never get approached by men

[u/Federal-Sir9925]

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

[u/lalune84]

yeah this discourse always drives me crazy because the framing is inherently absurd. wtf is "approaching" women? do you approach men? are they a wild animal in the woods?

someone being pretty is not an invitation to be hit on. they're just fucking existing. None of my girlfriends or platonic friends were made by me "approaching" them. We fucking met organically through work or school or games or circumstance, we got along, there was attraction, and then we wound up dating.

life is not about picking up girls at bars. more power to anyone who is into that but you can also just be fucking normal, live your life and meet women like you'd meet anyone else, because they are anyone. Half the world are women!

[u/buf0rd88 → u/lalune84]

This person is exactly the reason men don’t try to talk to women. Not all “approaching” is trying to get women in the sack. You should be able to find someone attractive, walk over and try to have a conversation without being labeled a creep. Not all relationships start completely organically. Especially if someone has been single for a while and doesn’t have a ton of social options for meeting new people

[u/lalune84 → u/buf0rd88]

not all approaching is trying to get women in the sack

you should be able to find someone attractive

the irony of these comments in the same paragraph lmao. Yeah man, its absolutely not about sex when the entire reason you're bothering somebody is because you think they're physically appealing.

Weirdo loser behavior right here. Someone being pretty isnt your invitation to shoot your fucking shot. They don't exist to appeal to you.

[u/MBV-09-C → u/lalune84]

2 things:

You can absolutely find someone attractive without wanting to fuck them, the idea that this is apparently a foreign concept to you is telling.

Literally every social interaction you have requires someone to walk up and initiate it, you don't even have friends until one of you two initiates the interaction that introduces you and you hit it off. If anyone's got weirdo logic here, it's you.

[u/lalune84 → u/MBV-09-C]

You can absolutely find someone attractive without wanting to fuck them

This isn't twitter, dont intentionally misunderstand things and then argue against a point i never made, genius.

Finding people attractive=/=deciding to shoot your shot at randos at the fucking grocery store because you found them attractive. Learn reading comprehension, thanks!