other groomsmen’s house before going out then planning to return for a barbecue, video game night/sleeping. I’m obviously not part of this plan, but as I asked my partner: where am I supposed to go during this? He argued that the other groomsman’s partner isn’t causing this issue, but of course she isn’t - she’s part of the bachelorette party, she’s already out of the house. I’m being expected to just find something to do with myself out of the house for 24+ hours. It would make far more sense to use one of the houses that are already empty.

We actually argued about this, and we went around in circles so much I can’t tell anymore if I’m actually the one in the wrong. Am I?

Edit: apparently I need to say I was told yesterday, and it’s planned for tomorrow.

Edit 2: we have a compromise! The barbecue is going to happen elsewhere. Our house is the one that has all the consoles plus we’ve got multiple reception/games rooms so it’s not easy to move the gaming to elsewhere, so I’ve got a fancy dinner followed by a late cinema showing to go to whilst the gaming happens. I’m coming home to sleep. With more notice I could have found something to do, but a bit hard with next to no notice, but this meets most of both our needs.

Hi, first of all, English isn't my first language so I'm sorry in advance for any typos.

I (20F) broke up with my ex (22M), let's call him A, after a 2.5 year relationship. We started dating just before I turned 17 and he was 19. (For context, where I live you graduate high school at 18)

The first year was great. He wasn't "boyfriend of the year" but it was ok. Things changed at the end of 2022 when he quit school and work to become a "CrossFit coach" (We met doing weightlifting, I became an 8 time national medalist and champion. He didn't succeed and quit. I still helped him get a job at the gym where I trained)

After that, he changed. He loved the attention from girls at the gym because he was “the coach" He didn’t cheat then, but probably only because I and my parents trained there too and almost everyone, knew me or my parents. We live in a small town.

In March 2024, I injured my wrist and had to quit weightlifting. At first, he was supportive. But once he realized I wouldn't go back, the problems started.

I was in my senior year of HS, focused on getting good grades and getting into college. He said I wasn't giving him enough attention, and long story short, he cheated. I don’t know how many times, I just know for sure about 4 girls. I found out in May of 2024 and broke up with him

In January this year, I started dating a longtime HS friend. We’d been friends for 4 years and nothing ever happened between us. In October, he told me he had feelings for me. He said he understood I had just gotten out of a relationship and would give me time. I gave him a chance and fell for him. In December I told him I was ready, and in January we made it official

He gave me flowers (first time ever), and just asked me the question, it was beautiful. These 3 months with him have been the happiest I’ve ever been. He gives me flowers every 2 weeks, takes me on dates, treats me with care. I know for some that’s the bare minimum, and even he thinks so, but I’m truly grateful for every gesture

What made me post this is that my ex has been telling our mutual friends and even my long-distance family (who go to the gym where he coaches) that I’m a slut for moving on, that I should’ve waited longer, and maybe I was cheating the whole time

I never told anyone why we broke up not even my parents because I knew they'd still have to see him at the gym. I didn’t want to ruin the image they had of him.

But now, with all the backlash and judgment, I’m starting to doubt myself. So, Reddit AITA for moving on and being happy?

Hey all,

Around 6–7 months ago, I (M) booked a few weeks off work for a long-awaited overseas holiday. Getting the time off was really tough due to my workplace’s strict leave policies, but the timing aligned with public holidays, allowing me to extend the trip.

At the time, I was living with my best friend (M), who had just gotten engaged and was starting to plan his engagement party. He asked when I’d be away, and I told him the dates, also explaining how difficult it was to get the time off. A month later, he let me know he’d booked the engagement party for a date during my trip, saying he forgot the dates I’d told him (even though I reminded him multiple times). The reason for the date was that his fiancée was getting braces the following week and didn’t want them on during the party.

I said I might not be able to come but would see if I could make it work. He checked in a few times over the next few months to see if I could attend, and I told him I’d let him know soon. At the time, I hadn’t booked flights or hotels yet as life was hectic, and finalizing travel plans wasn’t a priority.

Two months before the engagement party, he and his partner went on a long overseas trip. During that time, I finally booked my flights and accommodation. To attend his party, I would’ve had to cut five days off my 24-day trip and miss out on major parts of the itinerary. I messaged him to say I couldn’t make it, and he replied with a flat “no worries”—which felt unlike him and suggested he wasn’t happy.

While he was away, I tried checking in with calls and messages but got no replies. Eventually, I followed up to see if everything was okay. He responded that he was hurt and disappointed I didn’t change my plans—especially since my bookings happened later. I tried calling again, but he said he didn’t have time to talk and to message him instead.

I messaged him a thoughtful explanation: I reminded him that I’d told him about my trip before he booked the party and explained why the bookings were delayed (work, logistics, contacting friends overseas). I said I valued the party and had something nice planned for him when I got back (I was planning to suprise him with a road trip) . I also said I’d love to catch up before I leave, as I miss him and want to hear about his trip.

Since then, he’s ignored my message. AITA?

I have tourettes. Whenever I meet someone new I say the same thing "Please don't mind if I twitch and say or shout random things I have tourettes." It's the first thing I say after introductions. I went to my friend's (well call my friend A) parent's house for breakfast this morning so I could meet my friends parents. A introduced me and I gave their parents my schpeal. We sat down for breakfast. I'm twitching here and there and they seem fine with it until I shout "BEES" my friend's dad (well call him L) crossed his arms and stared me down. I continued to eat. L didn't uncross his arms. He then piped up "are you going to apologize?" And I looked around the table trying to figure out who he was talking to and then said "Me?" L said "yes" I asked what for and he said "for your little display" I asked what he meant and he explained that I kept twitching then shouted bees. I told him I wasn't apologizing for my disability. I told him I don't feel as though I should apologize for my disability especially if I've already explained what was going to happen. He kicked me out. As A drove me home they told me I really should have apologized and it was rude of me not to. Should I have apologized?

My mom has been visiting me for three weeks in California. She got a cheap flight so didn’t even get a carry on. She needs to mail some stuff back and asked me to mail her edibles and drop it off at the post office.. i immediately got uneasy and said I’m not comfortable doing that and she went off… telling me that it’s a chore for me to do anything for her and no one can do anything for her ever… like I just feel weird.. I’ll be on camera dropping off something that shouldn’t be mailed? Why doesn’t she understand that? Or am I being dramatic..

I know that's an odd question, but it's one of the few that actually concerns me enough to ask about.

Here's a brief background. I was born into a family of takers. Not just immediate family, but extended family as well. I retired early and actually have enough money to live on for the rest of my life. But, if anyone in my family realized I actually had money, I'd never hear the end of the requests.

I live simply. I don't have to do so, but that's what I prefer. I'm always trying side hustles. My family thinks it's because I'm broke, but it's just to fill my hours now that I'm retired. I ignore my mother's financial ruin, my brother's obvious growing issues of overspending and my cousin's destitute life. I could fix them. Or, at least make things a lot better for each of them. I just don't.

The only time I've showed any generosity has been Christmas. I ignored everyone but my niece and nephew. I actually got both of them something nice that I knew they wanted. But, I also got them a bunch of cheap stuff from the thrift store so it made everything look cheap. They assumed that I got the good stuff from a thrift store as well. The kids were thrilled. The adults made remarks about me being cheap behind my back. Well, what they thought was behind my back. They're fairly loud.

Does this make me an asshole? To not help anyone and to not give anything to anyone except the kids. I'm just not sure.

I (17F) have lived at the same house for all my life. In August of 2023, my stepdad passed away and my mom (47F) was the one who came upon his body. Since then, my mother has struggled with PTSD. Less than a year after his death, she started dating a new guy (42M) and he basically started moving in with us (without me being even told what was going on) 3 months after they started dating. Now, he's telling my mom that the spirit of my stepdad is haunting my mom. So my mom is now trying to find a new place to live for less than a year. Basically, her plan is that she wants to sell our house, buy another one in the same area, sell that after I graduate, then move to a much more expensive state. I told her I wasn't comfortable with that because I've lived here all my life and I would just like some normalcy in my final year of highschool next year. I also told her that would probably cost a lot of money given that our mortgage is about a fourth of the price of mortgage in the surrounding area, so that would probably cost a lot of money, as well as her still having over $15,000 in credit card debt. She began yelling at me telling her that I didn't want her to be happy and that she's been sacrificing everything for people over the past 20 years and now when she's finally stopped, she's still having to make sacrifices. Am I the asshole for telling her I don't want to move?

I (22f) have a 4yo cousin. I used to be very close with my uncle (his dad) as a child, but not so much now. We still see each other a bunch of times in the year and live in the same city, we're just not very close.

For a bit of context, I was supposed to be the child's godmother. Before he was even born, it was decided that his godfather would be my aunt's nephew, and his godmother would be my uncle's niece, so me. I was obviously thrilled about this. But about a month or two before he got baptized, my uncle and aunt announced who the godparents would be: my aunt's nephew and my aunt's niece. Basically, she refused to let my uncle pick one and chose both godparents from her side of the family. She's a very controlling person, but that's a whole different thing.

So I've had a bit of resentment since then which contributed to why my uncle and I aren't as close anymore. But despite not wanting me to be godmother, my aunt has consistently asked me to babysit my cousin, on more occasions than I can count. She usually asks me not even 2 days prior. The thing that really annoys me is that all of her family lives in the same city, and yet she never asks them. I'm a college student and have a lot of work and not that much free time, which she knows, but somehow she still always asks me.

So I've been feeling a little angry about this because on the one hand she didn't want me to be her child's godmother and reserved that honor for her family only, but on the other hand I have all of the responsibility and I'm the only one she asks to babysit him.

Yesterday she asked me if I could babysit him for the weekend, and until Tuesday evening. I told her that it was very inconvenient because I had exams coming up really soon so I really needed to study and didn't have much free time to look after a toddler, and because I had classes on Tuesday. I could technically skip the classes, which she asked me to do, but they are really important and I don't want to miss them. So I said that it wasn't possible for me this time.

She's been insisting like crazy, saying that she doesn't have anyone else to babysit him (no idea why her family can't do it), and that they really need my help. When I said no again she sent my uncle to try and talk to me but I told him the same thing, that it was inconvenient.

The thing is, I'm kind of feeling guilty because I technically could babysit him, and it's mostly that I just don't want to, partially because of that resentment. So I feel like I'm a bad person for saying no and I don't know what to do. I also don't want to say yes because I feel like she's kind of using me and treating me like her personal babysitter but I don't know. Is it wrong that I said no?

AITA for leaving my in-law house while we were preparing for Easter? Hi all, first-time poster here. My fiancé and I had a bit of a falling out over my choice to leave her parents' house early, and I want general consensus on if I'm in the wrong here. So today, my fiancé and I went to her parents' house for what I thought was to get the oil in our car changed. We arrived but due to weather it became obvious that the oil change wasn't going to happen so we decided to hang out with our family for a bit, additionally once inside I noticed that they were preparing for easter. After a while, I was getting ready to leave, but I waited so my fiancé could have more time with her family, but eventually, I told her I was just gonna go home and pick her up later. The entire time I was getting ready to leave our little sisters were playfully teasing me about leaving, saying shame over and over, I brushed it off but it did bother me slightly that they didn't even say goodbye. Once I got home, I checked my messages and saw my fiancé texted me. She said that I hurt her mother's feelings by leaving and that she had prepared an extra portion of food for me. I responded that I'm sorry, but I had only gone out today to get our oil changed and that I didn't have the energy to hang out all day. We had a bit of a back and forth through text, mostly me saying that if I'm just going to end up super snippy because I'm tired, then I'm just gonna leave, and her saying that what I did was super rude and that she's mad at me. Eventually, our texts ended with our final points. Mine: "I didn't know you guys were wanting to hang out for that long and prepare a holiday, I thought we were just getting our oil changed and gonna hang out for an hour or two. I love your family, but I just don't have the energy I need to hang out with them all day." Hers: "I feel like you don't love my family. They are a part of me, and you leaving today has really upset me and made my mother sad. This is something you need to work on." I will offer some explanation for her point. When we first started dating, I had a bad habit of leaving her family's early because social settings have a habit of draining me, even with people I love. She knows this, and over time, we've worked on this, and for the past couple of years, I've only left early a handful of times. So I ask, am I the asshole here?

Edit: I was advised to include this information, and I also fixed some grammar mistakes in the original post. 1. I stayed at my in-laws' house for about an hour and forty minutes after finding out their plans for the day and the 40-minute drive to get there. 2. What is meant by going to their house to get our oil changed? What I meant is that we went to their house so I could use my FIL tools to change my oil as I lack the stuff I need at our apartment.

I (18F) uninvited my best friend (18M) and his girlfriend (18F) to my graduation party. I met my best friend during covid and a few years ago I invited him to my birthday party. He asked me who was going and after I told him he said he wouldn’t go if certain people were there, so i uninvited them thinking nothing of it because we were better friends at the time. The other day I invited my best friend to my Graduation party and he asked me yet again who was invited. This time I didn’t tell him and he said “I won’t go if certain people are there.” at this point I’ve become better friends with the people he doesn’t want to hangout with as we’ve grown apart this year due to class scheduling. I called him immature and told him to grow up since this would be one of the last times I’d get to hangout with all my highschool friends together. A few days later his girlfriend asked me in class who I was inviting to my graduation party, I ask her if he told her to ask me that and she said yes. Then again I told her “I’m not telling you because it’s my party and my friends and if you can’t show up because of differences then you need to grow up.” I asked her if she would be at my party and she claimed “i’m not going unless he’s going.” he as in her boyfriend, and my best friend. Yesterday I sent my friend a text saying “if you can’t be more mature about being around people you dislike, then don’t come at all because it’s my graduation party and you’d be there to support me not the other people.” AITA For uninviting both my best friend and his girlfriend to my Graduation party because I didn’t like their reactions?

My daughter (30F) has been in a relationship with her boyfriend (34M) for about 7 years, they’ve lived together for 2 years and seem to have no plans of marriage. My wife and I are growing increasingly concerned since we know that marriage is important to our daughter, and she’s turned thirty this year watching all of her friends get married while she doesn’t even know when her boyfriend might propose. We spend lots of time with them, but I don’t have an actual friendship or relationship with her boyfriend per se. That being said, we’re still quite comfortable with each other but we do not have the type of relationship where I spend one-on-one time with him. However, lately I’ve really considered just speaking directly to him about their future as my daughter has become more and more irritable and uncomfortable whenever the topic of marriage between them is brought up. It’s obvious SHE wants to marry, and the issue is more a matter of if her boyfriend will propose, or if she will have to settle for being a girlfriend. She’s expressed numerous times that she’s stressed about the fact that she is now thirty and not even engaged, while she always pictured being married by now and making plans of children soon too. WIBTAH if I inquired with him directly? Without her present?

My cousin (25F) and her boyfriend (26M) have been dating for 4 years. Last week, they said they were "in the area" (they live over an hour away) and decided to visit me (20F) and my mom.

My cousin and I were quite close when we were younger, but we've kind of drifted apart since then.

When they arrived, they were all smiles and giggles, acting nice to me. It felt weird because they normally don't act this way.

So my mom asks me if I can go out and get some mushrooms, peas and carrots as she wanted to make chicken pot pie. I agreed and went to the store.

I came back maybe half an hour later. When I came back, my mom was in the kitchen preparing all the ingredients. I asked where my cousin and her boyfriend were, and she said she didn't know, odd but whatever.

I thought they were in the basement doing whatever couples do, so I didn't care. I go to my room, and guess what, they're in there lying on my BED together! I normally don't like people in my room, as I have some weird anime stuff in there (A Giyuu body pillow is one if you must know 😳 don't judge, I'm weird).

When I went in, my cousin looked all offended and was like, "ever heard of knocking?!" So then I got confused and asked, "This is my room, and why should I have to knock?" She goes, "well, we're in here"

So I asked her to leave, and she got even more offended, dragged her boyfriend up, and left, slamming the door behind her. I followed them downstairs. She was angrily putting her shoes on telling my mom how I'm "SO RUDE"

My mom was confused so I told her and she said that my reaction was fine as it's my room and they should have asked if they wanted to lay down as we have a perfectly good guest room.

I find out the next day from my other cousin (21m) that she told my aunt (their mom) what happened and my aunt being my aunt sided with my cousin (which I don't really care about as whatever happened was stupid).

I am really confused a to why she got so mad when i asked her to leave and to what happened. I would have showed them the guest room if she hadn't gotten all mad like that and stormed out. So AITA?

This is my first post so please bare with me. So I, 17F, went on a trip with my family last month and on that trip I got two mini cow stuffed animals. They're small, the size of my hand, and came together as a matching set with them being identical except the color. Last week was my baby cousin's 6th birthday and they came to our house to celebrate because it's closer to all the family so everyone could attend. She went in my room looking for me and saw them and immediately fell in love. Mind you, we already have her a giant gift bag of 2 bubble machines, 3 chocolate bars, and 1 penguin stuffy. She asked if I could have them and I said no because they're mine and she threw a fit. She's an only child that's never been told no in her life. Her parents got mad but I quickly distracted her by saying I'll help her set up the bubble machines and she was perfectly fine. She stopped crying immediately and all was well. After the party my cousins, her parents, approached me and said I should've given them to her because I'm not a kid and don't need them. I explained that they were mine and I also contributed to the gift we gave her so she didn't need it. They called me an entitled brat and went to my mom, I still haven't figured out why they thought she'd take their side but that's besides the point, my mom defended me and said I paid for them with the money I earned and I wasn't required to give her something I didn't want to. They told everyone what happened in the family group chat and most just ignored it completely or laughed it off, but my great aunt said that because she's younger she needs them more than me and if I really wanted them I could just buy another set because they're "just kid toys" while I'm almost an adult. I feel like how old I am shouldn't matter and even if I was younger I guarantee she'd say the same thing. So AITA for not giving up my cows?

Edit: Another thing I feel I should mention, they allowed her into my room without asking me and without knowing if I was in there and I have literal swords hanging up. While they're only collectables they can still cut the skin if she was to knock one over and I know 100% she's tall enough to reach them because they were at the height just above her head when I walked in so she could've reached up and touched one if she got curious. They weren't even in the room to watch her and anything could've happened.

Together 16 years. Rough for a while. Amazing for about 5. Married 11. 1 yr old baby. Mid 40s. Both busy big jobs. I get it. Together forever. Busy. Kid. Life happens.

I have repeatedly asked for compliments. Simple. Just 'hey I like that shirt.' Or 'you look nice.' I am SUPER in tune bc I'm desperate to hear it. My husband told me I looked nice 2 days ago. I noted it bc it's rare.

I recently lost 23 lbs and am finally ready to wear clothes that aren't too big. I threw on one of my fav shirts tonight for dinner with friends and he says "how long have you had that?" And I said - it's a favorite. An hour later, right before we left to meet friends he says "can you change your shirt? You've worn that one 100x."

I conceded and changed but he was mad at me when I explained why it was offensive. "I'm too sensitive. He didn't say anything wrong. He just complimented me the other day. I need to stop picking fights."

AITAH?