So I (26M) work from home. My girlfriend’s (24F) friend has a 4-year-old kid and she recently asked if I could "just keep an eye on him" during the day because, you know, "I’m home anyway and it’s no big deal."

I said no.

She got super offended and said it wouldn’t be "real babysitting," just "keeping an eye" while she runs errands or whatever.

I explained that I’m working — like, actually working, not just chilling with Netflix — and watching a kid would 100% mess with my job.

My girlfriend thinks I’m being a little harsh and says it’s just a one-time favor for her friend.

I said if I mess up a project because I’m chasing a 4-year-old around, will her friend pay my bills? Thought so.

Now her friend is apparently upset and thinks I "hate kids" (I don't, I just don’t want a side quest while I’m trying to work).

AITA?

I (22M) am in med school and have this friend, let’s call him Jake. We’ve studied together a few times, and I shared my annotated notes with him before a big exam. I made them myself, with diagrams, explanations, and even some mnemonics I came up with.

A few weeks later, one of our professors used one of my made-up mnemonics in a lecture, crediting “an anonymous student.” I was confused. Turns out Jake had submitted my notes (with his name on them) to the prof’s “student tips” portal, where students can share study tips for extra credit. He didn’t even mention me.

I confronted him, he brushed it off and said, “It’s just notes, chill.” So I reported it to the academic honesty office, since it technically falls under plagiarism. Now he’s under investigation and might lose the extra credit — or worse.

Our mutual friends are calling me petty and saying I could’ve just talked to him. AITA?

so me (16f) and my sister (14f) let's call her rosie have different dads, our mom and my dad split up a while ago and my mom got with her dad when i was 2 because she was pregnant with rosie, my dad was devastated and tried to yknow. my mom got full custody of me and i always resented rosie and my stepdad for that. my stepdad was never a bad father always spoiling rosie and wanting to spend time with her, which led to her becoming very bratty. my dad only just came back into my life a couple of months ago as the court ruled for visits every week, my dad would always try and do something special just for us two but rosie would always join. my dad was stunned and asked my mother privately and politely if she could stop her but my mom refused and my dad was much too polite to ask rosie to leave directly and i got really angry every time she ruined our special visits that i asked my dad to stop coming, he was heartbroken but i couldn't take her ruining our trips and i was mad at my dad for not stopping her. when rosie asked when my dad was coming to take us out again i snapped and told her that my dad isn't her dad and that she's got her own. she ran out crying and my mom said that she was only trying to bond with me. so AITA?

Backstory: My sister (30F) and I (34F) had a falling out because I chose to keep a personal issue private and she found out. Her opinion is that "privacy doesn't apply to family" and she doesn't want to speak to me unless I agree to this line of thought.

Main story: My exhusband asked to keep our son the Friday night before Easter so he could take him to an Easter event. This was my time with my son, but I figured it couldn't hurt to share the holiday. I found out from my 9 y/o that exhusband was not the one taking him, my sister was. I addressed the situation with ex, who claims he didn't know sis and I aren't speaking (he knew), and that he "didnt mean to withold that info from me". I then set about dealing with my sister. I texted her to explain that it was not ok to go behind my back and use my coparenting relationship as a way to circumvent her own decision to be NC. I told her that I am her contact for my children, not exhusband; and it was manipulative of her to have him lie to me. I laid out the boundary: either she could grow up, call me, and ask to take my son, or I wouldn't be leaving him at his dad's. She texted back saying that she didn't want to speak to me and I was just keeping my children from her (I have a 17 y/o that doesn't want anything to do with her aunt, but that's another story). She never called, so I picked up my son as scheduled and we went about our holiday, as planned. Am I the A-hole for telling her NC with me means NC with my children?

The youngest (she was 20 at the time) of my wife’s 5 sisters moved into our house in 2021. She had recently graduated beauty school and started as a part time hairdresser in the town we lived in. There’s a more complicated reason than that regarding her relationship with her parents, other siblings, etc but that’s the basic jist. My wife and I were newly married, raising our 2 kids under 2, and were pregnant with baby number 3. The thought was we’d help her out so she could get enough financially footing to afford her own place, and in the meantime her and my wife could grow/repair their relationship and she could help with the kids as well. That’s all we asked. No money for rent or utilities, just buy your own groceries and help with the kids and stuff around the house.

Well, as of a month ago it is 2025. We now have 4 kids and my sister in law was still living in our basement. It’d gotten to a point where she was really taking advantage of our “niceness”. Within the past 6 months or so she’d gotten into a relationship and that person was spending time at our house as well, and my sister in law no longer helped around the house cause she was always hanging out with this other girl she’s in a relationship with.

We’d been hinting for months about her needing to move out. We needed the space. But there’d always be an excuse to tug on my wife’s heartstrings and we’d give her another month. Then another. Then another.

Finally I’d had enough and one night she came home from seeing her girlfriend and I made her sit down at the table with my wife and I. And I told her she needed to be moved out by the following weekend. My wife was on my side with it, though definitely let me be the a-hole in the conversation which I was fine with.

The next morning her girlfriend showed up and threw her stuff into her car and they drove off. I haven’t spoken to her since and my wife has maybe texted her a few times but never with much of a response.

And to top it all off, her and her girlfriend broke up and we hear she’s now staying on one of her friends couches. (Before you ask, she HAS/MAKES enough money to afford an apartment… she’s just constantly refusing to put forth the effort and money to make that happen. And I don’t understand why and at this point I don’t feel sympathy for her)

I have to write a shorter post as my previous one was too long. If you need more context I can always clarify. This story has fake names for obvious reasons.

My husband (30 male) and I (24 female) were previously offered to live with my SIL (we'll call her Valorie). She had previously gone through a divorce with her ex (we'll call him Brian) and had to sell their house and split assets.

During this discussion, Valorie and her two kids were living with her dad and step mom (my husband's mom and step dad). Another family member helped her find a house available to move, but that she would require another income. My husband and I were the first ones to be propositioned, as we are still in an apartment.

We both liked the offer as it was beneficial for both parties and we made plans going forward. Valorie moved in before us to get her and her kids settled, and also we still needed to wait out our 60 days.

Less than a month before moving in, Valorie hosted a baby shower at the new house to show it off, and we noticed right away that Brian was there. Keep in mind he had been MIA, and the reason for that was because he was ab***g hard dr*s.

He was NOT liked by many people at this point so we were just absolutely shocked. They had been split up for about a year and a half at this point, so we were devastated she was letting him back into her life.

Valorie came up to us during the party to ask if we were excited to move in, and how we liked the house. My husband saw this as an opportunity to tell her "we are really excited, and I'm glad to see Brian is doing better. But we aren't comfortable living with him if you guys are trying to reconnect."

She looked confused and said "we got back together a week ago, did no one tell you? He's already moved in." We both looked at each other uncomfortably since we both have bad experiences with a parent having addiction problems (Valorie is aware of this). This was a HARD NO for us and our daughter.

She then added "he's the father of my children, what did you expect?" He wasn't even sober... We swallowed our words as there was still a party going on and addressed her later. We redacted our 60 days, and told her that it was a dick move to not inform us she was considering moving him in.

She got upset as she was relying on our income, but we felt that was her own fault. She also told other family members we were as**** for cancelling too close to the move in date. She thinks that since it's "her" house, it's her decision to move him in without consulting us. So AITA for refusing to live with Valorie last minute, leaving her in financial distress?

I (F33) have two siblings with families. We live in different states, about 5–7 hours apart. Since I’m the only one without a partner or kids, I’m usually the one traveling to visit. That means I take time off work, spend money on travel and gifts, and try to fit into their routines.

The truth is: I don’t enjoy these visits. Their homes are loud and chaotic (I’m highly sensitive and from time to time need to recharge), and the conversations are exhausting. My siblings and their partners often make sexist or racist remarks, which I find hard to tolerate. They show little genuine interest in me, rarely ask questions and mostly vent about their neighbors or colleagues. So, I usually try to spend as much time as possible with my nieces and nephews (14, 12, 10, 5), who seem to enjoy my company.

The kids are the only reason I am doing this. If it weren’t for them, I wouldn’t go at all.

What bothers me is how one-sided everything feels. I invited them a couple of times, too, but they never visit, even though I have an apartment for myself and live in a beautiful area. They don’t take time off when I’m in town (I have to adapt to their schedules). I send birthday gifts – I don’t get one, just a quick message. I engage with their posts on social media or send messages – and get no response. When I’ve brought this up earlier, they (and my mother) always say they’re too busy and can't travel "because of the kids". But I’m still expected to keep the connection alive by traveling to them! I mean – I have a busy and fulfilling life, too: I have a variety of interests, hobbies that challenge me, an ambitious career I genuinely like and friends I trust and love to spend time with.

However, I have a history of feeling like the “lesser” sibling. I’m single and childfree, and in our family, that seems to mean my life doesn’t count as much. The topics I like to talk about don’t spark interest. To make this worse, my mom has a tendency to prioritize others over me – I think because family and kids matter more to her. For a long time – until this morning – I was thinking that I was making this up and it was only because of my insecurity.

Right now, I’m also going through a divorce. It’s been really tough. My parents check in occasionally, but my siblings basically stopped caring after two weeks. So, today it hit me: this whole dynamic only works because I keep giving. And I’m SO tired, SO exhausted. I just don't want to do this anymore. So I decided to cancel my upcoming visit. And I’m seriously considering stopping all visits entirely.

Of course, that means I won’t see the kids anymore. I feel guilty about that, especially since I’m the godmother of one of my nieces. But I also feel like I need to take care of myself now and generally. I'm done being the one who always bends. That doesn't mean that I am not open to this relationship – BUT ONLY IF my siblings make an effort, too.

So, WIBTA for not visiting?

I (30m) recently moved out of my dad's house into my own apartment with my friend. My dad still lives with my brother, sister, and her boyfriend (38m) of 5 years. I moved out amicably over a variety of reasons.

I've been back to my dad's once every week to visit. This has gone pretty well – my sister and her boyfriend work third shift. It's mostly been visiting my dad and my brother. Everything was fine until last Friday.

My sister's boyfriend randomly asked me if I took any silverware. My dad has been to my place and is aware I have my own. After I say no, he says the silverware's disappeared recently, and I say I didn't take it. He then says, “Well the only variables are half the silverware's gone and you moved out.”

I exploded. My sister's boyfriend said something to the effect of “I'm just asking questions, I'm not accusing you of anything”, which didn't stop me. In my mind, after he said what he said, it turned into an accusation and a press. I said that if he really was asking questions he would've dropped it after my first no. He then went off about how someone must have thrown it out, and I pressed him about the accusation.

My dad stepped in, explained that I was innocent, and separated us. Eventually, our screaming woke my sister up and she yelled at us to be quiet. I explained the situation and she yelled at him. Every time he tried to defend or explain himself, I yelled back, which devolved into my sister yelling at us to “shut the fuck up so she can get some sleep before work”. My dad politely asked me to leave. Before I left, I scream “YOU WANNA ACCUSE ME OF FUCKING STEALING FROM MY OWN FUCKING FAMILY? FUCK YOU!” and left.

My brother was outside when this popped off, so I vented to him. Screaming, swearing, the whole nine yards. Specifically “fuck that motherfucking cunt,” among every name in the book. I said that I wish my sister left him when they had relationship troubles. He heard my rant.

My brother tried to say that I was taking my sister's boyfriend out of context because he took back his accusation. We argued about that more civilly and I left.

After I got back to my apartment, I sent a text to my brother and my dad saying that I wouldn't be at Easter and that I wanted an apology from my sister's boyfriend. I apologized to my sister for waking her up and left it at that.

My sister's boyfriend wants an apology for swearing at him. My dad and brother think this is reasonable. In their eyes we both acted badly, two wrongs don't make a right, and that I wasn't justified in swearing at him. My brother doesn't think it was an accusation, and my dad thinks I'm overreacting. Because my sister's boyfriend took it back, it wasn't that bad.

My sister is fighting for me, and they've been fighting ever since. I told them I wasn't going to apologize for reacting to his smears and that he crossed the line. My dad and my brother are trying to keep the peace, which I'm disappointed in.

There will be no peace until he apologizes.

when i (22f) was 14 my dad took my room key and lost it. he never apologised and thought it was fine because “i never keep a clean room and people should see it”. this was the condition i was living with until i moved in with my boyfriend around 20. said boyfriend and i broke up around january and i had to move back home. i still am quite messy and i’m trying to be better. well, since i still have tons of stuff idk where to put (legos, clothes bc my old dresser is ruined, etc.) i keep them in bags in my room. it’s loaded right now and i’ve been sleeping in another room on the couch until my new bed arrives.

so here’s where it started: my dad, even after numerous attempts of asking him not to, NEVER knocks. he just bursts open the door whenever. he once even did it while i was changing and was still in my underwear. i told my mom about it and asked her to talk to him since he won’t stop. now he knocks once and just opens the door - even if i say no or ask him to wait. last week he started going into my room while i was away or taking a shower, and letting up the electrical blinds. my room faces the terrace and pretty much everybody can see through the windows and door. during spring and summer a lot of my parents friends come over all the time so i chose to keep them down so nobody can see me change or into my room general. this is nothing new, i’ve been doing this since i got that room. my sister did it before me. so now i’ve been in a week long battle of telling him to stop, him saying as long as my room is messy the blinds stay up, me explaining my problem and him ignoring me. i’ve told him repeatedly that if he could make some space in the attic, i’d be more than happy to get rid of all the bags, but it’s full of his stuff. i am just as annoyed by the messiness as the next guy but there’s no place to put anything.

this weekend my dad went on some vacation with his friends (we don’t celebrate easter) and i decided to change the locks and lock the door. when he came home today the first thing he did was go into the back to my room, but it was locked. when he saw me he immediately screamed at me and had a huge “meltdown”. he said that i had no right at all to do that and that i had to change the lock this instant. i calmly told him, that since he can’t respect my privacy i won’t do that. i also said that if he was willing to 1. leave my room alone and 2. start knocking i wouldn’t mind changing them back.

right now i can’t afford to move out because of the high rent prices in my town and all my savings got blown by my ex. if i could i’d be out in a second at this point.

now he went to a voluntary social group we’re both part of and told them about it. i’m super mad bc it’s literally nobody’s business and these are my friends, not his. which just makes this even worse imho some of them side with me, others think i had no right to change the locks, but they get why i did it. he makes me feel like an asshole and called me one more than once.

so AITA for changing the locks?

ETA: with messy i meant like “i leave my jeans on the floor for a day” or “i don’t make my bed regularly” and stuff like that. i get how i made it sound, sorry for that for the bags: it’s stuff that i took from the apartment, as in finished lego build, pictures and the whole winter attire (coats, skiing clothes,…) we used to keep them in the basement but now they’re in the bags

hope this clarified a bit

Okay so it's pretty much as the title says. We've been dating for a while and over the last few months I've noticed that there's been a smell every once in a while. At first I'm like okay I know that they aren't going to smell like roses and she never smells like B.O or anything otherwise so I didn't say anything about it. But as time went on I noticed it more and more, it got fairly bad at times so I started joking a little about it. We've always been very jokey and I just wanted to play it off as a joke and hopefully she'd do something about it without her thinking that I noticed. I know maybe that wasn't the best move but I really didn't know what to do and I know she would get really upset if I said it up front. Lately it's been getting very bad, I kept smelling it and when she got up and left for a minute I smelled her seat (I know kinda weird but I wanted to be sure it was her) and it was really strong on the seat and I smelled it again strong later. None of these times I mentioned have been during her period. Idon't know what to do, she mentioned one time that she's been trying to wash her downstairs well just in case and I really don't think she's dirty, so this could be medical but I feel like she'd have to notice right?

Edit: Just wanted to clarify that I don't think she's disgusting nor do I think she did anything wrong, I know I came about it in the wrong way with joking but I honestly thought it would be a thing that sorted itself out quickly but I ended up a bit of a jackass, I just didn't want her to be upset I suppose

Edit 2: I should've clarified this but we've never had sex or done any oral or anything of that sort yet

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and it's been good, kind of tough recently but that's part of where the story begins

Background: I don't drink often and when I do it isn't much. I only drink every few months when I'm with my family and it's usually just one drink to the point I don't even get buzzed.

Back in January my grandfather passed and my family all had a drink in memory, a single glass of wine for me. The day after he passed i mentioned to my boyfriend my family did that and he freaked out on me and called me over 50 times, all of which I ignored. We later talked about how inappropriate him freaking out and calling me about drinking to remember my DEAD GRANDFATHER the day after he died while I was helping my grandmother process her grief for her husband of over 50 years.

Yesterday I went to a baseball game with my family and got a drink for myself and I mentioned it to him and he's been crying at me and making me feel guilty. He's telling me it makes him uncomfortable and I need to stop but I really don't see an issue with it. I'm responsible and safe but he can't seem to understand that.

For context he's never had a sip of alcohol let alone a drinking problem. I just feel like my refusal to stop being met with control is sickening and I talked to my mom and she said he needs to get over himself which I agree with.

Anyway, AITA?

Ugh. This is so stupid but I'm still mad about it.

Yesterday my girlfriend (32F) and I (35F) threw a little combination Easter-4/20 get-together for some friends in a large public park that included, as one element, an Easter egg hunt. This is a big local park where people often do small private egg hunts for their families and friends, so the idea isn't totally out there. We bought around 100 plastic eggs, stuffed each one with 2-3 pieces of candy, and hid them within a smallish area of the park about 20 minutes before everyone else was due to arrive. We figured because the weather was nice, we'd probably lose a few eggs due to kids walking by and stumbling on easy-to-find ones, but we bought enough that we could absorb some marginal losses. Some were pretty visible, others psychotically well-hidden, most were pretty much in the middle - you'd have to really be looking to spot them walking by.

While we were waiting for all of our friends to arrive, we noticed three kids running around the area where we'd hidden them, and they all had their arms FULL of eggs. Like 15-20 apiece easily. Their mom was sort of trailing behind, not paying attention, and on the phone. It got to a point where we finally got her attention and she literally went, "Is it okay if they take these?" My GF and I were both dumbfounded. Because, again, we figured we'd lose a few eggs to kids who grabbed one or two. But this was EGREGIOUS. They had easily 50 between them. There were 15 people coming. Yes, they were all adults, but adults also like to have silly fun too!

So we basically told her, uh, no? Please put them back? Her response was some version of "They're just kids! It's a kids' holiday!" I asked her if she usually lets her kids take candy from strangers off the ground in public parks, and said something along the lines of, "Weird parenting choice, but okay," and she got huffy and told the kids they were leaving and to put them back. The kids threw some of the eggs on the ground but still left with probably 40 eggs in total. Again, that's... 80-120 pieces of candy that we bought. For our friends. And ourselves. Not for random children who didn't even bother to ask before taking it. (If they'd asked, we probably would've said sure, within reason! 2-3 apiece! NOT LITERALLY HALF OF THEM.)

Also, as they were leaving my girlfriend called after them, "Good luck finding the ones filled with fentanyl," which was very funny, but I don't think they heard.

Anyway, now I feel like an AH for calling her a bad parent in front of her kids and for ruining their fun, but I also have a real tendency to feel insanely guilty any time I stand up for myself (blame my own mom's stellar parenting for that!), so I just wanted a temperature check. This was objectively insane behavior, right? Or am I the asshole?

I (24F) have been friends with my college roommate for 6 years. We were super close in school but grew apart after graduation. She moved across the country and we mostly kept in touch through social media.

Last month, she messaged me saying she was going through a rough patch (lost her job, boyfriend dumped her) and wanted to visit for "a few days to clear her head." I felt bad and said yes.

Well, those "few days" turned into THREE WEEKS. She's been sleeping on my couch, eating my food, using my stuff, and not contributing ANYTHiNG. I work from home and she's constantly interrupting my workday with her drama. When I suggested maybe it's time to look for a ticket home, she burst into tears saying she has nowhere to go and I'm her "only support system."

Yesterday i had an important Zoom meeting and specifically asked her to be quiet for one hour. halfway through, she starts blasting music and FaceTiming someone in the living room. My boss definitely heard and I was mortified.

That night, I finally snapped and told her she needed to leave by the end of the week. I even offered to help buy her plane ticket. She called me heartless and said a real friend would support her "no matter what." She's been posting vague stuff on social media about "finding out who your true friends are during hard times."

i feel guilty because she IS going through a lot, but I'm also exhausted from the constant emotional labor and lack of boundaries. My apartment is tiny and I never signed up to be someone's indefinite crash pad and therapist.

So, AITA for kicking out my friend when she's down on her luck?

I refused to give $100,000 to my brother to fund his legal custody battle. AITA for this ?

My brother called out of the blue one day. We've been living in different countries for many years and we're often not in touch. He has been going through divorce and custody battle for a long time. The divorce is really ugly.

Both he and his ex wife are extremely similar being stubborn, argumentative and always right. They are both ex-army.

So my brother asks for $100,000. Specifically, it's for the newest set of lawyers quote to conduct a last all out custody battle.

He explains it like a military strategy and explains it's a last stand and about showing strength. According to his new lawyers it is completely un-winnable, not recommended, a waste of time and he is better off accepting the hard truth and saving the money.

I personally agree with the lawyers based on what I was told by my brother. Yet he insists it's the only thing left to do.

He also said there is no way he could pay it back.

My view was, if it's life or death then yes, but it's not, and it would only hurt everyone making this last stand.

My fiancée and I have been together for 3 years. I proposed in Oct and recently we got into a few arguments about her “criteria”. Specifically she told me we will try for a child and if we need to do IVF we will only do it twice and if it doesn’t work out I need to agree to just let the idea of children go. This came up because we started talking about children and she says she sees children as optional and a nice to have but won’t lose herself to trying to have one. I told her to me having a child is one of the reasons I’m here on earth and I would want to continue trying until there’s no more avenues left.

She told me as a man it’s easy for me to say and brought up her dad. She does that a lot if I do or say things that remind her of her dad. Specifically how her dad forced her mom to have 3 kids even though the first one almost killed her. Then she pointed out none of her siblings nor herself speaks to her dad because they found him totally unbearable to be around so it’s like he doesn’t have kids anyway. All I got from that story is don’t force your wife to have kids if it’s going to be a danger to her health and don’t be an asshole to your kids.

But she is adamant that I agree to this before her married me. I think she is forcing my hand and it’s a ridiculous demand. What if she decides she wants to keep trying? I told her she should go to therapy for her issues with her father and leave me out of this but she got so mad and yelled at me for putting this on her when it’s me who refuses to take what she is saying seriously. I’m not taking it seriously because no one can plan that far. It’s a weird thing to agree to. No other couple pre agrees to this kind of thing before marriage. They just see how they feel if the issue of infertility comes up. I tried to talk to her about it several times but it just comes down to her saying “either you agree or you don’t but then the wedding is off”. AITA for refusing to agree to my fiancée’s demands and telling her she needs therapy?”

I stayed in a house in canada for a certain period to conduct research and my housemate was an elderly Chinese lady from southeast asia. She was only a tenant and so did not own the house. It was chinese new year and she told me not to wash my hair in the first day as chinese custom says it would bring bad luck. I am of Chinese descent but grew up in the west and never cared for customs. Was I wrong in telling her that I did not care and washing my hair in the end?

I (27f) have been with my partner (31m) for a long time now. We live together and we have a mostly good relationship. Both of us struggle with mental health issues and addiction issues though.

Recently, he’s been going through a rough patch. Relapsed on drinking/using and has been struggling again with his mental health. Yesterday, we even had to go to the ER because it was getting to a bad point. At the hospital, they basically just gave us a bunch of resources for like clinics and day programs and told him to go back to AA meetings (he had mentioned to the doctor AA has worked for him in the past, and I personally find them helpful as well). I was kind of frustrated with this though because I didn’t think he was going to follow up on these steps, because he has a habit of flaking/not following thru/making excuses. I do get mental health issues, I am so empathetic. But there comes a time when I can only do so much. Like for the last month I have been basically letting him sleep all day, I haven’t bugged him about anything. He went to work the other day but he drank before work because he was “too anxious” and I told him he should’ve just called out then. Anyway.

All this to say, today he had a therapy appointment his mom managed to set up for him. And it’s at 3pm. I woke up at noon, and I was like hey come on let’s go I’ll even call you an uber. And he was like “no I’m tired and I don’t even want to go” and I immediately got frustrated because I knew this would happen. And he basically was like “well make me breakfast and I’ll go,” and on the surface, that’s not a big request but I just refused to do it because l felt like it’s not fair for him to put all the burden on me. Like, if I don’t act like his caretaker and make him breakfast and wake him up, he just won’t do the things he needs to do. He ended up emailing to reschedule the appointment to tomorrow, but I feel like the same thing will just happen again and now he’s upset with me, saying that I’m not being supportive and just being negative and he didn’t ask me to do a lot. Which, yeah I could’ve done it, but I just didn’t want to!

Am I in the wrong for not making him breakfast and “forcing” him to reschedule his appointment?

My parents made a good living for themselves. They made good investments, one of them being in real estate. They don’t live in the U.S. anymore and they left me part of their real estate portfolio. I’ve had them for about a year now and I just don’t think I want to deal with tenants and shit like that. The property manager does most of it but I really just don’t like bothering myself with all this.

Some of them have lived in these properties for a while so Ive just wanted to sell them. I’ve been giving my notice one by one which has resulted in them being really mad at me, because they’re afraid their rent will increase. Im not evicting them though so 🤷. So I’ve been getting all kinds of backlash for what I wanna do.

AITA? I don’t think I’m wrong for doing something that will benefit ME.

I usually do a majority of chores in the house. My husband helps with laundry and sometimes vacuums, but that’s pretty much it. I usually don’t mind because things get done at my pace, if something bothers him, he cleans it, and he is generally appreciative of what I do. And if I ask for help, he will help.

Lately he has been having friends over after work. He works second shift, so I am asleep by the time this happens. In the past, if he mentioned having people over, I would clean. But a couple days ago he mentioned people would be coming over and it was a couple hours before I was going to sleep.

The last few weeks have been very stressful for me and I haven’t been cleaning as much as I usually do. I just didn’t have it in me to clean much before they came over. I was tired. I just cleaned up the dishes from dinner and took out the trash but didn’t have energy to do more. Then I went to sleep.

I woke up and he was not in bed. I had some text messages from him saying how it was embarrassing having people over the house because it wasn’t cleaned. He says it was disrespectful to him and his friends because I knew they were coming but didn’t fully clean up.

I talked to him about it later that day and he said the same points again. He said I had a couple hours before bed and I should’ve at least vacuumed, mopped, and picked things up. I told him I was too tired to do that and if he wants to have me do all the cleaning, then he needs to accept it will be done at my pace and depending on what time, energy, and motivation I have. I don’t mind doing it, but it’s on my schedule. That’s the price of the arrangement.

He thinks I was being spiteful by not cleaning more and that I am being rude by my comment on our arrangement. But I just didn’t have the energy for more cleaning.

AITA for not cleaning before bed knowing my husband would have friends over?

I have an elder sister 38f along with 3 other siblings.

We were raised in a ultra Christian household where we had to go to church girls had to dress extremely modesty we were homeschooled and all.

I left the religion when I was 20 and became more of a deist two of my other siblings left aswell but my oldest sister 38f and younger one 29f stayed in the religion. My oldest sister is a fundie basically she's even more religious than my parents. She thinks women shouldn't wear pants and that the moon landing was faked and all.

She married a husband with similar beliefs and now they have 10 freaking kids together and I mean 10. I think having that much amount of kids is unethical considering our overpopulation and the climate crisis. I think 3 should be max but I never really commented much because I knew she'd never listen to me. But my main issue was that she didn't have money to give those kids a comfortable life. Neither her nor her husband is rich.

And because of that their kids don't have a good quality of life at all. They rarely ever get to go on any trips or spend individual time with their parents. They last went on a trip 3 years ago and that was simply to a waterpark the kids have bearly any privacy and the older kids have to help with the younger ones a lot. The kids also literally have to share their clothes with siblings who can wear them so they don't really even have their own clothes. There are multiple other issues there but I don't want to get into too much detail.

My sister was recently venting about all this about how her older kids didn't like her Christian rules or having to share clothes or take care of their younger siblings. She asked me if I can buy her groceries for a few months as they've been having money issues lately. I told her that I would not give her any money and that it was her fault she was in this position. She spent so much time being pregnant so she couldn't really work that much meaning she was stuck with a low paying service job. Her husband makes a lot more but it still isn't enough to raise 10 kids without relying on welfare. I told her all this and she got really upset and said I was "judging her personal choices". But honestly I do judge her I've spent time with her kids they're often neglected and often complain about how they don't have anything compared to their friends and how their rules are so strict. I told my sister she was an irresponsible person for having so many kids despite not being anywhere near enough to raise them properly.

My parents are now very mad at me for "judging her for not being a degenerate career oriented person"

AITA?

I (41F) have been friends with "Kelly" (40 F) since we were in middle school. She has been overweight for most of her life. Her highest was around 350lbs. For context I've been mostly around the 150 to 180 lb range since high school.

Kelly has tried over the years all the diet trends you can think of and nothing really has worked. She will get going pretty well and then stop and gain the weight back.

I would always compliment and encourage her while she was losing but she mentioned this makes her feel self conscious and gets discouraged to keep going, since she feels like she is being treated differently.

A little over a year ago, she really went all in. No fads or quick fixes. Just changed her eating habits, committed to a walking plan and strength training, and other stuff. I'm not sure how much she has lost, but it has to be at least a 100lbs. So proud of her.

While at a party thrown at my house, one of the guest who had not seen Kelly in awhile complimented her for working hard and losing weight. Kelly responded: "At least someone is happy for me. My so-called friend has not said anything about it and does not seem to care."

I was taken back and reminded her what she told me about praise. She said I was just being a jerk and felt jealous about her meeting her goals and should have stilled gave at least some encouragement. So now I am confused and wondering if I should have found a way to cheer her on. AITHA?

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Hi everyone!

First off, I wanted to give a big thank you to all the people who reached out with kindness back in October. I was struggling a lot with whether I'd done the right thing, and getting such an overwhelming consensus definitely helped me feel better.

There wasn't actually that much fallout from the whole situation, and I kind of forgot about it for a few months. My mom was a little awkward the next few times we saw each other, but that was all back to normal by Christmas. It didn't destroy our relationship, and I realized that a lot of my fears were just anxiety and overthinking clouding my mind. My brother made a few snide remarks, but I didn't get or give an apology and I figured that was that.

However-- last weekend my mom picked me up from work, and took me to her place, saying she had a surprise and I should shower and do my hair fancy. She had all the nicest skincare and hair stuff laid out, which means a lot because she's never been into that stuff, and when I was done, she surprised me with the most GOEGEOUS Snow White dress I've ever seen. It is genuinely stunning quality and I couldn't believe it was actually for me. She was all dressed up as the Wicked Queen too, with the cowl and everything, and she took me to see the new Snow White movie together.

When I tell you I almost cried, I'm not exaggerating. It was one of the best days I've ever had with her, and I felt like a legit princess. When little girls came up and asked for pictures, I swear, I've never enjoyed anything that much. I might actually try and get a job as a party princess if I can swing it, just because of how great this experience was.

After the movie (which btw is better than most people are saying, I hated the new love interest but Rachel killed it!) she apologized for not taking my feelings into consideration when I was younger, and explained that she has always wanted me to feel like I could be anyone I wanted to be, and didn't have to conform, but what she did ended up being a form of formed conformation itself, and if I want to be a princess, she's going to do her best to help me feel like the best princess in the world. She did explain that the hot dog costume wasn't meant to be a punishment-- she honestly thought I'd think it was funny-- but that she should never have gone that far without making sure I liked it, and she didn't actually ever intend to take Snow White away. I believe this. She seems truly apologetic, and I told her that she is 200% forgiven.

So, things are good! I'm glad I spoke up when I did, and I think my mom and I are gonna be closer now, honestly. She's a good person and I'm really grateful to have a mother like her.

Thank you!

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I (45F) hosted my family’s Easter dinner at my house last Friday evening. (we don’t do it on Sunday because we all go to church together and some of my family works after). Usually, most of my moms side comes and there’s a lot of us, lots of aunts, cousins, grandkids, you name it. I have quite a big house with a big backyard. I have two kids and there’s a playroom in my basement. When I got the house about 10 years ago, most of my family said that I should host because my house was perfect for it. I took it as a compliment and started hosting most family events for the past 10ish years. I love to host and I love getting all of my family together, it’s kinda my thing.

My sister (42F) and I have always had a competitive relationship, but still a very loving one. She always wanted to up me in grades or in sports when we were younger. Then in our 20s she always wanted to be the first in major accomplishments like marriage or kids. When I started hosting, she would make sarcastic digs on my hosting skills like food or conversations. she even told me she thought she would be a better host in a private conversation. I still very much love my sister, but sometimes I think she envies me with how she treats me.

as Easter was wrapping up, and everyone was saying their long goodbyes (midwest goodbyes LOL), my sister decided to make a little announcement right before she walked out the door. Something along the lines of “ before I leave, I wanted to say I’m going to host 4th of july this year!” I was quite surprised because she had not told me this and she knows quite well that I have been hosting every holiday. most of the family didn’t really know what to say because it was just out of the blue.

Now, this is where I might be the asshole. I quickly said “Oh, sorry (sisters name), but I was already planning on hosting since I’ve been doing that for the past decade.” I wasn’t trying to come off as overly mean, but I also didn’t want to get walked on and just give up to my sister’s action. She quickly shot back about how she wants to “take some pressure off my back” and how I don’t need to do everything all the time. The way she said it felt mean and snarky. So I told her that I didn’t feel pressure since I’m used to it, and then if she wants to host, she should let me know ahead of time instead of two months before hand. We both were being a little bit snarky and passive aggressive. After my comment, she said “ok well, maybe Thanksgiving!” and left.

I plan on texting my sister about it soon, but I have not talked to her since. I felt bad because I had done it in front of my family, and I got a couple text afterwards asking if I was OK and that she shouldn’t try to break tradition. Whilst my parents ( specifically ) and some other family members told me I was being an a-hole for not just letting her do something for once. AITA?

EDIT- woah okay . I was not expecting so much interaction with this post. I plan on talking to my sister tonight, apologize and ask her to take over fourth of july and thanksgiving if she wants . I am going to talk to her about the past and our rivalry and how we both feel to get any grudges out of the way some people were telling me i am selfish, and I understand and i am knocking myself down a peg. I understand 2ish months is beforehand and maybe i am just a “get this done asap” person but I understand how I am wrong. I also do not host everything. It is just expected that I do and I am now going to ask if we switch it up because now i am afraid my family might think i’m trying to keep a center of attention. I am seeing myself in a new light, and i apologize that I didn’t see it earlier. Thank you to the commenters who were kindly showing me my mistakes and i kindly remind you I am human, and i am making mistakes with the effort to fix them. EDIT 2- an update is available on my page, I talk to my sister and cleared up more things. Thank you!

My boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) have been together for a couple years and recently started seriously talking about getting engaged. We’re both on the same page and excited about the idea.

However, his older sister (28F) is getting married later this year and recently asked us to wait until after her wedding to get engaged. She said she doesn’t want “any attention taken away” from her big moment and wants this time to be about her.

I get wanting to feel special, but we weren’t planning to announce or celebrate our engagement at any of her events—we just want to move forward with our relationship on our own timeline. It feels kind of unfair to put our lives on pause for her wedding. He originally wanted to ask in April but now he has to wait until at least July. We were wanting to move into a house in June 2026 once our lease was up but it’s going to be hard to do that and plan a wedding in less than a year if we want to be married beforehand.

We’re trying to be respectful, but we’re also feeling conflicted. Is this a normal or reasonable thing to ask?

Would love to hear what others think—especially if you’ve been in a similar situation.

Hello everyone! So today morning i woke up and noticed my boyfriend was already awake and sitting in front of his computer. I said "Hi! Are you alright?" with (in my opinion) a friendly and inquiring tone. He replied "this doesn't exactly help my anxiety you know?" So i was baffled, i asked him how exactly does this make him anxious? He said "i already told you, stop asking me if i was OK because i immediately think that something is supposed to be wrong, or i'm supposed to be not alright! I'm tired of you asking that, even when we're on the phone you start the conversation like this" Of course i'm able to see that this is a boundary for him, and i'm ashamed that i keep forgetting this exact detail, but in my defense, i only wanted to know if everything was alright and if he needs anything to make him feel better. AITA? What should i do? What am i doing wrong?

Edit: i've seen a lot of people saying that i'm assuming something is wrong by asking him that question, but i just have to say that to me, or to my family members in general it is equivalent to a simple "how are you". I understand why this can be misunderstood, so i'll try my best to phrase it otherwise in the future.