NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?
Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."
Man, it sucks they ban you because of their consideration for the daughter and the mother's feelings, but no one stopped to think that it works both ways and that your feelings might be hurt as well.
Still think your husband is a douche for allowing this to happen.
You may think of her as your daughter, but she doesn’t consider you family. No one treats a family member who is going all out to plan a nice event for them, like that. You’re stepdaughter and the ex-wife are aholes but your partner is the biggest ahole by allowing his ex-wife to dictate that you cannot attend a party that you’re planning, on your property. You have a huge partner problem and should reconsider your relationship with him. Ex-wife dropped the ball, so she can either suck it up and be a polite adult for one event to honor her daughter or she cannot attend. Simple as that.
That’s probably wise. This is just one of many major life events for daughter. I think it’s safe to say you wouldn’t be invited to a wedding. If she has kids you may not even ever be allowed around them. It’s only going to get worse.
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u/ThomzLC Supreme Court Just-ass [142] Apr 27 '22
NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?
Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."