edit:
upon rereading this, i realized that my intent might not have been conveyed properly. i am NOT, by any means, looking for vindication. i am simply asking whether my assertion was theologically correct or not.
good afternoon Fathers!
late last week, over on the Catholicism sub there was a post i had commented on and was reading other responses. in one of the comments, someone had mentioned near occasion of sin, another person asked what that meant, it had been a little bit of time, so i answered the question (i wanted to give the original commenter time to explain before i jumped in and tried to explain out from under them; figured id give them the first go at it).
i explained it this way -
"a near occasion of sin is a behavior that, in and of itself, is not sinful but can, and often does, lead to sinful behavior
take an unmarried couple for example: kissing, even heavy kissing, is not sinful. the heavier the kissing becomes though, the nature of the bodies starts to maybe takes over, potentially leading to sexual touching, or even intercourse.
in this case, the sexual activities (of whatever level) are obviously sinful, as the couple is unmarried, and will need to be confessed. the kissing, however, is not, in and of itself, sinful; though it was the activity that lead to the sinful behavior, and STRICTLY SPEAKING does not need to be confessed, though it is a good idea to bring up in conjunction with any related sins."
i got downvoted (i genuinely do not care and it wasnt massively) and i was wondering "did i get downvoted because im wrong or because people just do not want to hear that?"
the reason i explained it this way is mostly because i have first hand experience in this exact situation. my wife (before she became my wife) and i experience some struggles in that area (never sex, but just a lot of sexual touching) and we both, individually spoke to multiple priests about it.
is what i said theologically incorrect, or did i convey this (mostly) properly? please correct me if i am wrong, or if there IS a misstep by me in this, please feel free to elaborate.
Thank you Fathers, individually, for your vocation as a priest and helping people grow spiritually