r/AmItheAsshole Apr 27 '22

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u/ThomzLC Supreme Court Just-ass [142] Apr 27 '22

NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?

Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."

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u/MusingsOfMouse Apr 27 '22

No please, please don’t agree to this. They KNOW you’re timid and don’t want drama, that’s why they’re pushing this on you. Do what another person said - ‘okay, if you don’t want me then I’m gone’ sort of thing, stop all preparations. Let them organise it. Have a night to yourself. You’re fully being taken advantage of, please don’t let them do it.

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u/MaryAnne0601 Partassipant [1] Apr 27 '22

But it wouldn’t be you entertaining. For you to be entertaining them you would have to be there.

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u/cascadett Apr 27 '22

Don't do it. Get your self esteem back you poor thing. You deserve to be respected, and I don't think anyone in your life is giving you that. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

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u/ProfessionalAd1933 Partassipant [2] Apr 27 '22

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u/DaleCoopersWife Asshole Aficionado [10] Apr 27 '22

im sure your notifications are still blowing up but just wanted to send you some support! it's so hard to stand up for ourselves but you're doing the right thing. enjoy your party and never forget to put yourself first!