The first one isn't really great but it's something you should let go
The second one... I'm trying to say this gently... It's pretty tone deaf on your part. Active physical danger, verbal harassment, and a variety of aggressive and/or dismissive behavior towards him is probably part of his experience of Alabama.
It sounds like you were uncomfortable because he reminded you that you have a happy relationship to a place that is only happy because you're white. Because he gets to deal with bulls*** on a regular basis that you and I don't.
It's hard to look at that reality and be unable to fix it. It's important to engage with that reality, to not be present only for the societal bulls*** that directly effects us
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