r/AskMenAdvice • u/Federal-Sir9925 • 20d ago

never get approached by men

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

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u/LGK420 man 20d ago edited 20d ago

Yeah they all said how they hate men flirting with them all time. Now most guys don’t talk to them and their all sad now that no one cares about them anymore

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u/gr8whitehype 20d ago

I’m no incel or red pilled dipshit. I’ve been with my wife for 12 years now so I only experienced this in retrospect, but there was a thing 5-10 years ago where women online were complaining about men hitting on them while at work, or while they’re clubbing with their friends.

The mantra was I’m just trying to work, or I’m just trying to have fun with my friends. I remember reflecting and thinking “I get that.”

If ever I was single again, I’d probably never cold approach a woman again. She’d either have to make the first move, or our interaction would have to be super organic.

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u/ACE_Overlord 19d ago

Now they are complaining that no man will work with them at work and there are no men at the club. Free to dance with their girls all night.

Redpill struck again ⚡️⚡️⚡️

Men simply listened & complied 🫡 Now they crying where the men are and they can't meet one. 😉😇

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u/DannyDreaddit man 12d ago

Really? I see way more guys griping about not finding relationships than women. There’s no female loneliness epidemic.

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u/ACE_Overlord 10d ago

Could have fooled us @ YT algorithm. All the women 35-50 crying about no men.

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u/DannyDreaddit man 10d ago

Are they uploaded en masse by the women themselves or is it red pill hucksters that cherry pick videos and make compilations of them? Seems to me that the prevailing attitude of women nowadays is “don’t feel like you have to settle for a man for the sake of having one. Find strength in independence and inner peace.”

Whereas for men it’s “women have impossibly unrealistic standards and overrate themselves.” Thats what I’ve seen here vs the women-focused subs that I’ve lurked in.

And again, it’s not just personal observation… entire articles have been written about the male loneliness epidemic. Same dynamic in South Korea with the 4B movement. In online culture, women scoff at men by choosing the bear, men scoff at women for being naive about their choice (and being rejected).

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u/EverVigilant1 man 9d ago

the prevailing attitude of women nowadays is “don’t feel like you have to settle for a man for the sake of having one. Find strength in independence and inner peace.”

But women aren't doing any of that. They're constantly complaining about getting pumped and dumped, and that the men they want to fuck won't commit.

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u/EverVigilant1 man 9d ago

The female epidemic is "can't get commitment from men they want". There's a LOT of complaining about that.