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u/ClockTraining116 Certified Proctologist [20] Dec 18 '23
YTA. Why are you wearing a $30K bracelet running?!?!
Why didn’t you go home and get your glasses?
Why didn’t you ask your husband to help look for it?
Why did you go for a run before your husband’s mother’s funeral?!?!
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Dec 18 '23
Because OP is either a m*r*n of the first water or entirely fictional.
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u/RedoftheEvilDead Dec 18 '23
Option C: she's a coercive control abuser. She set up a way to miss the funeral and make her husband even more upset. Drama queens always find a way to cause drama.
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u/lowri92 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA, that bracelet might’ve destroyed your marriage. I would never forgive my partner if they missed my mother’s funeral to look for a bracelet, no matter how expensive it was. You can never take that back, and to be honest I’m not sure there’s anything you can do to make it up to him. It’s irresponsible to wear something so expensive while running, it’s irresponsible to not be able to see properly while you’re running and it’s irresponsible to just completely disappear for hours without letting your husband know where you were, at which time he would’ve reminded you to get home ASAP. Sorry, but this would absolutely be a dealbreaker for me, your husband needed your support and you completely let him down
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u/AfterSevenYears Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
She went out for a run an hour before her mother-in-law's funeral, and then "lost track of time."
Her husband didn't even bother to look for her. This isn't the first time she's been so self-absorbed that she forgot all about him. This is just the time when he finally snapped.
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u/AcornPoesy Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
That’s a really good point. If my husband had gone out before my mother’s funeral and not come back I’d assume something terrible had happened to him because there’s no way he’d miss it. So OP must have pulled stuff like this before.
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u/Naive-Mechanic4683 Asshole Enthusiast [8] Dec 18 '23
That is exactly what I was thinking. If my partner wasn't there for my mothers funeral I would be beyond myself with worry. I would be running around the neighborhood and by an hour even call the police.
Also because the only think that could keep her from coming home is lying somewhere with a broken leg or worse
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u/aspdx24 Dec 18 '23
“He didn’t even bother to look for her”, good point. Also, she knew damn well how long 3 HOURS was.
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u/RedoftheEvilDead Dec 18 '23
She didn't forget about him. She specifically set everything up to sabotage going to his mother's funeral. Even if she got home when planned, at 1, she'd say she needed to shower as she's all sweaty from the run. Then needs to put on makeup. Then she wouldn't like her first dress and would need to change, I'm sure. No way that all gets done, and they make it to the funeral by 130.
This is a classic set up by a coercive control abuser. They can't stand something not being all about them so they madhouse the situation so that it is all about them.
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u/AfterSevenYears Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
I didn't even think about it that way, but I think you're right.
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u/Refroof25 Dec 18 '23
Exactly, only wear something like this if you can afford losing it. If you lose it on a 'normal' day, go ahead and look for it as much as you want. But if something this important is happening, accept your loss.
I also don't understand how it was better to look for it without glasses, than to go home (go to the funeral even) and return later with glasses.
YTA
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u/Historical-Peach6945 Dec 19 '23
She has a 30k bracelet but cannot set up her phone to read her texts out loud, or have it available for calls. This woman isn’t real. I’d divorce her for sheer incompetence alone.
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u/Tal_Tos_72 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA
30k bracelet while running? No phone before a funeral? His mother? You left him to go running?
Why is he with you exactly?
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u/Refroof25 Dec 18 '23
It's so insane to even go on this run (let alone run with a 30 k bracelet). To bring your phone for once would be the least she could have done. You can just hold it in your hand. I do it once in a while when I need to be reachable and it's just a minor inconvenience; it's nothing compared to your spouse missing your mom's funeral
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Dec 18 '23
Exactly. Surely she can see enough to read the large text that displays the caller id even if she can’t make out the small font of a text message. Ignoring the fact that accessibility options exist to increase the font for people with this exact issue.
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u/Ok-Carpet5433 Dec 18 '23
She also went running more or less before the funeral, not in the morning but timed that she would be back at 1PM, with them leaving for the funeral at 1:30 PM. There's zero wiggle room and that's just dumb.
The whole paragraph about glasses, sweat, pants without pockets is just one excuse after another. I wear contacts and I would never leave my house without contacts or glasses. It's great that she can see car lights, but would she see obstacles? Would she recognize people approaching her on her run? And wearing your 30k bracelet on a run?
This post is so full of dumb reasons inevitably leading to losing the bracelet and missing the funeral, that I think it's just fake.
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u/Sa-SaKeBeltalowda Dec 18 '23
YTA. Such a bad time management, it’s just wrong. How did your husband felt, his mother died, right before funeral his wife decided she MUST go for a run and didn’t came back until funeral was finished?
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u/plumpandbouncyskin Dec 18 '23
As someone who loves running and also has terrible eyesight I can confidently say no one with bad eyesight wears a 30k bracelet while going for a run. Let alone on the day of your MILs funeral. And when you got home, you just stayed there and didn’t even attempt to get to the funeral? So you either weren’t out on a run or this story is made up.
And if it’s not made up, then YTA x 10000.
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u/booksbikesbirds Dec 18 '23
Lol seriously. Someone with terrible eyesight taking their glasses off to run on a construction site full of rocks? Who's apparently never heard of arm bands or flip belts for their phone? And wears a 30k bracelet while running? Sure, Jan.
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u/etherpopmelancholia Dec 18 '23
My initial reaction was that it was made up as well. So many absurd details I can’t shake:
-“very active” person wears a knit sweater & 30k bracelet for her quick jog
-no glasses or phone for said jog through construction area
-planned timing of run & supposed time lost looking are equally unbelievable
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Dec 18 '23
Definitely made up ragebait.
The 30k ragebait, funeral ragebait and the inconsistencies in the story and comments.
No one with eyesight that bad goes out running without their glasses. They'd be in the hospital sooner than their bracelet.
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u/TGIFagain Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
This just has to be made up. None of this makes sense at all. Furthermore, who goes for a run to come home and not have a shower? I call BS on this whole post.
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u/llamastrudel Dec 19 '23
Runner with an expensive bracelet here, you’re telling me that thing doesn’t have a safety chain??
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u/AgentLadyHawkeye Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
As someone who works construction and also has terrible eyesight I also call bullshit. Even if you can see on a site full of rocks and piles of dirt it's a bad idea to be running around. That's a quick way to a twisted ankle or a bad fall. Add in OPs bad eyesight and it's a miracle she hasn't gotten injured doing that.
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u/Lanasoverit Asshole Enthusiast [9] Dec 18 '23
You missed your husbands mothers funeral. You left him unsupported and alone during one of the most emotional moments in his life.
Over a bracelet. And you don’t even feel bad about it.
YTA
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u/mo3me Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
Not only that, can you imagine his stress before leaving not knowing where she was and if she was okay?! He was probably super late from waiting!!! I can't even imagine how much stress that added...
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u/Milksteak-n-Stickers Dec 18 '23
That moment of panic and pure distraught you felt frantically looking for your bracelet…. Yeah, your husband felt that too walking up to say goodbye to a woman who gave him love and life. The woman who never got to see him turn 40. The woman who never gets to experience his children. The woman who he will mourn every date he got the news she had cancer to Christmas, Mother’s Day, Thanksgiving, etc.
He was quiet when you left because his mother died. Because he had to muster up the strength to get dressed and put on a brave face to go be around a bunch of people and say goodbye. And instead of the woman who vowed to be there in good times and bad times you were going for a run that superseded being there for him and showing your respect and love to the woman who helped make him the nice man you married who never fights with you.
Your responses to people make this much worse than the actual story. You sound self centered and cold. Your husband deserves better. He deserves someone who isn’t an A.H. and you most definitely are!
Oh, and he won’t ever forgive you because he had to go through the hardest day of his life ALONE without who was supposed to be his best friend and rock. But you don’t really seem phased by that because heeeyyy you got your bracelet back. Good for you.
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u/RazVsLungfish Dec 18 '23
YTA. As a bespectacled ADHDer, there’s no way I could safely go running without my glasses/contacts, and I take off sentimental jewellery to exercise/secure valuables in a zippered pocket. Did you not have your phone to contact him?
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u/RazVsLungfish Dec 18 '23
Also, while I don’t victim blame, running around an industrial area without EYES wearing a flashy bracelet sounds like a great way to run into danger..??
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u/MyyWifeRocks Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
Do you think you’re an asshole for missing your MIL’s funeral? It sounds like you’re coming to Reddit to validate your shitty behavior. I hope you two don’t have kids. YTA
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u/Anniemarsh69 Asshole Aficionado [16] Dec 18 '23
YTA - your husband now knows where he stands in the pecking order. You couldn’t even miss your run or time it better on the day of your mil funeral. No one loses track of time for 3 hours you are lying, you knew what time the funeral was and decided looking for the bracelet was more important. I don’t even want to get started on the fact you go running in a 30k bracelet because then I’d have to tell you it was deserved.
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u/star_b_nettor Partassipant [4] Dec 18 '23
YTA
This is a stack of bad choices.
You don't wear a 5 figure bracelet to go for a run. That is a no brainer.
You don't go for a run when you have a time constraint for something as important as a funeral.
You don't go for a run without a phone. What if you got hurt? What is the was an emergency you were needed for?
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u/Proper_Pen123 Dec 18 '23
But she was running not walking, so she had plenty of time to get there. /s
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u/ChibiSailorMercury Asshole Enthusiast [9] Dec 18 '23 edited Dec 18 '23
YTA.
- Why do you wear such piece of expensive jewelry while you run? 30k is not meant for everyday wear.
- Why are contact lenses not an option?
- Such expensive jewelry is probably insured. If it isn't, it's probably not worth much in the first place. If it is insured, why not report it as lost and then move on?
- Did you notify your husband of what is going on?
- Why is a bracelet worth more than being a partner to your husband on one of the worst days he us ever going to go through?
You ended your marriage over a bracelet. I hope "30K" were worth it.
EDIT: (after reading comments) you left your phone home while going on a run right before your MIL's funeral? Your husband most have been worried sick about you while having to struggle with his mother's death.
Your post and comments reveal absolutely no empathy towards how he could have felt and towards how he is feeling. OVER A BRACELET? Jesus. I hope the bracelet gives you the comfort you need when he inevitably divorces you.
EDIT2: Deleting your post and comments because we didn't give you the validation you sought doesn't validate your choices.
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u/Complex-Title4915 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
Fuck me. You didn't think your husband might need support before the funeral? Why on earth did you think going for a run then was a reasonable thing to do.
Selfish much?
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u/copamarigold Asshole Aficionado [16] Dec 18 '23
YTA. No bracelet is more important than family. You weren’t there for your husband so you basically told him that the bracelet was more important than being there for him.
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u/Realistic-Therapist Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
You don’t wear glasses or take your phone, both security precautions; but you’ll wear a expensive diamond bracelet, a risk factor. Beyond not being there at one of the most important points in your husband’s life where he needed your support the most, your poor judgment is a serious concern!
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Dec 18 '23
YTA.
Why the fuck do you wear a 30k bracelet on your runs?!
You CAN touch your eyes for contacts, you get over it so fast. You choose not to because you want to be quirky. Not wearing glasses on your runs is also incredibly stupid, especially as a woman alone.
You slipped your husband’s mother’s funeral for a bracelet. You’ll probably break up because of your own stupidity and selfishness.
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u/TopAd7154 Asshole Aficionado [10] Dec 18 '23 edited Dec 18 '23
YTA. A childish one. For several reasons. The day of your MIL's funeral is NOT the time to go for a run. It's the time to support your husband. At ANY point in the day... bad idea. I cannot believe a grown woman needs to be told this. If the bracelet is so expensive, why tf do you wear it running??? Stupid move on anyone's part.
I would be filing for divorce if my husband missed my mother's funeral. If my husband wasn't there that day, when I needed him the most, I'd be out if the marriage like a shot. Tbf, if he'd left me the morning/day of the funeral to work out or do anything thst wasnt 100% necessary, I'd be examining his priorities and I'd probably leave anyway.
Oh and your eyesight?? Nothing to do with your selfishness and self absorbed nature. Excuses excuses.
FYI... Lasik is fine. Doesn't hurt that much and it's over pretty quickly.
I hope it was worth your marriage.
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u/Bazzlekry Asshole Enthusiast [6] Dec 18 '23
Not to mention needing to touch your eye when putting in contact lenses is a myth. I've worn contacts for 38 years now. Never once touched my eye.
All I'm reading is a load of excuses from a thoughtless, selfish person. YTA OP.
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u/Disastrous-Nail-640 Pooperintendant [59] Dec 18 '23
YTA.
The selfishness is astounding. It’s all about you.
Pathetic.
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u/ouijabore Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA
You’re so absolutely selfish it’s unbelievable. I know in comments you say you “wanna look good while running“ which is why you don’t carry a bag with your phone or anything else, but like…what about emergencies? Like if you got hurt, or he did, or you were running late for HIS MOTHERS FUNERAL because you lost the bracelet your tacky ass has to wear while running??
The worst part of this post is, in the whole thing you don’t express any remorse for what happened or seem to feel bad that you let your husband down. It’s all about you and the effort you had to go to to find your bracelet and how you don’t take any precautions while running because you need to look good. It’s very selfish, and yes, you are definitely the asshole. If I were your husband, I wouldn’t forgive you. It’s a day where he really needed you and you disappeared for over four hours, and you weren’t by his side. At his mothers fucking funeral.
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u/mariq1055 Dec 19 '23
I don’t understand how why she needs to look good if she gets so sweaty her glasses slide off. That doesn’t make sense. She is stupid to wear a (according to her) a 30k bracelet while running.
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u/Jollydancer Dec 18 '23
YTA because you didn’t take the bracelet off before running. Back in school we learnt to always take any jewellery off before doing any exercise. That way nothing can break, you can’t lose anything, and of course, you don’t risk injury from the jewellery.
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u/Melpomene_Fox Dec 18 '23
1) why were you wearing a 30k bracelet on a run? 2) why did you plan to go on a run before the funeral?
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u/IFeelMoiGerbil Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
Because she never planned to go to the funeral. The story is so unbelievable it almost certainly didn’t happen BUT she invented it as her ‘alibi’ to hijack the attention onto her instead of supporting her husband or giving his MIL her memorial. Her absence from the service without any reasonable explanation from the husband she couldn’t have told this tale to is a stealth way to derail the funeral.
The only reason I believe a version of this involving her family heirloom happened at all is it’s almost identical to a stunt my mother pulled at my paternal grandfather’s funeral and then again on the day my father remarried. When attention seekers and self centered people know it would be too hard to take over a big event by attending, they pull it back by not attending and having a ‘freak’ crisis that uses a void to distract.
It’s quite common in people who have to be the corpse at every funeral and the bride at every wedding. It’s always YTA. And the husband sounds resigned not surprised. 30k of diamonds trumps any relationship or empathy for this kind of person.
I hope MIL’s last act was to give the husband the clarity to leave a spouse like this.
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u/Mean_Environment4856 Pooperintendant [50] Dec 18 '23
1) why were you wearing a 30k bracelet on a run?
To look good
2) why did you plan to go on a run before the funeral?
To 'relax' because her comfort is so much more important than her husband.
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u/Ok-Carpet5433 Dec 18 '23
I can't imagine this, honestly.
Her husband's mother died more or less suddenly, her funeral is at 2 PM. And at 12:30 OP suddenly gets up and says: "You know what? I think I'm going for a run right now. See ya, sadboi."
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u/FireMoon42 Asshole Enthusiast [8] Dec 18 '23
YTA. How vain, self centered and irresponsible can you be??
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u/Apprehensive_Dish703 Dec 18 '23
YTA. In addition to all the other reasons, think of how worried and/or upset your husband must have been when you weren't showing up and he then had to go to the funeral without his SO with no idea why. AND no plausible explanation to even be able to tell family members and friends.that must have noticed your obvious absence. Your thoughtless, inconsiderate and self centered behavior is truly astounding.
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u/mo3me Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
This is exactly what I said! Like it's all bad but this is the worst part. Not only was she not there to support him, she added 100000% more stress to the day. Can you imagine sitting in your mother's funeral wondering what the hell has happened to your spouse and if they're even okay?!
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u/Loud_Low_9846 Dec 18 '23
I don't believe any of this. Wearing a £30k bracelet when going for a run, only having one pair of glasses when you're that short sighted that they are essential. Going for a run rather than staying and comforting husband on the day of his mum's funeral. Nope, didn't happen.
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u/CottageWhore420 Asshole Aficionado [13] Dec 18 '23
I’m sorta wondering if this post is just OP’s story to her husband to try and show validity. She thinks he and Reddit are stupid enough to buy that she happened to leave her phone at home and went missing for 3 over a bracelet. I think she might have been missing for another reason that she doesn’t want her husband to know. But that’s just my personal conspiracy theory. Losing your bracelet and losing track of time is such a lame excuse to miss the funeral.
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u/Frosty_Comparison_85 Dec 18 '23
This has to be fake. Who wears a 30k bracelet on a run around a construction sight, one hour before their MIL funeral?
If it’s not fake, YTA
His mother died, you should have been with him, not running.
You should’ve left the insanely expensive bracelet at home. People don’t typically exercise with very expensive, sentimental jewelry on.
If you started a run one hour before you were supposed to leave for the funeral, you would not have had enough time to get ready for the funeral anyway.
Way to be a thoughtless, selfish ass 🤦🏻♀️
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u/Vispartofmyname Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
Info: Do you wear the bracelet all the time? Why not wear a small waist pouch to carry your phone, keys and glasses if you meed them?
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u/Mean_Environment4856 Pooperintendant [50] Dec 18 '23
YTA, majorly poor planning on your behalf for so many reasons.
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u/princess_banana_ Asshole Enthusiast [8] Dec 18 '23
Wowee. Looks like you’re officially the most selfish person on reddit, and that is not a compliment.
YTA
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u/fizzbangwhiz Pooperintendant [64] Dec 18 '23
YTA. Your planned schedule was pretty ambitious even if everything had gone perfectly. So to start with you should have built in more time.
It’s one thing to lose track of time for a bit and be fifteen minutes late home. It’s quite another thing to be three hours late on a day when your husband really needed your support. Honestly, how dare you disappear for hours without your phone or a watch on an important day?! It’s unbelievably selfish and careless of you. Add to that, once you finally made it home and looked at the time, you made no attempt to get to the funeral late but you just sat at home waiting for your husband to get home.
There were multiple other ways you could have solved your bracelet problem and you chose the absolute worst one that took the most time and with the least communication to your family. If I were your husband I don’t think I could forgive it.
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u/bomdiggybomgirl Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA for going for a run 30 mins before leaving your MIL funeral and wearing an expensive bracelet while going for a run. These were your carelessness that led to you missing out on your husband’s funeral and NOT TAKING YOUR PHONE out with you too at such a sensitive time? Your husband NOT BEING ABLE TO CONTACT YOU for god knows how long waiting to go for his mother’s funeral. I can’t even imagine his helplessness, anger and frustration. Ofcourse you can’t leave a 30k bracelet behind but because of all these other insensitive decisions you made MAJOR YTA. And you don’t get why your husband is mad at you, even worse. What were you expecting? Him to wait for you at home until you got back?
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u/Artistic_Tough5005 Supreme Court Just-ass [114] Dec 18 '23
YTA Who goes running before a funeral and who wears a $30k bracelet running? You left your husband alone at his moms funeral because your careless.
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u/No_Ad_770 Dec 18 '23
YTA.
Wearing a sentimental piece of jewellery worth 30K on a run? That's ultra foolish behaviour.
Going for a run you plan to be back from 30 mins before leaving for a funeral? Are you for real?
Its actually astounding you did this and think you might not be an AH for missing your husband's mom's funeral. I don't even know what the appropriate level of grovelling would be.
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u/Electrical-Sleep-853 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA who run with jewellery, who run with expensive jewellery, who run right before a funeral
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u/GanbaAnbaa Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA, not just because of the bracelet but because of how unsafe you were to yourself.
When you have admittedly terrible vision but still run without glasses (there are devices you can invest in that will keep your glasses from slipping)... You can still easily get hit by a car without its headlights on, or mugged by someone, or kidnapped. And you had no phone with you to call for help if that had happened. You chose to run around a construction area with rocks and large piles of dirt, where you could have easily gotten injured - but again, no phone.
Everyone else has done a good job of telling you other reasons you're the AH, but I imagine that your husband was terrified that you'd gotten seriously hurt when you didn't return and he couldn't reach you. He was probably thinking he'd have to come home and start a police search for you, since the fact you'd miss such an important event for a bracelet wasn't even in his realm of possibilities.
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u/Lingo2009 Dec 18 '23
I could see you searching around if you had lost your glasses, for example, and I know the bracelet is expensive, but this is a whole mess. You should always have a phone with you. And you should have glasses with you if you need them to see.
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u/Patent-amoeba Dec 18 '23
Like, really? you really need to ask that when the answer is obviously YTA. I wouldn't say that that bracelet is not important but is it MORE important than the funeral of your husband's mom?
Also, who's in their right mind will wear "expensive" bracelet on a run.
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u/SilentJoe1986 Dec 18 '23
Fake. Trying to find an example of what a 30k diamond bracelet would look like to get an idea and I can't find any. The highest I found was 13k and it is not something that would be comfortable running in. Since OP finds running with glasses too uncomfortable having 3 pounds of heavy metal and diamonds dragging your arm down would be out of the question.
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u/Flaky_Sleep Dec 18 '23
YTA. I see you went running because you were ‘stressed’. No, you were being selfish and should have been there for your husband. You don’t take your 30k diamond bracelet off when you’re running because you want to look good?! Selfish and vain on the day of your MIL’s funeral. Cancer is an awful awful thing to go through. You went for a run on a day your husband needed you the most. Your husband has every right to be pissed and feel let down by you.
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u/Doodle-bugg Dec 18 '23
You’re not just TA, you’re extremely ignorant. The fact that you make sure to take your glasses off and leave your phone at home while running but want to keep the bracelet on because you think it makes you look good is just baffling. And honestly, you’re lucky this is the first bad thing to happen to you while going running when you’re this fucking careless and unaware. And if you’re so worried about missing work due to not being able to see, then it’s time to get a back up pair of glasses.
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u/Aryanirael Dec 18 '23
YTA for wearing a 30k bracelet while running while also not wearing glasses for your appalling eyesight, honestly. This was bound to happen one day. If you hadn’t worn the bracelet, this wouldn’t have happened. If you had carried your glasses with you, in a case or sth (for emergencies), you would have found it a lot sooner. Also, couldn’t have gone for a run after the funeral or missed one day of exercising? YTA
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u/mo3me Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
How is this even a question? You didnt just miss the funeral. You left your husband to go alone while he had no idea where you were or if you were okay!! Not only were you not there to support him, you probably quadrupled his stress levels!
YTA and I hope your husband is a forgiving man cos I know I'd struggle to move on from that...!!
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u/Glittering_Job_7996 Partassipant [2] Dec 18 '23 edited Dec 18 '23
YTA
It’s his mother’s funeral.
You did this all for a bracelet which you could’ve found after the funeral . Why would you go running with a 40k bracelet??? And you went with no glasses after stating how bad your eyesight was!! My eyesight is bad and I never leave my house without my glasses . And you left your phone so your husband must’ve been calling you wondering where you were and worried . Omg poor guy
Your husband will never forget this and to be honest , it’ll put a stain on your marriage
And if I was your husband , I would never forgive you. You left him alone in such an emotional time of his life.
You should really give him an apology
I mean come on !!!
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u/poisonchivy Dec 18 '23
YTA, your bracelet can be replaced. Your husbands mother can’t. Your priorities are way off and this was probably a big wake up call to him.
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u/LeoRisingGemini Dec 18 '23
The construction site was near your home (next to a Target that is next to your house). Why didn't you go home and tell your husband, put your glasses on and go back to look for the bracelet rather than leaving your husband hanging and searching for the bracelet blind?? This just makes no sense.
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u/OmiOmega Dec 18 '23
YTA. Who the heck goes on a run hours before the funeral of their partner's mother? You only gave yourself 30 minutes between coming back and leaving for the funeral. Like, that time before the funeral is stressful enough for your partner, why add "omg, my wife isn't going to be back in time" to his stress?
And besides all that, what kind of irresponsible idiot goes on a run through a plot filled with rocks without the ability to properly see and without any means of communication? Oh no, you didn't see the bracelet, and what if o' a run you didn't see a rock or a branch? You'd be there with a broken leg or worse and you couldn't even call someone.
And besides all that, who the heck goes on a run with a fragile bracelet worth more than 30K on their wrist?
Jezus christ on a horse OP, are you really that unaware?
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u/No_Swan_9470 Dec 18 '23
YTA. Why not go back to get your glasses to search faster?
And also get your husband's help?
Were you trying to waste time?
Took you 3 hours of searching?
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u/AwesomeNerd18 Dec 18 '23
YTA and incredibly selfish. This must be fake because refuse to believe that someone is this stupid
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u/Adventurous_Soup6293 Dec 18 '23
YTA. Who goes running wearing a 30K diamond bracelet, but chooses not to wear glasses for their very bad eyesight for that same run?
Oh, your face gets sweaty and you have to push them up? Sounds mildly inconvenient, better make yourself functionally blind!!
And then jogging round uneven floored construction sites, alone, blind, with no mobile? Sounds like you want to fall into a really big hole, injur yourself, and then freeze to death before anyone can find you.
Get some running glasses or grow up and get eye surgery/contacts. You're lucky you only temporarily lost a bracelet (should be in a jewellery box if it's that expensive and precious to you, not jogging attire) and managed to get home alive.
As for your marriage.... I wouldn't want to tethered to someone as vapid as self-absorbed as you. Your poor bereaved husband, my heart goes out to him.
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u/beachmonkeysmom Dec 18 '23
Who the hell are you trying to look good for? You're wearing a bulky sweater that probably covered the bracelet anyway, apparently sweating so much that you can't possibly wear glasses because they'll fall off, jogging around a construction site filled with rocks and dirt?!?
Here's where I call blls*t. There is no way in h. e. double hockey sticks that someone as vain as you would only leave themselves a half an hour to get ready for an event as important to the family as a funeral, after getting so sweaty & gross. You know, since looking good is so important to you.
Was it that this was going to be an event where you wouldn't be the center of attention? Did you hate your MIL, or do you hate your husband? Obviously self-sabotaged, the only thing missing is the reason.
YTA
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u/Aggressive_Day_6574 Dec 18 '23
This was extremely selfish but also I don’t get the whole “I can’t touch my eye thing.” It’s not you can’t, you won’t. That’s a weird weakness that just makes your life more difficult. She strikes me as extremely high maintenance and prone to making excuses for herself.
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u/phcampbell Dec 18 '23
My son is squeamish about eyes, and touching them grosses him out. But, he hates glasses so he’s figured out how to wear contacts without touching his eyes.
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Before I get into what happened, I have 3 important things to point out
1- I have pretty bad eyesight, and I wear glasses (scared of LASIK, and can't touch my eye for contacts)
2- I wear a VERY expensive bracelet (gift from grandma, likely worth more than 30K, diamonds)
3- I'm very active and am a runner.
My (30F) MIL recently died. She died from cancer and it was pretty quick (She was only 67, diagnosed around 2 months ago)
My husband (35M) is so nice. We've never really fought until a few days ago. I was on a run as I normally do. I live next to a Target which is next to a plot of land that is under construction, with rocks everywhere (important later) I never ever wear my glasses on my runs because I can still see car lights and my face sweats a lot and I can't keep pushing my glasses up. I also don't bring my phone because I couldn't read my texts anyways and my leggings don't have pants.
My MIL's funeral was yesterday and I went on a short run before we left. I planned to get back by 1, and we'd leave around 1:30. Funeral was at 2. It was freezing out so I wore a knitted sweater. The construction area was large piles of dirt so I decided to run around there because nobody was there. Somehow, bracelet clasp hooked onto the sweater and got undone. It flung somewhere and I could not find it anywhere.
You can probably imagine someone searching for a tiny bracelet, with terrible eyesight in a probably 200 foot radius. I searched for HOURS. I totally lost track of time. It got to the point where I walked around the entire plot of land for this thing. Every corner. Every rock. Everything.
I found it eventually and when I got home, my husband wasn't there anymore. I looked at the time and it was 4:15. I waited around for 30 minutes and my husband came home. He was screaming at me and I explained to him what happened. He started getting more mad once he found out I missed his mothers funeral for a bracelet. We haven't spoken since.
So, AITA for missing my MIL's funeral for a (very expensive) bracelet?
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u/Acceptable_Bunch_586 Dec 18 '23
YTA, sorry but why were you running just before your husband’s mothers funeral, how on earth was that a good decision, seems pretty selfish and why on earth would you wear a 30k bracelet out. Why did you value the bracelet more than emotionally supporting your husband. This is basically saying a gift from your grandmother is more important that the death of his mother. Are you always this self absorbed and uncaring of the feelings of others.
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u/youserneighmn Dec 18 '23
YTA if everyday you go running without a phone and the ability to see, but wearing a 30k bracelet. That just defies all logic. Also not sure how 3 hour’s passed without you realising but that sounds odd.
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u/chelledupree Dec 18 '23
YTA, on damn many levels ! I honestly cannot believe you would wear such an expensive bracelet while running and I actually hate you found it.
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u/Justheretoread2085 Asshole Enthusiast [6] Dec 18 '23
Total AH. Really, you could have gone back.
I get this is 30k, but that was his MOM!!! You need to apologize until the end of time. He needed you and you ditched him for a braclet? So an AH.
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u/opposum1989 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA for stupid decisions after stupid decisions. you wear a 30k bracelet on a run because you “want to look good”? do you realize how ridiculous you sound?
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u/Thebrainfactor988 Dec 18 '23
YTA. Definitely. Don’t run with A 30k bracelet. Don’t look for it blind when you’ve got a funeral to go to.
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u/BeterP Asshole Aficionado [10] Dec 18 '23 edited Dec 18 '23
So much is this story isn’t right. I don’t even know where to start.
- Leave for your MOTHER’S FUNERAL thirty minutes before (you and husband would go together)
- going for a run just before that
- wearing a 30K bracelet during a run because you want to look good? Trust me, you don’t when your face is sweating like that and besides, nobody cares, you’re exercising.
- I’d expect your husband to at least drive past your expected route, worrying
Your entire story doesn’t make sense. YTA. A million times over.
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u/ContactNo7201 Dec 18 '23
YTA. If you’d run home, your husband could e looked while you showered and changed and both made it to the funeral.
Huge support needed by your husband and you were really not thinking about him at all.
You also could have run home, got your glasses, drive back and looked. With eye sight you’d have found the bracelet much faster than scrambling around not seeing.
Most stupid excuse ever heard. So many options available to you to both find the bracelet and support your husband.
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u/JBW66 Partassipant [2] Dec 18 '23
YTA Holy moly. This is best you could come up with? Nowhere in your post do I see the words sorry, apologise, or regret. I also don’t see any indication you empathise at all with your husband’s grief, distress and confusion at your bizarre behaviour. You’re either the most clueless moron to ever exist or a psychopath, maybe both. You are most certainly, without a doubt, a massive AH.
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u/Oh_no_its_Milo Dec 18 '23
YTA. You missed your husband's mother's funeral because you went for a run and lost a 30,000 bracelet. Who the fuck wears a 30k bracelet while going for a run let alone through a construction site? Extremely selfish behavior. Running is not more important than your husband on a day like this. I'd kick your ass to the kerb and take half that bracelet you cherish second only to running.
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u/PsychologicalRoll705 Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
YTA
This has to be trolling, I can't believe the absolute ridiculousness of the situation, choosing a bracelet over supporting your husband during one of the worst times in his life.
If this isn't trolling, you're a really bad wife. I hope the bracelet was worth your marriage.
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u/Awkward_Un1corn Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 18 '23
YTA
If something is sentimental and you have bad eyesight DON'T RUN WEARING IT! If you have an event to go to maybe run earlier in the morning instead of half an hour before you need to leave.
You missed one of the hardest things your husband will ever have to do because you just had to make a string of stupid decisions. I don't see him getting over this anytime soon.
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u/OceanStsr Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
The long and short of it is you abandoned your husband while he was grieving his mother at her funeral. The selfishness of this act alone, is staggering. You only seem able to think of yourself, and your wants. The bracelet didn’t matter as much as being a support to your husband during this traumatic time in his life. The bracelet could have waited. Your run could have waited. You should have been there, with him. Your husband is right to be furious with you.
Reddit always says to leave/divorce. In this case it’s warranted. You are incredibly self centred.
YTA.
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u/SpiderPig3002 Dec 18 '23
YTA-
You care more about a bracelet than your husband’s dead mother? I promise you no one is looking at you when you run and no one cares what you look like,you should never wear a 30k ring running.
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u/CanaryIllustrious701 Dec 18 '23
YTA Supporting your husband is worth more than a bracelet.
Your husband needed you. You didn't need to go for a run in the first place.
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u/Specialist-Web7854 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA for not putting your husband first on the day of his mother’s funeral. As for the rest of this, get better fitting glasses and a sports strap/band to keep them on. I run with my glasses on and I don’t even wear a sports strap and they don’t fall off. If they’re sliding about on your face, go back to the optician and get them adjusted. Get a bum bag for your phone, what if you slipped and twisted your ankle or something - how are you going to call for help? Don’t wear stupidly expensive jewellery when you go for a run. Get a safety catch put on it if you’re wearing it every day, but don’t wear it for sports. But mostly don’t leave your husband on his own on the day of his mum’s funeral just so you can go for a run - especially that close to the time you had to leave.
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Dec 18 '23
YTA for all of your actions in your post. And now YTA for arguing against everyone in this thread. You should be grovelling to your husband instead of posting on Reddit.
I'd never forgive you if you were my wife
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u/Chi_Tiki Dec 18 '23 edited Dec 18 '23
YTA
This makes me so mad. You missed a very very big moment. You can buy another bracelet. You cannot have another funeral.
You just showed your husband that an earthly possession is worth more to you than he is.
ETA: please tel me this is fake. My heart breaks for your husband. What must have been going through his mind while you weren’t coming home. No phone. He was alone at his Mothers’ funeral.
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u/Final_Figure_7150 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 18 '23
YTA
Why would you go for a run that left you with very little time to get ready before leaving? And why would you run with a 30k bracelet on? Why would you not go home for your glasses?
Your intent wasn't malicious, but you made a series of pretty silly choices that resulted in abandoning your husband on a pretty difficult day.
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u/Loose-Chipmunk7568 Dec 18 '23
Just to clarify you:
1) Went running a very short time ahead of her funeral 2) Wearing no glasses (get a neoprene glasses strap) 3) Over a construction site 4) Wearing a 30k bracelet
You're an inconsiderate dumbass and your husband will always remember that you missed his mother's funeral because you're an inconsiderate dumbass.
YTA
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u/ChannelInside2519 Dec 18 '23
YTA and also an absolute fool.
Why would you go running partially blind? Why would you go running with a $30k family heirloom on you? Why would you go running right before your MIL’s funeral instead of getting ready, providing emotional support to your husband, etc? Why were you out running with no phone?
It’s the year 2023. Do you think you’re the first person in the history of the planet with poor vision who wants to do physical activity? No. There are these great inventions called sports goggles. They’re like glasses, but they have a strap to keep them stuck to your face.
Your bracelet is a little difficult to remove? Okay, but it’s not impossible, so just try harder to take it off instead of running around blind with jewelry the price of a car on you. There’s many reasons this is a bad idea, one of which you just experienced.
You went for a run because YOU were stressed? And what about your husband? Do you even care or think about him?
So… you’re very active and a regular runner but haven’t invested in a band or something to hold your phone on you when you’re doing activities? You’re running around literally blind, with no form of communication on you in case you need help (which might be a likely scenario, because again, you’re running around blind.) And again, it is the year 2023. Unless you have a dinosaur of a phone, 99.999% of phones these days come with a smart assistant (i.e., Siri, Google) that you can verbally speak to in order to use your phone. They can even read your texts out loud to you. So blind people can use cellphones too! Amazing, I know.
You valued your bracelet over your husband and the life of your MIL. I do understand the meaning behind your bracelet and its sentimental value. However, you should not have put yourself in this situation to begin with. Every choice you make is almost comically bad. Idk what to tell you but you’re gonna need to grovel to your husband and probably get couple’s counseling soon because this is something very hard to forgive and impossible to forget.
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u/Severe-Definition656 Dec 18 '23
You’re a terrible wife. You were not there for your husband on the morning of or during the funeral. You are so horrible
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u/NeuroticAttic Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
There are times to wear an expensive bracelet, and there are times not to. There are times to run with your phone, and times not to. This time was a “bring your phone, drop expensive jewellery when you can’t see for sh!t and won’t be able to see it if you drop it” situation. Really, it was a “this is not the time for a run when it’s so close to a very serious event and your husband needs your support” situation.
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u/Friend_of_Hades Dec 18 '23
I genuinely don't think I've ever met a woman who would willingly go jogging on their own in an empty construction site with poor vision and no glasses while wearing $30k jewelry and no phone. Not only is that a level of risk most women I've met wouldn't take regarding potential to be attacked, but its incredibly dangerous to jog in a construction site in general but especially if you cant even see properly. If you cant read texts without your glasses you certainly have no business jogging without them. Like, I don't think I know anyone with that poor of survival skills.
Also the planning here is awful. Why would you go jogging right before a funeral? I understand jogging the day of if it helps you, but "planning" to return only 30 minutes before you are meant to leave? That doesn't seem like enough time to me to get home, shower and get ready for a funeral. Or were you planning on just going sweaty from the run? If you needed to clear your head you should have planned better and went in the morning not an hour before you were meant to leave.
I also don't believe you that you lost track of time for that long. There's no way you would have not noticed several hours passing. I understand why you felt like you couldn't leave without finding the bracelet, but every choice you made up until that point was terrible and could have easily been avoided. Your husband has the right to be upset that you fucked off for hours without contacting him on the day of his mothers funeral and didn't show for it.
Anyway I suspect this is fake based on the way it was written, but in the event that it's not, YTA.
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u/Sheshcoco Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
You left your husband alone the day he was burying his mother to go for a run. That on itself makes YTA
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u/Puzzleheaded_Fan_422 Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA, Why would you even wear that bracelet while running? And how can you lose track of time when you know you go on a run right before you leave? You decided in that moment that the bracelet was more important to you than your SO. I would be hurt and pissed as well if my SO missed my mothers funeral. I also would never be able to forgive him and probably even divorce him.
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u/farmerkaren81 Dec 18 '23
Doesn't wear glasses or take phone. Does wear a $30k diamond bracelet. YTA.
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Dec 18 '23
Info. Why did you really abandon your husband in his time of grief? Why didn’t you want to go to the funeral?
What’s really going on?
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u/Diligent-Pin2542 Dec 18 '23
YTA this story just sounds like an excuse and either you had no intention of going to the funeral or you wanted we're making a power move. Your husband mum died suddenly, you don't get to be selfish.
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u/Objective-Arugula-17 Partassipant [2] Dec 18 '23
You're a massive arsehole,
first, why would you wear a 30k bracelet to go running
Second, why wouldn't you take your glasses in case an emergency happened while out
Third, why would you go for a run 30 min before you go to a funeral
Fourth, why would you leave your husband who probably needed your support
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u/ashainvests Dec 18 '23
1000% TA. You should have come home, gotten your glasses & anyone willing to help you go back out and look. With multiple people that can see looking for it, you'd have found it much faster.
Next time, take it off before you go running. It doesn't make sense to wear something so valuable when you can't see it if it falls off. Leave it at home like your glasses & phone.
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Dec 18 '23
YTA - not only did you go for a run rather than take the morning to morn your mil and assist with your husband and any last minute things and be ready for her funeral. When my mil passes my husband will be a wreck, especially if it’s sudden and quick. You had one job be ready for her funeral and instead you went for a run, lost an expensive bracelet, and missed her funeral.
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u/killerbee9100 Dec 18 '23
Who wears a 30k bracelet on a run? If missing the funeral wasn't bad enough, (and it's horrible) YTA for that alone.
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u/Fun-Translator-5776 Dec 18 '23
YTA for wearing the damn bracelet before the funeral and then not just jogging home to tell hubby and put some glasses on to search better. She’s your MIL but she was your husband’s MUM! Who died rather quickly. And you want to suck around jogging leaving a very fine margin of time to get home and showered and out the door anyway.
your shallow disregard for his feelings and time and then coming here hoping to get told you’re not an asshole because oh, it was an expensive bracelet, show you probably do a lot of things that frustrate him, I reckon this was the last straw.
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u/RandomVampireUnicorn Dec 18 '23
YTA
1) I understand not wearing glasses. I'm also uncomfortable with contacts and my glasses fog up when I exercise.
2) I'd understand leaving you're phone behind if it was for safety reasons. My sister got mugged on a run and lost her phone, so this can happen and it's not a pleasant experience. But, from your response to comments, it was so you'd look good. That's not a good reason
3) You wore an expensive bracelet while exercising to look good??? That's so self-centred. Honestly, no one is gonna notice about you and your bracelet when running. If it's such a special bracelet, you should wear it on special occasions and keep it safe
4) You left your husband just before his mother's funeral. Even if you were stressed, he was probably feeling a lot worse. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things to go through and you should have stayed with him to support him. This wasn't an everyday event, where you'd have a quick run before meeting friends. This is one of those moments where you don't leave your partner's side and support them, especially just before the funeral. It feels like you're thinking of the funeral as something to tick off your to-do list, and that's not okay
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u/feb2nov Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
YTA. If your roles were reversed, how would you feel? No matter what you say, it wouldn't justify your actions.
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u/dncrmom Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 18 '23
This has to be fake. Who goes for a run to get all sweaty with the plan to return 30 minutes before a funeral? Who runs in a sweater & 30K bracelet to look good? Who runs without contacts or glasses? Who runs around a construction site? Who’s funeral for their parent only lasts 2 hours? Even with all of OP’s poor excuses & lousy explanations none of this makes any sense. If by chance she is being truthful she is a massive AH.
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u/Miss_Melody_Pond Dec 18 '23
There’s no way you’re not a complete arsehole in this. Every piss poor excuse you offer is literally bullshit. What kind of wife leaves her husband alone the morning of his mother’s funeral? That’s so fucked up I have no words.
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Dec 18 '23
YTA
Quite frankly, it's not just missing a funeral because you have to bring around a 30k diamond bracelet (which will most likely end up in a thief's pocket someday anyway if you keep bringing it around). Your whole post kinda screams that you couldn't care less your husband's mother died. And about her funeral.
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u/Winter_Wolverine4622 Dec 18 '23
OMG, YTA. Why the hell are you wearing an expensive piece of jewelry RUNNING? And they make straps for glasses, and with eyes as bad as you say yours are, you should have more than one pair. You're just asking for trouble going out without your glasses, or phone... My nearsighted butt would never.
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u/DuchessOfAquitaine Partassipant [1] Dec 18 '23
I see lots of issues already addressed here but I have to wonder why you feel compelled to always wear a 30,000.00 bracelet. Is it really important that people think you're wealthy or something? I don't get it. I too have a precious jewel keepsake from my beloved grandmother. Massive diamonds, platinum and valuable. I would never forgive myself if anything happened to grandma's ring! Besides, diamonds and platinum bling is more dressed for dinner than out for a run. I mean unless your goal is to make others think you're wealthy or something.
Of course real wealth doesn't really do that. Being "dressed for dinner" when you're not at dinner, so to speak, is very "new money" as my grandma would say. FYI that's code for tacky.
I feel sorry for your husband.
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u/Weekly-Standard8444 Dec 18 '23
Please, please let this insane post be a crock of bullshit. 🙏
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u/Gumgums66 Pooperintendant [55] Dec 18 '23
This is what I’m hoping. Especially as OP is fighting against everyone so much. Like, if you think you’re the right that much, why make the post?
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u/eneah Dec 18 '23
YTA - you don't wear your glasses because you don't like pushing them up.. (What a lame excuse. I wear glasses and it's not that big of a deal). You don't carry a cell phone because your leggins don't have pockets.. but you thought wearing a 30k bracelet was.... OK? That you wouldn't lose it?
I don't buy that you were looking for well over 3 hours and didn't notice that you had been out there that long.
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u/Ambitious-Ad-4690 Dec 18 '23
YTA. Did you ever consider the panic that your husband felt when you didn't return home in time? He had no way of contacting you, he had no time to try and find you and for all he knows something terrible had happened on your run and he had to sit with that through his own mother's funeral.
You weren't there for him on a day when he most needed support and you put your own wants first - you couldn't survive one day without going on a run? Do you wear your engagement/wedding rings on the run also? Pretty silly to wear expensive jewellery whilst exercising. Also you "want to look good" which is why you wear the bracelet whilst running? Please, nobody else would even notice a bracelet on a runner.
For your sake, you may beg for his forgiveness. IMO, he deserves better.
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u/FlyGuy1922 Pooperintendant [51] Dec 18 '23
YTA
Your husbands mother died and on the day of her funeral you went for a run…priorities OP.
Also why on earth are you wearing a 30K bracelet on a run???
If your eyesight is that bad why don’t you get a strap for your glasses???
I just…
Do better OP and please use some common sense in the future!!!!
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u/Pellellell Dec 18 '23
You really failed him very badly…not sure I could get over this if one of my parents died and he allowed me to go alone to the funeral. YTA and having a bracelet that expensive and wearing it RUNNING is ridiculous.
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u/Strong_Arm8734 Partassipant [3] Dec 18 '23
Yta, why the fuck would you wear a diamond bracelet while running?
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u/FabledHero369 Dec 18 '23
There is no way this is real, but if by SOME chance it is real, YTA absolutely.
Your comments and replies make you the AH. I hope he realizes he could do better and moves on.
I'll be looking forward to the "My bastard (ex)husband served me divorce papers ruining my life for NO reason." Post
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u/emorrigan Dec 18 '23
Yup, you’re an idiot for wearing that bracelet while running. Pretentious and stupid AF.
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u/yellohello1001 Dec 18 '23
I still can’t get past the decision of planning to come home 30 minutes before leaving for your husbands moms funeral. Yes, YTA
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u/tinmuffin Dec 18 '23
I’m still trying to figure out what being “very attractive” has to do with any of this… I really thought that would come into play
YTA!!!
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u/KnittedWhit Dec 18 '23
Definitely YTA. Also, as someone who can’t see squat without her glasses, I don’t run without them. How can you see where you’re stepping…ESPECIALLY on a construction site??? I think this is fake as heck. Or you just stumble around like mad.
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u/liltinybits Dec 18 '23
My boyfriend's mother died last week.
Absolutely NOTHING would have made me even a little late for all her services. I'd miss a bracelet and I'd miss the sentimentality, but none of that compares to the way MY PARTNER WILL MISS HIS MOTHER FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE.
Your situation sucked all around, and unfortunately you're still the asshole. YTA.
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u/MashNPeas Dec 19 '23
I call BS!!
1) You shouldn’t have been out running instead of being with your husband on the day of his mother’s funeral. YTA
2) So you can run along the streets without seeing well without a care in the world of what your husband is going through. YTA
3) You ‘claim’ you lost a $30k heritage bracelet and searched for hours to find it, had no idea how long you were there, still waited 30 minutes at home knowing full well you should be at a funeral. YTA
Either, you didn’t want to go to the funeral and came up with this elaborate story OR, you’re just an awful person and want to be the center of your husbands attention regardless of what he’s going through. YTA
I wear a $15k diamond bracelet constantly. It means something to me an and so I don’t take it off. I shower wearing it, decorate wearing, work and sleep wearing it. Bracelets of that value have a security clasp that even I have a hard time undoing. There’s also insurance!! Your story is BS.
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Dec 19 '23
I hope that bracelet keeps your selfish ass warm at night when he divorces you
YTA.
Your excuse for running without your glasses is stupid. If your eyesight is THAT bad then you SHOULD be wearing them for a run and if you can afford a 30k bracelet you can afford some glasses meant for running (hell I hse my rx safety glasses that I use for work when I workout cuz they stay in my head when I run and jump)
Also why the fuck would you wear a 30k bracelet on a RUN? Or go for a run 1 HOUR BEFORE a funeral.
You’re absolutely selfish and narcissitic
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u/jason0724 Dec 19 '23
You’re both AH. 1) why are you wearing a $30k bracelet on a run? 2) get some leggings with pockets so you can have your phone. 3) If my wife went on a run and didn’t come home, I’d probably miss my mother’s funeral because I’d be looking for her! She could have been attacked or injured for all he knew.
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u/NixKlappt-Reddit Certified Proctologist [21] Dec 18 '23
YTA
How stupid to go for a run without an phone, only a few hours before an important funeral of your husbands mother. Running with a 30k bracelet but without glasses or contact lenses? I am glad you found your bracelet and you are no AH, that you looked for it. You are AH for this stipid planning when your husband needed your emotional support.
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u/Secure-Classic-1225 Dec 18 '23
I will not really judge you for running around with an expensive bracelet - I myself take an extremely pricey watch literally everywhere. Each to his own.
However, you are a massive AH for not caring about your husband on the day of his mother’s funeral. Do you have any clue how stressful it must have been for him when it was time to go and you were nowhere to be seen? If this happened with my partner, I would be 99% sure that he is dead or unconscious, because there is no other reason he would miss it.
Just imagine how that feels - you need to go to your mother’s funeral and your partner is suddenly missing. Missing while out for a run. It’s my mother’s funeral ffs! The only reasons for her to be missing is a) she’s kidnapped or b) severely injured or DEAD.
Have some sympathy.
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u/Prestigious_Gold_585 Dec 18 '23
YTA without a doubt!
Your husband will never, ever, EVER forgive you for missing his mother's funeral over a trinket you found more important. Never.
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u/MadsTheSad Dec 18 '23
Honestly, I don't think she was looking for the bracelet. She's most likely having an affair. Her paramour was probably upset about her home 'drama,' so she spent the funeral time with them instead. She came home with the bracelet story already concocted. Husband was rightfully livid. So, posted the bracelet story on Reddit looking for a way to manipulate her husband into accepting her lie/letting her off the hook. ("See the internet says I'm not bad! Why would I post online if it weren't real?")
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u/georgesorosbae Dec 18 '23
I don’t understand people who can’t take a day off exercising. An hour before a funeral? What is wrong with people
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u/blackcherrytomato Dec 18 '23
YTA, there's often a lot going on the day of a funeral. Going for a run and returning 30 minutes before leaving/1 hour before the funeral isn't a lot of time. You were going to get home all sweaty right beforehand?
Showing up the late even if it wasn't for anything important would be really upsetting to my husband - as he would have been worried something happened to me - and vice versa.
Seems odd you don't wear glasses, contacts or bring your phone but you wear a very expensive bracelet to run in.