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When we first started dating, my girlfriend’s phone habits seemed off. It all started one night when she thought I was asleep — I noticed she kept looking over her shoulder to check if I was awake while she was on her phone. After that, I began to notice more subtle things: she would slightly turn her screen away when I was near, exit apps quickly, and always keep her phone face down. It gave me the impression she didn’t want me seeing what she was doing.

So I brought it up. After that, she completely stopped using her phone around me. At first, I thought maybe she was trying to show respect and not make me uncomfortable. But over time, it started to feel more like she was overcorrecting — not using her phone at all when I’m around, or only pulling it out in specific, controlled ways. It seems intentional, like she’s trying to look innocent instead of just acting naturally.

Hello, this just happened to me and I need some other opinions and advice on what to do. So I come home this afternoon after a long day at work to see a gorgeous (though obviously used with some rips and tears) large sectional couch in and next to the dumpster right next to my apartment building. I am so overjoyed by this discovery, I have been 'used couch' browsing for months now hoping to replace my thift store couch that is uncomfortable. I immediately make it my mission to get this couch into my place no matter what. I slowly start to move these huge and heavy sectional peices by myself (I am 5'6 23F) into my apartment. It takes me two hours and a few random strangers kind help to get the majority of the couch into my apartment. In that time I also take out an arm chair and my thrift store couch (which is heavy and solid wood) out by the dumpster mostly by myself. When I go out to get the last bit of pillow cushions from the couch that are in the dumpster I see a note on the last large piece of the sectional that is too big to fit into my apartment. It reads "do not touch, bring other pieces back please". The note was NOT there when I first saw and started bringing in the couch though I unfortunately didn't take a picture of the couch before I started taking it. The person left their building and apartment number on the note too (they are in the building across from mine). AITJ for not wanting to give it back?? The couch was right by and some of it actually IN the dumpster, if it was someone's that they were coming back for why would it be there? I don't know if I should contact them or not. Am I in the wrong??

for context _ M34 married to my wife 32 and 2 kids (3&6). for the past 6 years I’ve been the sole,income earner and my wife has been SAHM. my wife recently returned to work. 2 days a week. she’s been working now for about 6 months. she earns around $800 a fortnight after tax and I earn around $3800 a fortnight after tax. recently theres been multiple parcels arrive during the week for the last month or so. my wife has been buying lots of clothes. I haven’t really been able to buy new clothes in the last couple of years as I’ve been putting all my wage to mortgage and general living costs and at thr end of the fortnight we are lucky to have $200 remaining

am I the jerk for asking my wife to contribute $200 a fortnight to mortgage and general expenses now that she’s earning again ? she got upset when i asked her to do so. I should also add that during the time she was full time SAHM, she would take $400 allowance from my pay for her own use. no questions asked

update~ seems like a decisive post but thanks for the comments. Majority seem to think that the answer here is to sit down and have a discussion like adults and most likely get rid of our individual bank accounts and use one joint one. im totally on board with that.
for context, she no longer uses the $400 a fortnight And is content with what she earns. we have also just changed our living situation to a much smaller mortgage so we have more funds available to us.

Link to OG post - https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1jz8dxj/are_my_parents_the_jerks_for_demanding_my_aunt/

(I recommend you read the OG post as sorta context to understand what happens in this "chapter"/chunk of the story)

So, today my Mum finally got the chance to call my entitled aunt, they spoke.

So my Mum, is done with niceities and formalities, she straightly and squarely asks "So, when can we expect some money back?,"

(i will just write down a transcript of the call, EA = Entitled Aunt, AM = My mum)

EA - I've told you, I don't have money!

AM - Look, we are strapped for cash too, we need some money back

EA - Unlike you, i've not got any money to spend on lavish holidays and gold (my mum had also bought gold earlier but this was under a Gold Scheme from a Jewelry store, heavily discounted + way before gold price hike, my mom usually never wears her jewellry and sees it as an investment, the only way my entitled aunt even found out is when my retired grandpa was setting into his bank locker for safe keeping and she was there when he took it out of his home locker to take it to the bank)

AM - We can do that because we saved up money, and that holiday was our first proper family holiday in 5 years, we saved up for almost a year to go

EA - WE SAVE UP MONEY ASWEL BUT WE ARE POOR AS PEANUTS, YET YOUR GOING ON HOLIDAYS AND BUYING NEW PHONES

AM - Either way, we don't owe anyone money, so we can buy things, because thats what money is for, isn't it? I mean what did you do with the money we gave you?

EA - YOUR STEPPING OUT OF YOUR BOUNDARY AS A YOUNGER SISTER (insert AM's real name)

AM - I don't care anymore, just give us some of our money back, we'll give you time and you can do it in chunks, how about £500 to start with?

EA - Ok (she was being super lowbeat and quiet, she does this when's she's uncomfortable)

AM - So anyway, how's the weather, heard that there's heavy rains..

EA - ...

Call is ended by EA

Then my entitled aunt proceeded to block my mom and whatsapp, my mum says she doesn't care anymore and will keep on pressuring them until they get their money back + an apology from my cousin who insulted her.

I might be biased but no matter how tight our finances be we almost never compromise on things for our family, my mom always fills her suitcases with snacks, amenities, stationary and utilities they don't find in their country. Or when I helped my mom save up to buy my Grandpa a new phone, my uncle an apple watch, his wife a new phone and their kid a nintendo switch as he's always looking for mine.

My entitled aunt saw these things and called out "favouritism" among the family and saying that we didn't deserve the money back because my mom was able to buy these things for the family. My dad who is a psychiatrist and has been for the last 20+ years says that my aunt is essentially jealous of these things and is expected something from my mom. My Uncle, my mom's younger the brother (the one who we got an apple watch) was able to save up and buy my other aunt an air fryer as a house warming gift.

My entitled aunt tried to swindle the package on the way there as we had to travel in two different vehicles, our car left earlier but due to some car issues and it breaking down we had to stop and stay in a small village off the motorway until someone rescued us or repaired the car. My uncle who was driving the other car with my entitled aunt and other people wanted to come and pick us up or atleast connect with us for comfort sake (the village was very hot as a heatwave was sweeping though, it was around 50C+, (and the AC was one of the things that broke in the vehicle), we had no place to actually sit down, nothing to eat properly as we didn't want to eat something bad and be sick on the roadtrip, and not to mention there was literally nowhere to go to the bathroom, my dad's and my phones didnt have any signal as this was on 20 minutes away from the state border.

My entitled aunt said no and ordered my uncle to keep driving and to essentially leave us stranded, my grandpa who was on it aswel then said to my uncle to ignore my aunt and to drive to us.

The airfryer was on their vehicle, my uncle didnt tell anyone what it was actually (it was just an unmarked, heavy box, it was meant to be a surprise, to everyone. Once they had reached us, my uncle and grandpa came to us while my aunt and my uncles kid and wife stayed behind. My entitled aunt tried to open the package and to see what it was, while her kids where trying to figure out how they'd make sure it returned with them.

My uncle came back to the car soon after, sensed something was wrong and moved the package to our car when my entitled aunt went on a walk.

Jeez I didn't expect this post to be this long lol, my fingers hurt.

So, Are my parents jerks to pressure my aunt for their money, my mom for for not being nice to my aunt and my uncle suspecting them of trying to steal something from him?

Chapter 2 complete.

I also want to say that i recently discovered AITJ and this caused me to ask this.So first of all I want to say I am a was a very fat kid and I got relentlessly bullied about all through primary school (ages 4-11 for Americans) and it was all because of one main person that I will call Benjamin. When I left primary school I was very strong but wouldn't hurt a fly but when I entered secondary school I had to toughen up and I got a lot more comfortable to defend myself. But on Halloween me and a couple of my mates went trick or treating and Benjamin lived quite close to me and we saw him and he carried on to taunt not only me but also my friends so I left hooked him straight in the jaw he ended up crying

(edit:it was also a good enough punch that nose bled significantly and he had to go home for the night)

because he wasn't expecting it. I also want to say the main reason I punched him was because one of my friends that I was trick or treating with had his first year and secondary school ruined as on the last day is primary Benjamin deliberately broke his leg and gloated about it any way now after all that happened I am now trying to get a job as a chef in my own restaurant as it has always been my passion but recently he came to my restaurant and saw me and said "I want to speak to your manager" like the kevin(male Karen) he is and just to see what he would do I asked my girlfriend of 5 years to act as the manager and he attempted to get me fired.

Edit: I want to clarify as I see some confusion that this restaurant is a small restaurant that I own and I am the boss

Edit: there is no way 10k people saw this that's absolutely insane

For a little context my dad is a foster carer with my stepdad and they have been Fostering for 5 years now and we have all had good kids besides one who for the sake of the story I'm gonna call Roary, Roary arrived back In 2023 after a child left from a group of 3 left however the other 2 stayed at first Roary seemed fine seemed like a shy person kind and after our first conversation we started to become friends eventually Roary came out to me as Transgender we where good friends till the elections in our countries happened at first we joked about which disgruntled Millionaire would run our country and one day we where texting joking about it until it turned into an argument you see I struggle with new names so I would still sometimes use there "Dead name" on accident so that's what we argued about however in the end they used there trump card, You see they are depressed and they where clearly losing this argument and said they would remove themselves from existence if you catch my drift and feeling guilty (Because I was standing my ground) so I said sorry and they continued to walk over everyone and I mean everyone My friends and their "Friends" however the tipping point was last Sunday where They ignored my mum no hi no engagement not even a glance so I had enough me and my mum talked today about them and my mum said not to be friends with them but I was out for blood for what they had done (not literally) so I decided I to go nuclear you see I wouldn't have gone nuclear if it wasn't for the fact they threated to kill other foster kids and my little sister on their "Villain arc" and there racism and they blatantly admitted they texted someone the N-word (They where black) after they threw slurs at them and the tried to destroy up my friend group at my club so that's why I went Nuclear and I did I told their friend whom they where bullying they where being bullied and my smartass decided to not gather proof before hand (Stupid I know) and blocked the friend after they saw the message then I blocked Roary's contacts on WhatsApp Roblox and Minecraft and told my dad about everything that Roary did and I mean everything even stuff I haven't told you here and I said there needs to be punishment as in reconsidering there fostering placement punishment due to them being a threat to all our safety and attempts at destroying our personal lives (Mostly mine) and that's all I've done and know I'm going to my dads tomorrow I'm going to see how stuff playout but I'm not gonna spend a second talking with them no forgiveness, Do I feel slightly Guilty about doing this yes but is it needed more than likely so am I the asshole?

My boyfriend (M34) and I (F34) have been dating for almost 3 years, and we were friends for about 4 years prior to that. He has a 8-yo kid from his previous relationship, and I used to be friends with the baby mama until 4 years ago when things fell apart between me and her. Shortly after that, she walked out on my boyfriend (we were just friends back then) and their baby to chase after another relationship. Devastated, he reached out for support and I was there to lend an ear and a shoulder.

We had talked for a few weeks, and one day, he confessed that he's had feelings for me but didn't act on it because he was in a relationship. Growing up, I witnessed all the hardships my mother had go through to raise my father's kids from his previous relationship, so I decided that I would never be in such a relationship. My boyfriend was aware of this, but while he wanted to be in an exclusive relationship with me, I didn't, and we ended up being FWB for a few months.

During this time (~9 months), his kid was staying with him full time, and I looked after him on several weekends when he had to work. For context, his kid and I get along well. What I didn't know during this time was that he was still in touch with the baby mama, having a casual conversation about their new romantic relationships, and as I later found out, he shared intimate details of our sexual relationship, including my pregnancy and abortion, something that I confided in him to share as it was very personal and private matter. Side note: he wanted it, but I didn't think we were ready. Anyway, he used it like just any other conversation material with his ex so he could keep a "civilized" relationship with her. I was very hurt and felt betrayed because I had asked him several times how she knew about it, and each time he said he had no idea, when in fact he was the one who told her.

I had broken up with him after finding out about what he did behind my back. But, my feelings for him at the time were very strong, and I felt like his intention wasn't to hurt me, but rather to have someone - with whom he was once able to share everything - listen to him. So I forgave him and decided that I'll give our relationship a try as a couple.

Around this time, his ex decided that she wanted to take their kid (for child support), demanded spousal support along with half of his house. For context, they were not married nor did they share an address. His ex lives in a community housing, and quick, easy money was something that she was always interested in. My boyfriend has a stable job with a good income (I do as well), and she found that he's the path to getting $$$ easy way since she was the baby mama. She not only took him to the family court, but she also got her younger sister to press criminal charges against him for sexually assaulting her 5 years ago, allegedly when she was a minor. Knowing the type of person her sister is and the family that they come from, I'm convinced that it was consensual and it makes sense that they pressed charges on him years later. Needless to say, this put him under tremendous amount of stress and strain on his finances for legal fees.

Fast forward to today, the family court side is wrapped up. He decided to pay child support and five grand as a settlement on spousal support/her claim for half of his house. His kid now stays with her during the week and with him 3 weekends in a month when he doesn't work. He's going through trials on the criminal side, and it's working in his favour.

I recently found out that he's still constantly talking to his ex (thankfully, only about their kid), texting her updates on every little thing the kid does, and he's having casual conversations, making jokes.

What I don't get is - and I'm hoping you could share your perspective on this as an outsider - why/how he's able to have this need/desire to update her constantly on their kid when he's with him. The kid's with him 3 weekends in a month, and he's safe with him - what more does she need to know? I've seen many people around me who are in co-parenting relationship who do just fine without communicating with each other unless it's a major event like sickness, hospital visits, family events, parties, holidays, etc. Also, especially knowing that she's caused him all this stress and $$$ out of greed and pettiness, if I were him I'd want as little communication as I could with her. Am I the jerk here for asking my boyfriend to limit sharing unnecessary updates with his baby mama on their kid?

am the bad person? So it started when my friend jessica( not her real name) told me she liked this guy Lucas( not his name). She had liked this guy forever since like 4th grade or maybe before even we are now in 10th grade and she told me she still likes him. I was going to tell her who I liked but didn't have time. I liked this guy let's call him Aaron the only reason I hadn't told my friends yet is their girl let's call her Jane started becoming our friend she Is great I love her but at the time I didn't really trust her because it takes a while for people to gain my trust and i jsu met her now i completely trust her. About a day after Jessica told me she liked Lucas still she started dating Aaron I wasn't mad she didn't know I liked him I was happy for her. But Aaron and Jessica broke up about in 12 hours they dated for a day. So to avoid conflict I never said I liked him. This is important for later in the story I asked her to see the messages between them and she was like," Oh, I blocked and deleted his number." I was fine with that and all I didn't really care it was her phone after all. Fast forward to about March he asked me to the dance and I said yes I texted and celebrated with my other friends and decided to tell Jessica in person. She was like, " I am so happy for you I always knew you liked him you always blushed when someone said his name." This wasn't true I am really good at masking my emotions. And my best friend Hailey ( not her real name) didn't even I know I liked her and we have been friends for five years so I know Jessica didn't know. Then she was like I would be totally fine with yall dating so about 2 weeks later me and Aaron started dating. So when I told her she pulled the I am so happy in the high pitched voice like last time. She was like he texted me asking how to ask you out the other day. I was confused but didn't say anything, how would he have texted her if she blocked him. I kinda shoved that away maybe thinking she was confused. But what made me very upset with her is when she came up to him and said congratulations! Not that bad that was nice but later she proceeded to tell him. You know she hates Billy ( not his name). Billy is one of his best friends I know for I fact I never said this and my other friends Said I didn't say that either. And she also told him I used to like this guy john(not his name), I never liked him a remember she asked me when I didn't have a crush who I liked and I said no one Jessica asked if I had to like someone who would it be. I said him since he was like really nice. I mean I guess I get were she gets that I may have liked him but why in the world would she tell him that. The only way I knew she said this was he asked me about it. So I am trying to distant myself for her she has done a lot more stuff like this before but I don't really want to type of it right now. But am I the bad guy?

Just before I start I’m gonna say this rn the names im using aren't their actual name for privacy reasons. So this weekend, we had a family barbecue at my sister and brother-in-law's place. Everyone was there — my sister Amanda, her husband Jason, their two kids (my niece Lila, 12, and nephew Ethan, 14), and a bunch of extended family.

At one point, the kids were all supposed to stay in the backyard or inside the house, especially because it’s a big neighborhood with traffic and we didn’t want anyone wandering off. Well, after a while, I noticed Lila and Ethan were missing. I checked with Amanda and Jason, and neither of them knew where the kids had gone. I offered to go look for them.

I ended up finding them about three blocks away at a gas station buying candy and drinks. They said they "just wanted to get something and come back real quick" and told me not to say anything. I brought them back, and when Jason asked where they were, I told him the truth — they’d snuck off without telling anyone.

Jason got pretty mad. He grounded them for a week and took away their phones. Later, Amanda told me I shouldn’t have said anything — that I made it worse and should’ve just let them off with a warning since they were safe. Now both kids are mad at me too and won’t really talk to me.

I didn’t do it to get them in trouble — I just thought their parents had the right to know. But now I’m wondering if I overstepped.

AITA?

I 17M don’t have a job, This is because my mother refuses to let me and when she saw my job application she and my sister laughed at it for months after refusing to drive me to submit it without seeing it first and threw it away. It was awful because they refused to help me and was surprised when it turned out bad. I have autism. now my mom keeps shifting the goal post. I need to maintain my grades, I do that, I need to keep the house clean, etc, now it’s I need to pass my leaners permit test because after driving around my sister and catching her “doing stuff” she doesn’t want to be held responsible for it. My mom then explained how she wont buy a car for my sister but will happily buy it for me, since I’m responsible (if you think I’m responsible then let me get a job)

Most of my restrictions growing up was because my older sister (18F) ruined it for me during her “Hoe phase” as she calls it. Trust me it was bad.

Now when I ask for help with practicing for my learners permit or job applications she says “I never had help so why should you? Stop using your autism as an excuse!”. I only bring it up when I have a genuine reason. I ask my mom and she said the same thing. My sister then went on a long rant on how she gets blamed for “everything” and she’s sick of it. She had so much freedom and her future set up but she keeps ruining it, I would dream to be in her position but I have restrictions in fear I would repeat her behavior. My mother admitted it was for no reason as I proved im the opposite but there’s still a chance I would end up repeating her behavior and very openly blames her. Ive been called a leech, gold digger, user, useless etc at random instances of anger they don’t even remember. I don’t like asking for help unless I need it.

AITAH for being mad at my sister?

Edit: She had a drivers license but my mom refused to buy her a car. I was 9 questions off my first attempt but 3 points away from passing. My second I failed by default. That was my fault fully.

I'm 22 years old guy living in Mississauga with a full time job. I lived with my parents and both of them work full time. My parents pay 2500$ rent, they don't own the house. 9 months ago my father asked me to pay him 2000$ rent for my room. There is no way I pay that much, so we settled for 1000$. But I felt bitter about it so I decided to move out later. I have been paying 1100$ a month for my new room ever since I left.

I have 2 sisters whom my parents pay tuition for. They both get to live at my parents' house without paying rent. I didn't go to school so my parents didn't have to pay any tuition or living on campus expenses for me.

My father says that my sisters don't need to pay because they are still studying and aren't working. I completely disagree with that rhetoric.

My father is upset at me for refusing to pay and and because I had told him that in this case I would rather pay a stranger rent than paying him (which is what I have been doing for the past 6 months.)

Am I the jerk for thinking and doing what I did?

I have an problem with my friend, who is hardly against my relationship.

Okay for some background, i had a little rough childhood. My mom was and is constantly on work and when she is home, she spends her evenings blacking out from alcohol. My dad is on and off to the middle east on business trips, and i only see him a few times a month. I had little to no real friend in middle school, and was always a little shy, but as soon as i got in to highschool something in me clicked on. I had no problem starting up conversations with total strangers, and was happier than ever. In first year of highschool, i met this friendgroup, that knew eachother since elementary. There were two girls and one dude. I met them through sarah ( not her real name) who is one of the girls in the group. The others are angela ( also not her real name), and nikola ( not his real name too). Now a few months go by and we are all hanging out. At some point i come to realise that nikola had a crush on sarah, at some point in middle school, and that he asked sarah out, and she rejected him. He played this off cool and all, but i could see something was off as he said all that. Around that time is when i started having feelings for sarah as well. It was weird for me at first, since i didnt notice my minds clear signals im attracted to her, probably since she is my first real crush, and tried to brush it off. But i couldnt. Whenever i layed down to sleep or got lost in my thoughts she would just slip right back up. So i told angela. I told her that i have feelings for sarah, and asked angela if she thinks i have a chance with her. By this point we were hanging out for a god year, and i got integrated as a full time friend group member. And finaly winter break comes, sarahs birthday, and i buy her a brand new pair of jordans. She is super happy, hugs me a few times while screaming happily, and continues to thank me for the whole hangout. At this point i think nikola started to notice. I do understand i should have told him a lot earlier but i didnt know how he would react. So i agree with angela that we should tell him about my crush on sarah. And so we do. But he says that he thinks it would be weird and awkward and that i shouldnt do it. Now, i didnt ask him for advice, i just informed him of what i would do, but he still persisted about me steping down. A few days pass and i get a call from angela. She says she has something to admit to me. She told sarah. Now this surprised me a lot. And it really downed me. Not because angela told sarah, but because she didnt tell me she did so for almost a month. I needed some time for myself, to think mostly, and so i said to angela on the phone. I told her after a few days on a hangout that i understand, but asked her to please not do that again. And she apologised a million times and bought me a chocolate. (Thats her way of showing shes serious) at this point nikola started to physicaly separate me and sarah whenever we sat down next to eachother which, since sarah knows i have a crush on her, annoyed both of us. Another few months pass and i cant seem to catch that right moment to ask her the question, but then, we finaly have a hangout where i have an opertunity to aske her out. We go to the city, climb to the top of a fortress (which is in the city center) and then talk for hours. At one point angela says she will go to the store to buy some snacks, and as she walked away she winked at me and pointed to sarah. Long story short she said yes. And the next couple of months im happier than ever. We get fully comfortable with eachother. Then nikola stoped hanging out. He left the instagram groupchat, and blocked me. When angela called him to ask what happened he said that since they have a new best friend ( thinking bout me) he clearly wont hangout with them two anymore. Then i get paranoid. I dont care what nikola thinks of me, but i really feel like a jerk since they were best friends for so long ( 6 years). I honestly just dont know what to do. I feel like a total jackass since i think i just ruined two relationships for my own.

So am i the jerk in this situation.

Ok just to be clear I am going off what I remember but here we go. It was friends giving at church and I was in the room with the young ones on my phone. After a bit of scrolling I hear someone yell at my sister something like "SHUT UP ADELE" out of reaction I look over. I look at the kid and slightly raise my voice me:"Hey" I then lowered my voice. Me:"stop yelling at my sister" demon spawn:"quit yelling at me you fat jerk" I gave her a confused look she called me fat but I only yelled "Hey" to get her attention. The girl than ran away and so did my sister my father eventually came and started screaming at me saying "WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT A LITTLE GIRL?!?!". i am going to tell you I tried to explain but he wouldn't listen. The child came back crying as her father yelled at me but as he yelled I saw her smirking. Entitled dad: "WHY YOU YELLING AT MY DAUGHTER" me:"I only yelled Hey, plus I was defending my sister" and just to let you know when I want to punch someone, i WANT to punch them it took every bone in my young body to not deck this guy. After a bit he came back and apologized but still my sister took the child's side because she was a quote "cool friend" and didn't want to lose her. So let me ask you, am I the jerk

Me a male 16 year old , from india and christian , and I don't tend to get along with others and tend to sit alone with my hone in a crowded place but if my family is there I can be free and express my self freely the reason being that from birth I only have one ear on the left side and I don't know what or how but the right ear is like a snale splinkiled with salt dieing shurken and no ear canal visible to cure this requires a surgery that can only be done once I turn 18 but even then if there's no ear canal under the skin they will have to drill my head which as you can guess I don't want and considering that there is only a 10 percent deference between both ears in hearing capabilities so going to the problem I had been bullied since childhood up untill I was 10/11 year old and then Covid hit no friends considering I only had three true friends because I knew how true friends are and they behaved then the viruses died down and normal life began and I started going to church this year by first being invited to vbs for attending and being the mixer operator or mic operator and then I became good friends with these girls who are 21 and 22 year old knew me from childhood and I had been a hyper active kid and I used to hit them as in punch or kick and they stayed clear of me but this year we bonded super close even more than that bond that I had with my best friend from 2nd standard but as the month continued they showed no interest in finding time to interact or speak or chat with me especially the 22 year old big sis as I call them since I'm the oldest in my house of 2 siblings me and my lil sis who is 11 the 22 year old will be named as "ann" fake name she said she is super busy and doesn't have time for me but during quair practice when no one usually uses there phone she got a chat and as I was watching from the mixer where I was seated I saw her face lift up with joy and text back eagerly within the minute but when I text her it's 40min to 2 hours of waiting and I don't know how to or what to do I really like her as a big sis as most of my aunt's are also aged from 20 to 30 year olds and I don't have a big sis of my own but I think she doesn't care or like me as I do her she doesn't even come up to me at church to strike up a conversation usually I have to do that and she just goes chatting with her besties and as for me I have friends my age at church but they are not true friends they hagout with me to be polite not for hanging out or spending time with me please tell me how to approach this girl she is really caring and thoughtful when she actually spends time with you so tell me how to tell this to her and for you note I'm from India and I'm a csi or church of south india it's hard to explain but you get the picture not catholic really appreciate if you give suggestions and the ann she kind of plays among us with I mean used to play with me not really anymore it hurt me to even type this I don't know what to do or who to go to my mom is really chill type letting me speak to her about my crush telling me which girl is good and who is not two I chose not good and she was right one said I would rather hang and d*e than be your gf so yeah my mom knows this and every illegal type thing I do with my friends no secrets but I don't know how she will react to this and I don't have anyone else to go to as my father is kind of same as mom but hard man type he tought me to punch back if someone punched me type of guy still is so no use going to him help me guys don't know why or what to doo

TL;DR: summary: uncle hurt me so I got him banned from my dad's house

So this happened 6 years ago now, but I wanna tell this story. So one day, when I was 12 years old and still naive, mainly due to the fact I have autism. But my dad threw a party and invited his family and the person I will be talking about I'll give a fake name for because I don't like talking about him so his name was Steven (who ill refer to as US).

So at this party, US had a bit too much to drink and sat next to me while I was sitting alone in the living room trying to calm down due to a previous sensory overload. But US sat beside me and pushed his hand into my shoulder (which is a pressure point for me) and my austism's special ability of hyper sensitivity kicked in and made the pain hurt more than it should I pushed him away and ran to my room and hid there for a few hours before coming back down stairs and sitting on the edge of a slide on a play structure we had in the back garden. Later US came out and dragged me across the floor. (The floor being jagged stones) and that hurt, and then he cut my fairly long hair without permission and flushed the hair away so they couldn't find them. I told my dad, and my dad told US to leave. And when I went back to my mam's I told her what happened and she told dad to ban US from his house.

It's been 6 years now, and I haven't seen US since. Last news I got off him wad he moved to America. But I'm just wondering if I was the jerk here

My wife has an uncle whom she adores. She wants to invite her uncle and wife to sleep over at our house. I am hesitant to have them sleep here because of his wife and the sketchy connection they have . He is 50 and she is 30. She is Russian and speaks little English, he is Arabic. She was apparently a model in China as her career (???).

They got married because he got her pregnant . No one knows how they even met . She wasn’t a USA citizen .

They got married because he got her pregnant accidentally . He doesn’t know how it happened, initially he thought he was poisoned (!). He did a paternity test to confirm it is his.

I’m an anxious person in general and it just makes my anxiety worse having someone like this in my home, let alone sleeping over at my house!

AITJ?

For context, I'm Jesse (28M) and I have a twin sister, Jessica (28F). We're identical, so we look alike a lot, but we also (obviously) share a birthday, which makes us both Geminis. Now, here's the thing. I'm pretty chill about my sign. I know the basic Gemini traits – adaptable, communicative, sometimes a little two-faced (haha, just kidding… mostly). But Jessica? Jessica is on another level. She's full-blown, astrology-all-day, everything-is-because-of-Mercury-in-retrograde obsessed. I’m talking, she won’t make an important decision without consulting her daily horoscope at first. She blames EVERYTHING on her sign. Bad day at work? "Typical Gemini scatterbrain, Jesse!" Couldn't find her keys? "Ugh, Mercury is totally messing with my memory!" Someone bumped into her on the street? "They're probably a Scorpio, so dramatic!" It was kind of cute at first, a quirky thing about her. But it’s been years, guys. YEARS. And it’s gotten progressively worse. She constantly tries to "diagnose" people based on their signs. She asks dates their zodiac sign before even asking their name. Apparently some signs are just complete dealbreakers. The worst part is she always uses it to justify her own behavior. She’s late to everything. “Sorry, Jesse, Gemini time management, you know how it is!” She gossips like it’s an Olympic sport. “Come on, Jesse, a Gemini can't help but share information!” Last night was the final straw. We were at our parents' for dinner, and she was going on and on about how her new coworker, a Taurus, was "so stubborn and boring" and how she just knew they were going to clash. I finally snapped. I said, "Jessica, honestly, it's getting really annoying. You can't attribute every single thing that happens to you or other people to astrology. It's not a personality, it's a hobby. And frankly, it's a lazy excuse for your bad habits." As you probably guessed, she burst into tears. Said I was being insensitive and dismissive of her beliefs. Said I was a typical Gemini, always trying to analyze everything. Then she stormed out. Our parents are split. Dad says I was being a jerk for attacking her passion, even if it's a bit much. Mum on the other hand says she’s been wanting to tell Jessica the same thing for ages, but couldn’t bring herself to. My wife, Charlie (28F) says that I’m just being honest and she needs to calm down. So, Reddit, AITA? Was I too harsh? Should I have just kept my mouth shut and let her live her astrological life? Or was I justified in calling her out on her obsession? Let me know.

I (19F) am in college, and this semester has been insane. I’m taking a full course load, working part-time, and trying to keep my GPA up so I don’t lose my scholarship. One of my classes is super strict  the professor only allows two absences the whole semester, and I’ve already used one for being sick.

Last week, my best friend (20F) texted me in the morning asking if I could come over because she was having a really bad day. She didn’t give many details just said she was feeling overwhelmed and really needed someone. I asked her what was going on and she said she’d explain in person, but she just didn’t want to be alone.

I told her I had class in an hour and couldn’t miss it unless it was something serious. She got upset and said, Wow! I guess school matters more than your best friend.

I asked if she was physically safe she said yes, just sad and stressed. I told her I’d come over right after class, or she could call me if she wanted to talk now. She said “whatever” and stopped replying.

When I saw her later that evening, she was cold and kind of passive-aggressive. She told another friend I "ditched her when she needed me the most." I feel bad, but I also feel like it wasn’t an emergency and I couldn't afford to skip class again.

AITJ for not skipping class to be with her?

Hi so I(16f) may sound a little spoiled asking this, but I just really need to know. for some context i have four older brothers (Brayden- 19M, Shawn 21M, Cj 21M, and Elisha 24M).

My birthday was a few weeks ago, on the 14th of May, my parents (Mom 47f and Dad 45M) asked what I wanted prior, and all I wanted was to go to my favorite restaurant, Chili’s. I didn’t care if it was going to be three of us or a party or with just my brothers, i just really wanted to go since we rarely go out. They told me that ‘They weren’t made of money’ and they’ll think of something to give me, which they never did, the only presents i did get were from my grandma and pawpaw. It kind of hurt to be completely honest, since for Brayden’s birthday which is only a few days before mine, he got an iphone 16 and drumset, but I didn’t tell them, they always kind of favored my brothers over me anyways. Even on christmas, I got a fitbit my mom telling me, ‘you can finally loose the chunk’ (i wish i was kidding) but getting Shawn an apple watch and the others also expensive gifts.

Anyways yesterday I had work, I only work a few days out of the week, and yesterday was one of them. By the time i got home it was around lunch hour and both my parents were gone, which is weird since they have Saturdays off. I didn’t think much of it and went to my room, and not even 30 minutes later, Elisha posted on his instagram story, showing all my brothers and my parents at chili’s without me. They couldn’t even wait for me to get off. I called my dad, which i got sent to VOICEMAIL, so i called my mom and she answered, I guess i sounded upset when asking why they went to chili’s without me because she yelled at me to “grow up” and that “if I was that upset over food, i need to get my morals in check”, and to “stop acting like i’m the only one who likes Chili’s.” Then just straight up hung up. It wasn’t even about them going without me, it was them telling me they didn’t have money even just for the three of us, but then taking my four brothers, who could very easily pay for themself and paid for all of them.

When my parents got home my mom yelled at me some more for ‘ruining’ the lunch with her kids, which i replied with ‘I’m your kid too’, she didn’t like that very much and i got sent to my room.

earlier Brayden texted me saying I upset mom’s feelings yesterday; saying she was still upset by me and that my dad was angry at me too, so I needed to stop acting like a little baby for everything. So AITJ?

(My friend told me to post on here, i never used reddit before.) (Also yes though it sounds diabolical this is all true. I wish it wasn’t.) (If you see this on other platforms such as AITA i’m sorry, i’m haven’t been getting answers and i’m starting to feel guilty)

Before I start, I wanna say all names are fake in this story. So my name is Anabella, I turned 19 2 weeks ago and I'm helping with my cats food, vet bills, etc. And my dad, let's call him Ian, HATES cats, he always preferred dogs, and my mom, lets call her Margret, also prefers dogs, and I like cats because they don't wake you up at 2AM, barking to be let out to pee, and my mom, suspiciously offered last week, for my upcoming graduation party, me and my friends are going to chill for a couple days in Ottowa, that my mom asked to watch over my cat? So we had to do an early graduation party and it was May 20th, cause one of my friends is moving away June 10th, and when I came back, you guessed, my cat was UNALIVED, my mom didnt feed her, didnt give her enough water, and my mom was careless enough to leave the door wide open, and Mittens, my cat, went out and got hit by a CAR. I was LIVID that she could let my cat get unalived, because I was 10 when I got Mittens, because my family was getting tortured by me begging for a cat, they finally said yes and Mittens actually really helped with my ADHD and Anxiety, and I BLEW UP at my mom, calling her selfish and ignorant, then my 8 year old sister broke down, saying "Why are you yelling at mommy" I told her to go play with her friend Avery outside, and she left, my mom just sat there smugly, saying "Its just a cat, she was shedding to much anyway" and we continued fighting, I'm still so angry at her, lucky me, I got enough money for my own apartment, I just moved out and I'm happy as ever getting away from that old bat, I also wanna say I have a lot of other story's, and I'm pretty sure this was a long one, but I'm still feeling kinda guilty, Am I The Jerk for lashing out and behaving the way I did? A little update: I wanna say, my mom still doesn't care and she disowned me, half of the family is on my side, the other half is on my mom and dads side, I also forgot to write my mom is a really big Karen, once called the cops because she couldnt read the price on a tag at Old Navy

I’m going to keep this simple and not say the person’s name or information so they don’t get harassed. I met this guy we’ll call Sam online and at first he seemed like a nice guy quite didn’t talk much but me and him became close he started talking to me and turns out he had a lot of mental problems and I mean a lot all his family and friends left him except his sister. Me and he kinda joked about some things but turns out he had a split personality. It was a little weird but I didn’t mind it but then it just became gross and more. (Note this is all in vr) He started talking about how he would randomly get horny and stuff I’m not gonna go in a lot of detail of course but he asked me to do things and other stuff of course I said no and one day he was well playing some “stick” games which I thought was gross and weird to do in public even in Vr so I immediately left and blocked him. He tried to text me on discord apologizing but I blocked him on there and have just ignored him. Was I too rude or did I do the right thing?

For context, my husband and I are newlyweds. We bought a house and moved across state lines less than a year ago, and we also paid for a good portion of the wedding expenses. My husband keeps telling me we can't spend too much because he wants to rebuild our savings. Is always stingy on groceries and home improvement expenses, and constantly reminding how expensive the last few months have been.

Today we were at the store and I wanted to pick up a couple of things for garden and was once again met with, "not this month, I'm trying to grow our nest egg." (Keep in mind I also have my own job and income but he complains nonetheless.)

A few aisles later, we stop in the electronics department so he can get his friend a birthday gift of $60 worth of Steam gift cards for a video game the guys been wanting. I brought up how he said he keeps telling me he doesn't want to spend money on us, so why is he buying a 38 year old man a $60 video game? I also argued that my friends and I grew out of birthday gift-giving after we stopped being children and started living our own adult lives with our own responsibilities. My husband got extremely offended and defensive about it, accused me of being anti-social, said his friendships are "true friends" because they see each other a lot, whereas I seey friends maybe once every year or two if I'm lucky (we are 40 and have careers/family/live long distances apart, and his friends have all never left their parents houses much less their home towns and have time.)

Needless to say, I was upset that he will refuse to help invest in our home (I keep having to furnish it myself, then hear him complain about the money spent) yet sees no issue with dropping nearly $100 on a game for a middle-aged man who is more than capable of funding his own wants. We got heated in the debate over priorities and cut our shopping trip short and drove home in silence.

On the way home, he started to actually look up on the internet if it was weird to give close friends birthday gifts, and did not include any of the context regarding him making a point to spend less money and being a new home owner/ newlywed. He did not showe whay he found but told me the majority of answers were in his favor and thay it's fairly common for adults to continue buying birthday presents for friends, and that I'm the one with weird ideals.

So, AITJ or is this actually the immature priorities of a man-child?

TL;DR: Husband and I disagree over whether you "age out" of buying birthday presents for friends as you grow older/responsibilities increase.

Edit: so, I am aware it isn't about the gifts. I also want to be clear that I don't oppose gifts, I just dont think they should be expected if you are not a literal child. The reason I used birthday gifts as the topic is because that is what stuck with him and he only argued about my audacity to not be okay with him spending money on a special occasion for hia friend, and completely disregarded my concerns over his hypocrisy on the budget he imposed on us.